Do you let someone get away with fondling you?

[CurtGiles46]

Do you let someone get away with fondling you?

I’ve heard stories from women about being at parties or even family reunions and they’ll pose next to a guy for a group photo. They might feel his hand slide down from on her back to then touching her ass.

I think most women probably consider it an accident or don’t want to make a scene by complaining.

But maybe it can also be arousing if it’s your cute male cousin or the hot husband of your female friend.

Even for me as a guy, I like the idea of letting them get away with it. I’m not gay but I’d probably let another guy fondle me like that and get away with it, I think it would be exciting.

 

[Marielani]

Pretty sure we have all been fondled in one way or the other.
crowded bar, on the bus.. in the hallway even
i tend to give the other Person the benefits of the doubt.
unless his or her hand stays there. Ha

 

[Stromer]

Depends on the situation. She had a guy stick his hand up her skirt one night at a bar and after watching him do the same thing to several other ladies, I got the bar security involved and they promptly removed him from the bar.
During that same trip, we were partying with several other bikers in town for a biker event and every guy there knew all the ladies present had pierced nipples and most weren't wearing panties that night. There was lots of flashing and groping going on, but it was all consensual and good natured fun.

 

[Filipinawife]

Quite right!

 

[UtilityCurve]

Pretty sure we have all been fondled in one way or the other.
crowded bar, on the bus.. in the hallway even
i tend to give the other Person the benefits of the doubt.
unless his or her hand stays there. Ha

I've lived through a revolution: When I was young, this kind of behavior was, at worst, piggish behavior and girls/women were expected/told to counteract any outrage/disgust with understanding it as a high compliment (as in, you were the hottest in the subway car, not just the nearest).

 

[TandT69]

Ummm, its called 3rd degree sexual assault so if you want to go to jail, feel free, otherwise leave your hands to yourself! And your also saving your balls that way too!

 

[CurtGiles46]

Ummm, its called 3rd degree sexual assault so if you want to go to jail, feel free, otherwise leave your hands to yourself! And your also saving your balls that way too!

Never said I was going to do it. I asked if anyone just lets it happen and doesn’t complain. When my mom was young, a male stranger grabbed her ass at a Christmas tree lighting ceremony downtown. She said it wasn’t a big deal.

 

[Littletoo]

Last time i went to see dad his travel service upgraded me to First Class. I roofied myself on the free champagne sfter i convinced them i was old enugh to drink. i woke up somewhere over Labrador and my seatmate, a well-dressed Arab guy (turban and all) had slipped his hsnd under my hoodie and was fondling my tits. I was pretty groggy, and he was good at it, so I just lay there untl the Flight Attendant came through with the drink cart and he stopped.

 

[jaF0]

a well-dressed Arab guy (turban and all)

Arab or Sikh?

 

[stiv837]

If anyone wants to fondle me , they are more than welcome to.

 

[Transguycharlie]

I’ve had it a few times since coming out as ftm. I love it when someone’s hand ends up in my crotch

 

[K0fcali]

Ummm, its called 3rd degree sexual assault so if you want to go to jail, feel free, otherwise leave your hands to yourself! And your also saving your balls that way too!

It actually only depends on how attractive the woman finds you. If she likes you she wont mind.

 

[Naughty_Natalie]

It depends entirely on the circumstances.

 

[tristantrotsky]

It depends entirely on the circumstances.

A mutual consensual fondling can be a wonderful thing...

 

[easyoff]

It depends entirely on the circumstances.

You sound like my wife, there were certain guys that she would let get away with most anything.

 

[conoflex]

My mother in law always grabs my arse and occasionally rubs her hand over my cock when passing and I do the same other ,she was bent over once and I got behind her and had a nice play about with her arse , really squeezing and massaging it lol

 

[TandT69]

Wow. I cannot believe the number of people who think "fondling" is Ok. Perhaps I should clarify my answer... UNwanted, or UNasked for groping, usually by a stranger, is NOT welcome! And that's how I took the question that was asked. And it can easily cross the line and be considered sexual assault.
Saying that it depends on who the person is or if the person is attractive or not does not make UNwanted groping anymore attractive or exciting. At least not to me. If the person you are letting have free will with your body is someone that you know, or someone that you want to get to know at least physically then that is a totally different thing. That is called mutual fondling or consensual fondling and is not, I believe a form of sexual assault if it is done with consent and cooperation of the parties involved. To just lay there and enjoy it, or to take it without expressing your outrage is , in effect giving consent.
I have been the victim of UNwanted touching and UNwanted attempted sexual contact, and believe me It is not anything erotic, pleasant, pleasurable, or something that I would ever ask for. It is demeaning, degrading, mortifying, and sometimes can be physically hurtful. It is a power thing, with the assailant demonstrating his power over you. If you think being sexually assaulted is exciting, then I think you may not have ever been assaulted before. I can assure you, from my past experiences, that it is not pleasant, and if you are the perpetrator, you will feel my rath; either thru the legal system, or however else I can do it.

 

[CurtGiles46]

Last time i went to see dad his travel service upgraded me to First Class. I roofied myself on the free champagne sfter i convinced them i was old enugh to drink. i woke up somewhere over Labrador and my seatmate, a well-dressed Arab guy (turban and all) had slipped his hsnd under my hoodie and was fondling my tits. I was pretty groggy, and he was good at it, so I just lay there untl the Flight Attendant came through with the drink cart zznd he stopped.

Good story. It’s a personal choice to let it happen and not oppose it. I think each individual has the right to make their own decision.

It actually only depends on how attractive the woman finds you. If she likes you she wont mind.

Correct. It’s not a crime if the woman likes it. I always hate these comments that try to impose ONE universal human reaction.

It actually only depends on how attractive the woman finds you. If she likes you she wont mind.

Correct. I always dislike these posters who try to suggest there’s a universal singular reaction to a sexual behavior. People have individual reactions. Humans are not a giant collective with no diversity. Women are not all the same either.

Wow. I cannot believe the number of people who think "fondling" is Ok. Perhaps I should clarify my answer... UNwanted, or UNasked for groping, usually by a stranger, is NOT welcome! And that's how I took the question that was asked. And it can be easily cross the line and be considered sexual assault.
Saying that it depends on who the person is or if the person is attractive or not does not make UNwanted groping anymore attractive or exciting. At least not to me. If the person you are letting have free will with your body is someone that you know, or someone that you want to get to know at least physically then that is a totally different thing. That is called mutual fondling or consensual fondling and is not, I believe a form of sexual assault if it is done with consent and cooperation of the parties involved. To just lay there and enjoy it, or to take it without expressing your outrage is , in effect giving consent.
I have been the victim of UNwanted touching and UNwanted attempted sexual contact, and believe me It is not anything erotic, pleasant, pleasurable, or something that I would ever ask for. It is demeaning, degrading, mortifying, and sometimes can be physically hurtful. It is a power thing, with the assailant demonstrating his power over you. If you think being sexually assaulted is exciting, then I think you may not have ever been assaulted before. I can assure you, from my past experiences, that it is not pleasant, and if you are the perpetrator, you will feel my rath; either thru the legal system, or however else I can do it.

Other people have their own choices to make, you can only speak for you. You have already seen above posts from people who have let it happen and not complained. Also, if the person doesn’t protest and is enjoying it then ultimately it was wanted.

No one here was encouraging unwanted touching, everyone knows the risk that someone won’t like it. However, it is not your right to tell other individuals what they like or don’t like.

You haven’t earned the right to speak for all women, women are not a collective hive mind all sharing the same reactions to life experiences. You can speak for you and only you.

 

[GikiceGikice69]

Depends who it is

 

[ZeroDarkDirty]

I would never touch someone without their consent. Never have, never will. And on one level I would say no one else should lay even one hand on me unless they want a crack in the jaw.

That said, I was at a crowded concert a few years ago where everyone was packed in around the stage and felt a hand kept landing on my ass. Once may be an accident. Twice a coincidence. But when I felt someone just flat out stroking my inner thigh and feeling my cock though my jeans, come on. I turned around to at glare at this random pervert, and behind me was a hot twink-looking guy and tattooed goth chick. I figured hey either one or both would be fine with me and just ground into whichever hand it was feeling me up the next time it happened.

Why didn't I do more? Well, standing to the right of me was my then-wife who did not much approve of hooking up with anyone but each other. Although I did tell her what happened I left out the part about encouraging it.

 

[Kumquatqueen]

Give me some eye contact and a suggestive eyebrow and I might be amenable. At a party or club, quite likely, even. Some random bloke (because it always is men, even in gay bars) grabbing me like an object? I'll react with all necessary force.

I don't think I've actually broken anyone's finger, but in at least one case, where I was minding my own business in a short dress and unexpectedly found a stranger's hand in my cunt, I wish I had.

 

[TandT69]

Good story. It’s a personal choice to let it happen and not oppose it. I think each individual has the right to make their own decision.


Correct. It’s not a crime if the woman likes it. I always hate these comments that try to impose ONE universal human reaction.


Correct. I always dislike these posters who try to suggest there’s a universal singular reaction to a sexual behavior. People have individual reactions. Humans are not a giant collective with no diversity. Women are not all the same either.


Other people have their own choices to make, you can only speak for you. You have already seen above posts from people who have let it happen and not complained. Also, if the person doesn’t protest and is enjoying it then ultimately it was wanted.

No one here was encouraging unwanted touching, everyone knows the risk that someone won’t like it. However, it is not your right to tell other individuals what they like or don’t like.

You haven’t earned the right to speak for all women, women are not a collective hive mind all sharing the same reactions to life experiences. You can speak for you and only you.

I never said I was speaking for all women. I think I said several times in my reply that I was speaking for myself and from my experience, and from the perspective of UN WANTED fondling You want to feel me up? Get my permission.
And you can get off your high horse and stop telling people what to say.

 

[CurtGiles46]

I never said I was speaking for all women. I think I said several times in my reply that I was speaking for myself and from my experience, and from the perspective of UN WANTED fondling You want to feel me up? Get my permission.
And you can get off your high horse and stop telling people what to say.

I never told anyone what to say. This thread was designed for people who have permitted groping to happen under whatever circumstances they chose to accept or enjoy it. You invaded the thread like a bull in a China shop and launched into a personal rant. Nobody said you had to enjoy groping. If this thread wasn’t of interest to you then just avoid it.

And every male today knows it’s a huge risk to grope a woman, a much bigger risk than it was 20 or 30 years ago. I was fortunate I never did it after college when I did find two women who enjoyed it, proving that women liking it does exist. And there are other examples in this thread of women who sometimes like it.

You seemed to not understand the basics of the discussion. It’s not unwanted if the woman likes it. But no one said you had to like it. It’s the groper who is gambling high stakes on hoping for a good response. And everyone knows the penalties for a very negative response.

 

[Tayloroc]

Exactly. Fantasy about forbidden topics is why lit exists and no doubt provides a safety valve. I indulge here in things I would never ever do!

 

[Psychprofgal]

I would personally put this in the same category as having CNC fantasies. Would I, the actual woman typing this, be cool with a stranger “accidentally” groping me in public when I’m just trying to live my life and go about my normal activities? Absolutely not. But do I sometimes fantasize about it, in the privacy of my own home, where I’m safe and know it’s not really happening? Sure. I think that fantasizing about doing something like this or having it done to you is an entirely different thing from actually thinking it’s acceptable behavior. Same is true for most fantasies. There are people who get off on the idea of being cuckolded or of cheating or having group sex, but still want a monogamous relationship in real life. I’m into calling men “daddy,” but I don’t actually get turned on by real incest between biological family members. Groping fantasies are just another thing where it’s important to know where the boundaries are.

I would personally put this in the same category as having CNC fantasies. Would I, the actual woman typing this, be cool with a stranger “accidentally” groping me in public when I’m just trying to live my life and go about my normal activities? Absolutely not. But do I sometimes fantasize about it, in the privacy of my own home, where I’m safe and know it’s not really happening? Sure. I think that fantasizing about doing something like this or having it done to you is an entirely different thing from actually thinking it’s acceptable behavior. Same is true for most fantasies. There are people who get off on the idea of being cuckolded or of cheating or having group sex, but still want a monogamous relationship in real life. I’m into calling men “daddy,” but I don’t actually get turned on by real incest between biological family members. Groping fantasies are just another thing where it’s important to know where the boundaries are.

Kitty put it so very well. Thank you!