Do you masterbate in front of you spouse?

[Bandit58]

On a bit heavier note...

Masturbation is a deeply personal and intimate thing. There is a unique truth revealed in the act of self-pleasure, especially when performed alone.

Whether it be one of those damn-I'm-so-horny-I-have-to-cum-now quick orgasms or a slow teasing exploration of your body that builds into a delicious melting of the mind and body, it is very personal.

You free yourself to indulge in the most private of fantasies and pleasures. Sometimes those thoughts and feelings would make us embarrassed or maybe even ashamed but in the right setting we can welcome them, even encourage them.

Alone with your most inner self and exploring your own mind and body. A real honesty there. An inescapable truth of our pure selves. Lusty, naughty, sensuous, hard, raw, soft, blissful...the entire rainbow of emotions and sensations can be found in masturbation.

So it is no wonder it is such an incredible turn on to us personally as well as with another. But by that same token, it is no wonder some people find it incredibly hard to share this side of themselves with another.

Sure enough there are those who find it wrong, naughty, nasty, even those who find it cheating. I'm not sure how to work through those emotions and ideas but I can try to understand where they come from.

I'm an extremely sexual person who has been masturbating as long as I can remember so it can be difficult for me to relate to other's reservations about such things. I am fortunate in that I have a wonderful wife who enjoys our sexual journey. Thankful masturbation is a large part of that journey.

Just a mad rambling...lol

Thank you Limbhugger......
This is one thing I have to overcome. I was brought up with the attitude that "nice girls don't", so I didn't even have an orgasm until I was 22. My ex considered it "cheating" if I masturbated, like I was taking something away from him, so I ended up feeling incredibly guilty if I indulged in it. I still did it anyway......and I love it......but to share something incredibly personal even with the man I love so much, is hard for me.

Though when He is Master, I do it, and really enjoy it.......because He desires it. LOL maybe I am strange......

 

[sheath]

And what a beautiful mad rambling it was, Limbhugger.

S.

 

[fille]

My husband and I both masturbate while the other watches, or sometimes at the same time. Personally, I think it is very hot to watch a man stroke his own hard cock. I enjoy laying the side of my face on his stomach and flicking my tongue over the head while he does it.

 

[ReadyOne]

Does it count when SO is trying to get herself off when I'm teasing her and won't let her cum then?

Ocassionally I slip and she gets a hand or some object close enough to her pussy to get over the edge...

 

[angela146]

Same here, we get off on watching each other. One favorite possition is to have our legs spread wide, our bottoms almost touching and being able to touch each other with our hands.

Just like hubby and me.

We also do it one at a time a lot. In fact, we masturbate with each other more than we screw by about 3 to 1.

 

[angela146]

Masturbation is a deeply personal and intimate thing. There is a unique truth revealed in the act of self-pleasure, especially when performed alone.

And the intimacy of it is why it is so good to do it with your lover. Masturbating with my husband is opens up my deepest most personal self which is exactly what I want with him.

 

[angela146]

I was brought up with the attitude that "nice girls don't"

Mom went a step further. I was spanked when I got caught.

The freedom of being able to do it openly with my husband was (and still is) incredible.

 

[mrguitarmn]

I love masturbating and have been doing it since I can remember being able to get it up. One of my all time favorites is jackin while she's jillin' Love to watch and like to be watched as long as she's getting off too. I would love to pm some more fantasy masturbatory type stuff on pm if any ladies would like that.

 

[yaspis]

No, I like pleasing myself beside him.

 

[mrguitarmn]

Oh sorry to answer the question...
Yes but rarely do we watch each other
we normally do it next to each other ...
in the dark or under covers
she's shy

 

[Derya]

not married but

With a partner I like both watching and being watched. I find it hot as hell to watch a man pleasure himself and I enjoy the submission feelings and exhibitionist part I guess of being watched. I've done it on various occasions with various partners but have usually found it a little difficult to bring up trying. I would love to do it more often than I've had the opportunity to. It seems in my experience that most males enjoy watching...never met any that thought it odd or unusual or anything and a lot of females are more hesitant to have a male watch. Maybe that's a whole cultural conditioning thing?

 

[SlickTony]

Yes, all the time; it gets incorporated into sex.

 

[fresh_air_2000]

Re: not married but

With a partner I like both watching and being watched. I find it hot as hell to watch a man pleasure himself and I enjoy the submission feelings and exhibitionist part I guess of being watched. I've done it on various occasions with various partners but have usually found it a little difficult to bring up trying. I would love to do it more often than I've had the opportunity to. It seems in my experience that most males enjoy watching...never met any that thought it odd or unusual or anything and a lot of females are more hesitant to have a male watch. Maybe that's a whole cultural conditioning thing?

I think you are quite right - us guys love (speaking for myself anyway) to see a woman masturbate. Any guys who haven't, by the way, try and get the chance, watch and learn! It's a rewarding experience on and offline. OK, cut the crap: it gets me horny.

 

[Cardinal]

We tried the bottom to bottom thing last night but ended up playing with each other, it got us both very hot. What a great way to start! and a great way to finish!

 

[BlueSugar]

It drives us both crazy and rarely get to orgasm... then we do a little bickering on who is hornier then the other and who gets to go down on the other first (sometimes, that part is quite funny) ... usually when that happens we'll settle for a 69 or he just throws me down - and then it gets interesting.

Sometimes I'll call him up and say I need him in the worst way, and as I masturbate I tell him what I want, or what he'd be doing to my body ... hes usually at work or at the apartment on one of those nights I have to work on things and get distracted so I sleep at my place instead, and I'm calling him on a break from my work to let him know how much I miss him...

 

[SlvrTongueDevil]

Again, was surprised that it turned her on to watch me ... and I knew I'd enjoy watching her. The "tip off" was when I was fingering her and got up on my knees over her ... then started jerking off in front of her face. Her eyes got wide as saucers, I swear she kept licking her lips, and she came in no time flat. After that, mutual (and self) stimulation is definitely a part of "the norm"!

 

[ammre]

unfortunatelly.. i feel uncomfortable about it. I used to please myself when i was young.. i didn't know what i was doing, i just knew it felt good... my mom was pretty good about it. instead of yelling at me for doing it altogether she jsut told me to do it in my room and not do it infront of people... Not to mention i feel i do it weird... If only it were so easy as laying on my back and rubbing. So i do it weird AND i've been told not to do it infront of others...
I was finally able to do it under the covers after a year and several months with my last S.O. Now i'm starting a new and i'm even more self-concious this time.
I haven't gotten myself off, even alone, in the last 3 and a half weeks and counting... Me and my body are not on speaking terms for some reason.
I now have a Dom and i'm worried he'll ask me to get myself off, and it's not like you can just say "uh no".

watching them do it... well it dosen't necissarally DO anything for me but if they get their rocks off on someone watching i'll do it.

 

[Cardinal]

bump

 

[white_mage_goddess]

I adore watching my guy masturbate...it makes me horny as hell. He also loves watching me and since I'm a bit of an exhibitionist, I love showing off for him. I've never understood women's problems with this stuf...I mean you'll let him fuck your pussy/ass/mouth but you won't let him watch you fuck yourself? It just never made any sense to me. But then I was raised in a family where sex was not considered "dirty" or "shameful." My mother was very open about talking to me about sex and answering my questions.

 

[Bandit58]

I adore watching my guy masturbate...it makes me horny as hell. He also loves watching me and since I'm a bit of an exhibitionist, I love showing off for him. I've never understood women's problems with this stuf...I mean you'll let him fuck your pussy/ass/mouth but you won't let him watch you fuck yourself? It just never made any sense to me. But then I was raised in a family where sex was not considered "dirty" or "shameful." My mother was very open about talking to me about sex and answering my questions.

My upbringing was totally different, my parents never talked to me about sex. When I asked what periods were (I was about 8) she said she'd tell me when I was older, well that immediately got me to thinking it must be something taboo or dirty which has stuck with me much as I wish it didn't.

So I associated anything with "that place" as being dirty or shameful. It's taken me years to be comfortable with masturbating alone (thanks to an ex who made me feel guilty for pleasuring myself )

It is strange that I can let Gil do stuff to me but I'm shy about letting him watch me pleasure myself......I still blush when he watches me strip or walk around nude, even though it's getting easier as we get more comfortable with each other. I'm sure I will be able to eventually, as he says "in time". Can't undo a lifetime of conditioning overnight......

 

[AV guy II]

We mutually masturbate when we watch xxx videos. We'll ask each other if we like whats on the screen. She has a full collection of toys, and uses them freely. She loves it when I stroke myself, but she has never let me finish myself. She has said she gets so hot, she needs me inside her. Hopefully some day I'll get to finish myself in front of her.

 

[white_mage_goddess]

My upbringing was totally different, my parents never talked to me about sex. When I asked what periods were (I was about 8) she said she'd tell me when I was older, well that immediately got me to thinking it must be something taboo or dirty which has stuck with me much as I wish it didn't.

So I associated anything with "that place" as being dirty or shameful. It's taken me years to be comfortable with masturbating alone (thanks to an ex who made me feel guilty for pleasuring myself )

It is strange that I can let Gil do stuff to me but I'm shy about letting him watch me pleasure myself......I still blush when he watches me strip or walk around nude, even though it's getting easier as we get more comfortable with each other. I'm sure I will be able to eventually, as he says "in time". Can't undo a lifetime of conditioning overnight......

It's shame you've had to go through all that....I can't even imagine. My mom was a very sexual person herself (woke up many nights listening to the sound of her and my dad.) That sent a pretty clear "sex is good" message. She was also one on the those mothers who told me from the beginning "Let me know when you decide to have sex, so I can get you on birth control."

She was also prone to walking about naked/scantily clothed up until my brother got old enough to notice and even then, when he wasn't in the house it was common enough to see her cooking breakfast in a skimpy robe.

When ever I had sexual questions, she always answered in depth. She said there was a lot of misinformation out there, and she wanted me to know the truth about stuff. (Like "Yes, you can still concievably become pregnant on your period" and "No you can't get pregnant from anal sex.")

We still good heartedly joke about sexual matters to each other. I can discuss my b/fs with her "He's this big!!!" or "I found out I like such and such...."

Its been a very good experience and I totally blame her for my sense of sexual openness. She implanted in me the idea "what two consenting adults do is always ok" and "the key to keeping a man is to be sexy for hiim and keep him wanting you. Try anything for him once."

Hell, most of what I know from sex I learned from watching her porno when she wasn't around. (She didn't know, lol.) The first time I was with a guy, he was like "wow, I thought only porn stars did that shit! cool!" Me personally, I had no idea that any of those kinky things I did were "unusual." I thought they were the usual fare.

 

[zukethecuke]

Once in a blue moon, my wife will masturbate in front of me as part of foreplay, but mostly she's too bashful. I never get more than a couple of strokes in on myself before she takes it away from me to do it herself -- and she never finishes me off by hand. She isn't willing to waste a hard-on that could be put to work inside her.

I sort of wish things were different, but you take what you can get. For me, jack-and-jill remains a fantasy (or a phone experience).

 

[Nefarious]

My girlfriend and I share masturbation regularly. Her masturbation derived orgasms are extra intense for her, and when we really want to do her right, we use it as as lead in to status orgasmus. We start off with extended foreplay and penetrative sex short of climax. Then, I'll apply a G-spot vibrator while she works her clit. When she gets off, I'll give her a break that's just long enough for the aftershocks to pass, and then I'll start in sucking on her clit and running my tongue through her lips while working her G-spot with the vibe. This will put her into status orgasmus, where her orgasms come so fast and intense that there is no break at all between them. We have kept her in this contant state of orgasm for as long as 15 continuous minutes without a break. It never fails to work like a charm.

She always says that watching me masturbate is among the hotest stuff she has ever viewed (apparently her previous partners were too inhibited to put on a show for her). I put my ass on the headboard of the bed one night and extended my legs up the wall, and she thought that I had lost my mind. That is, until I started masturbating. I had her total attention as she watched me in this (for her) brand new position. When I came, I shot my load in my own face (my aim was off, and I mostly missed my mouth), and she was all over me, licking me clean. Recalling that incident always puts a smile on her face.

I used to have a regular threesome with a very talented and uninhibited married couple. He could suck himself off. She would sit on my face and suck on the tip of my cock while I stroked the shaft. As he and I neared orgasm, we would synchronize, and each of us would shoot into our own mouths (he directly and me from a distance), then all 3 of us would flip around quickly and share a kiss.

 

[Cardinal]

I have no problem masterbating in front of my wife, and sometimes she encourages it when she is not in the mood. She'll give me a hard on and then tell me to take over, it's fun. But, I would like to get her more comfortable playing in front of me or at least while I'm in bed with her. I would like to introduce toys to our sex life but it's not going very well, any advice? (see tread below)

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