Do you mind someone to think you queer?

[SnoopDog]

Are you offended when you realize someone believes you are gay (or straight for that matter) but you are not? Does it bother you that you seem to show the wrong 'signals'? Does it make you uncomfortable with yourself and do you want to change things?

Or don't you even care at all?

Some people think that I'm gay. I guess it because they know I've never had sex or kissed a girl and hence the association. At first I have to say I was kinda bothered and worried by that fact. Which was strange given the fact that I never had any prejudices or problems with gay people. But now I've come to terms with it and I no longer care. Sometimes I even pull fun at the fact by 'behaving' a little bit gay?

What about?

Or are you so obviosuly straight/gay that noone ever mistook you for the other?

Snoopy, curious little puppy

 

[Svenskaflicka]

Honestly, I do get a little uncomfortable. Not that it has happened very often, but still.
Embarrassing, really. I try to be open-minded, but I guess I still have a lot to learn.

 

[lucky-E-leven]

Not bothered by it until they begin treating me different or less than equal. It would depend on that person's importance in my life, really. I do tend to ignore the assumptions/opinions of those that don't have the decency to get to know me first or don't even bother to ask.



The important thing is that you know your status. Everything else is moot.

~lucky

 

[cloudy]

As far as I know, no one's ever thought of me as lesbian, but it wouldn't bother me if they did. Cool peeps, as far as I'm concerned.

 

[SnoopDog]

The important thing is that you know your status. Everything else is moot.

~lucky

So true.

Snoopy

 

[lucky-E-leven]

For what it's worth, I think you're a cutie. I know it's frustrating to feel so out of the loop with relationships & sex, but in my experience, the best things happen to you when you least expect them or when you're not seeking them. I say, know yourself, own who you are with an air of confidence and you'll be surprised by how attractive women find that.



~lucky

 

[davidwatts]

It's worse if they don't think about you at all as any variety.

 

[SnoopDog]

For what it's worth, I think you're a cutie. I know it's frustrating to feel so out of the loop with relationships & sex, but in my experience, the best things happen to you when you least expect them or when you're not seeking them. I say, know yourself, own who you are with an air of confidence and you'll be surprised by how attractive women find that.



~lucky

for that.

Snoopy

 

[SadieRose]

Be yourself you can be no other.

It used to worry me an awful lot what people thought of me as a child and a teenager especially, so much so that it ruined that time of my life completely. Now that I've come to realise that the labels people stick on us are just that... identifiers... comfort zones so that they can feel more secure about themselves, I am finally at ease with who I am: Sadie Rose, slightly over weight, 36 going on 19, bisexual, neurotic smut-writer.
And everyone in my life knows it. They can like it or get over it, so far as I can see.

It's not what they think, sweetheart. It's what YOU think.

Love yourself, unconditionally.

*mwah*

Sadie xx

 

[OhMissScarlett]

One of my best female friends has very short hair and doesn't wear make-up, often she dresses in jeans, t-shirts, and boots; she is straight. I am a girl who always wears make-up and has long hair; I'm bi. Sometimes my friend and I take my four year old son shopping. He likes to hold hands with both of us at the same time, giving us the appearence of the perfect lesbian couple. It's great, people stare and gawk at us in the small town we live in. We get a good laugh out of it. If she'd only make out with me.

 

[LadyJeanne]

Snoops, your AV shows a very handsome young man, with the most charming flushed cheeks. And I know from your posts that you are sensitive and thoughtful and kind. All you need is a smile to attract anyone you want.

 

[Colleen Thomas]

I never cared what other's thought about me. My grandfather instilled in all his grandkids the concept that people who judge you aren't worth your time. Your freinds never will and everyone else can take along walk on a short pier.

 

[SeaCat]

Another male checking in.
Snoop,

As far as I'm concerned there are a total of two people who need to worry about my sexuality. Myself and my wife. Outside of that who gives a flying fuck at a rolling donut? I know what am as does my wife. A slightly warped highly sexual hetero male who just doesn't worry about what other people put in there bodies or where they put their body parts.

As far as your situation goes, laugh it off. Do you kow what you are? you seem to. That's all that matters. If your friends give you shit about it, well then they aren't really your friends are they? If you're worried about a woman getting the wrong idea then she isn't a woman you want to be involved with. She's a girl who is still learning and doesn't know what or who she is.

Just my humble opinion.

Cat

BTW, My wife just looked at your AV and whistled. No higher compliment can be given.

 

[ravenmx]

I have always been of the mind that as long as I am happy with who I am that is all that really matters.

It is hard when people choose to think of you as some on your not or don't like you because of who you are, but I don't go home and sleep with those people so in the end I figure as long as I am happy and those closest to me are happy that is all that counts.

From your AV you are a good looking guy. Be happy with yourself.

 

[curious2c]

Heh...I work at a mine around some...well...good 'ol boys. I got my ear pierced ten years ago...but rarely wore an earring at work due to the dirty atmosphere...one day I came in on shift on the same day I flew in and had an earring in. Left ear by the way...

"What...are you gay or what?"

"Why?"

"Well, you're wearing that faggot earring in your left ear...doesn't that mean you're gay or something?"

"Nah...it just means that I'm comfortable in my sexuality."

End of conversation...he didn't know what to say to that at all.

It didn't bother me except for the fact that it was seen as an issue...my sexuality is up to me, not to him. It doesn't 'rub' off on him...doesn't even affect him in any way.

Other than that...I am comfortable in my sexuality. I happen to like...girls though.

 

[rgraham666]

I've had it happen.

At one place I worked, one person was convinced I was gay. Treated me like shit, always lisping at me.

I show up at the company Christmas party with my fiancee. Who was quite obviously female. The rest of the night was spent listening to this guy's mental gears grind as he twitched at random intervals.

It was fun.

Snoop, people can only say two things about you. Either it's true and you're proud of it. Or it's a lie, in which case why should you give a shit?

 

[minsue]

I never cared what people thought about whether I was straight, bi, or gay. I only minded when people thought I was a guy.

 

[Boota]

My dad used to say he thought I was gay because I was celibate. He just couldn't imagine a man who wouldn't do absolutely anything to get pussy. LOL.

As far as I know no one has ever thought I was gay, but I have claimed to be gay to make gay bashers shit themselves. I'm a very big and scary guy in real life. I have a friend who is gay and he was getting fucked with by a big group of rednecks. They were calling him "faggot" and pushing him around, so I stepped in. They didn't want any part of fighting me and they said they were only treating him bad because he was gay. So I said, "So am I! Come get some! After I beat your asses I'm going to fuck them!" They left. And I don't care if they really thought, or think, that I'm gay.

Back when I was hell on wheels I had long hair. I used to tie my hair back in pink ribbon before I would go out on the days where I really wanted to fight. LOL. It worked EVERY SINGLE TIME!

 

[ElizabethWest]

When I was much younger and very naïve, I went on a date with a lesbian. I just didn't realize it at the time. She asked me to dinner and being in a new town, I accepted because I had no friends there. I just thought she was being nice when she paid the check.

Hindsight is 20/20, but I have no idea if she thought I was gay or not. No one has ever told me I looked like a lesbian although my husband seems to think I'm a man trapped in a woman's body. Which is a whole other issue entirely.

 

[yui]

I only minded when people thought I was a guy.

*snort* Excuse my crudity, but bullshit, min. I've seen some your AV and I don't think anyone is going to think you are anything but all woman.

 

[minsue]

*snort* Excuse my crudity, but bullshit, min. I've seen some your AV and I don't think anyone is going to think you are anything but all woman.

Well, sure, when I'm naked.....

Thanks, sweetie It doesn't happen much anymore, but happened more times than I can count when I was in my late teens and didn't start tapering off til I was in my twenties. *shrug*

 

[Huckleman2000]

I've had a lot of gay friends over the years, and have done theater, and am fond of show tunes, and like to dance sometimes. I also like football and golfing and Springsteen. Once in college I spent New Year's Eve in a gay disco when I went to the big city with two gay friends to see a girl, and wound up in a snowstorm. It was an absolute riot, and I got drunk and high and kissed a cute guy at midnight, and he was a good kisser, and I didn't find it arousing at all.

So, I guess I'm not gay, or even bi, for that matter. I'm open minded though, and sometimes I decide that my personal grooming is important, so sometimes a guy will hit on me. One time, I had just bought my house, and I was feeling good about myself, and I was looking at Architectural Digest in the supermarket - apparently, that must be some sort of coded signal or something. I was flattered, actually. Just not interested.

 

[elsol]

Never had the problem...

For the most part, I think the ever-present porn and the way I react to women gives the 'straighthood' away.

It would take some serious double-think for someone to think I was gay... not to mention the women dropping and rolling around laughing hysterically when someone suggested it would embarrass the poor individual who vocalized said thought to no end.

Actually, I'm wrong... my mom thought I was gay because I didn't bring any girls home. My cousin had to explain it to her.


Sincerely,
ElSol

 

[yui]

Well, sure, when I'm naked.....

Thanks, sweetie It doesn't happen much anymore, but happened more times than I can count when I was in my late teens and didn't start tapering off til I was in my twenties. *shrug*

I have been mistaken for a boy, too. If you can't see my hair and I'm in a sports bra (completely obliterating my chest), t-shirt, and running shorts, I look a bit like Gackt or Kubozuka Yosuke (only not nearly as pretty).

I don't know that I've ever had someone randomly think I was a lesbian, but I do know my ex-husband held that hope near and dear to his heart. I've been hit on by women, but it was at a gay bar, so I don't know if that counts. It was fun to flirt.

 

[rikaaim]

I have been mistaken for a boy, too. If you can't see my hair and I'm in a sports bra (completely obliterating my chest), t-shirt, and running shorts, I look a bit like Gackt or Kubozuka Yosuke (only not nearly as pretty).

I don't know that I've ever had someone randomly think I was a lesbian, but I do know my ex-husband held that hope near and dear to his heart. I've been hit on by women, but it was at a gay bar, so I don't know if that counts. It was fun to flirt.

I too hold the same dream and hope of my wife. I think all men do to some degree. I just wanna watch.