Do you have to ask permission if...

[Eating_Scarlett]

You want to change your hair style/colour?

Just curious.

 

[Shadowsdream]

You want to change your hair style/colour?

Just curious.

No I don't..but the slave does

 

[landcruisergal]

yep, he once suggested I let it return to its natural colour but I pleaded that it was mouse brown and very dull. So he allowed me to keep the colour it is;intense copper red. But I am not allowed to change the colour or cut it without his permission.

 

[Quint]

Not in mine. I'll certainly ask for his opinion because he's the person I most want to be pleased with my appearance, but he isn't interested in controlling me down to the minutiae (yet?).

 

[Desdemona]

Currently, no. As long as I use good judgement I'm allowed to color my hair. By this I mean I have to use a color that would naturally occur in nature on a human and be flattering to me. No blues or pinks, etc.
I do have to ask permission to cut it beyond trimming split ends and keeping it healthy.

 

[WriterDom]

I wouldn't micromanage what I consider woman's issues because I think her judgment would be a lot better than mine, and most straight males.

 

[MissTaken]

Nope.

I don't.

 

[Georgia Girl]

Yes I do.

It was short when we met, now its almost to my shoulders. I can trim it to keep split ends away, color it the the deep auburn I prefer but no cutting beyond 1/2 inch.

 

[Princessintrng]

Nope

He isn't too concerned about my hair, he does prefer it long and so do I so it works out well. My daughter is a hair dresser so I usually just go see her and say, "make the grey go away" and she does......

 

[cellis]

I always ask... but I have a had couple of really bad hair salon experiences in the last year and it has ended up that my hair is shorter than it has been in years.... He prefers it longer as I do... the color doesn't matter to Him as long as it is flattering..

 

[Ms_Lilith]

Yup. For months, He had me growing in my blonde roots, and it was driving me mad, but I didn't say anything about it... finally, I begged for Him to let me colour again.. He chose the colour.. thankfully, it was a shade of red.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Yup. For months, He had me growing in my blonde roots, and it was driving me mad, but I didn't say anything about it... finally, I begged for Him to let me colour again.. He chose the colour.. thankfully, it was a shade of red.

Since moving here I have noticed red is the colour of preference for a humungous number of Dutch women.

Catalina

 

[catalina_francisco]

In answer to the topic, yes. As I am his property, it is not for me to go ahead and fiddle with something which is his, and in an area he finds a lot of satisfaction and pleasure. He would not be happy if he came home and found it black and above the ears that is for sure, more so becaise I had taken it upon myself to do it without discussion and/or permission.

Catalina http://www.smilies4you.de/content/sonstige/a55.gif

 

[P. B. Walker]

You want to change your hair style/colour?

Just curious.

I'd leave the hair on her head to her, but I'd let her know if I liked it when I saw a change.

But the hair down under would obviously be under my control.

 

[serijules]

I have to ask to cut my hair, as she likes it long...something to grab on to I'm glad I have to ask, because I often have urges to chop it all off, which I KNOW I would regret. I even regret the 4 inches I took off not long ago, so I'm glad for that little rule, keeps me from doing something drastic.

I have been shaved smooth for a long time, and I'm not really sure how she feels about that, if I would have to ask if I wanted to stop shaving. It's kind of a weird topic to bring up, because I'm not really sure there is any reason why she would care since our relationship isn't really sexual at all...I *want* her to care though, I think. I like the little permission rituals.

Recently, I admitted to smoking without permission, which prompted her to change my rules to allow me 2 a day without having to ask, and have to ask for any above and beyound that, because there are days we don't talk to each other and since I am pretty good at keeping the number down to 2-3 a day, it was a logical step. However, despite being more convienient for me, I have to admit I felt like something had been taken away from me, as it was always a thrill to have to ask and I didn't really want to give that up. Ah well.

Sorry for babbling off topic, the answer to your question is in there somewhere

 

[Netzach]

I let him do as he pleases with his hair, but I certainly give commentary freely. It's hair that makes me jealous, lustrous and black. Dammit. He's made noises about growing it out and I encourage this wholeheartedly, but as long as it's flattering I'm fine.

Short hair can be mondo sexy and flattering on a woman, not all of us are meant to have long hair. If I had a femsub who wasn't being helped by lady madonna hippie locks, off they'd go.

Kinda always wanted to shave a chick's head, but that's me.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Kinda always wanted to shave a chick's head, but that's me.

Was going to shave my own a couple of years back but decided it would have been too much for my employer to handle and she was already having enough trouble with the fact I was honest and happy, didn't think it fair to burden her with more. LOL.

C

 

[MissTaken]

Re: Re: Do you have to ask permission if...

I'd leave the hair on her head to her, but I'd let her know if I liked it when I saw a change.

But the hair down under would obviously be under my control.

I go with scooter when he gets his hair cut because we have a great time at the expense of the sweet young thang cutting his hair.

Down below?
Yep, that is up to me and up to him to maintain for me.


Where is scarlett?
I am waiting for her opinion on grooming for your mate.

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

When i have had an *Owner* they preferred my hair longer (if they were men). My femme *Owner* did not give a rat's ass as long as it was clean and complimented my features. Neither of them cared about the hair dye issue.

As for MY pet(s)..past and present...i love long hair, period. They do not cut or color without my permission. My boy has hair halfway down his back...same with my girl...

pet

 

[Krinaia]

i'm currently without a dominant and it was too friggin hot here in florida. My hair was shoulder length and I couldnt pull it back or up because of the layers... so I chopped it off. Its really short now. It looks cute but I know its not the prefered length of most doms and its sort of disheartening. At least I didn't die of heat.

 

[Eating_Scarlett]

Why do most doms prefer long hair?

 

[Ms_Lilith]

Mine prefers the long hair on me because it looks better than the short hair did, for one, and because it's easier to pull than short hair. Long hair, when tied back or braided is a beautiful handle for pulling, and directing the action (of course, with the health of the submissive's shoulders and neck in mind).

When I have a submissive, I prefer the women to have longer hair, unless it's short when I come to own them and looks so good on them, and I prefer my men to have short hair. I love long-haired men, as my owners (of course, hair does not make the Dom, but I think we all understood that), but my property males will keep it short.

 

[dragonlace]

Why do most doms prefer long hair?

something to hold on to or pull if they prefer......Master cares about the length but not really the color as long as its a natural color for me......if fact i just asked Him if i could cut it and He said no more than 2 inches to cut the dead ends only...lol

 

[Eating_Scarlett]

My boyfriend pulled my hair for the first time during sex last night. He doesn't usually do stuff like that. Is hair-pulling a BDSM thing because I'm not in that sort of a relationship. He couldn't care less what colour or length my hair is, so long as I'm happy with it.

Dictating when and if you can cut your own hair... there's no logic to the whole idea.

Also, what about degrading you in bed, calling you a slut or a whore... is that a BDSM thing? So many of these things translate into 'vanilla' relationships as well. Where do you stop having a normal relationship and start having a dom/sub one?

I don't think I could ever be in that kind of relationship but it seems to me that you don't differ *that* much from people in vanilla relationships. The only thing is, BDSM takes everything to it's extreme.

 

[MissTaken]

Haven't we covered some of these questions before?

As for differing from vanilla relationships, no, in many instances and situations we do not differ from people in healthy relationships who enjoy traditional sex.

But that is my opinion and I know there are others who dont' agree.