Do you have intimacy in your realationship?

[FlamingoBlue]

Describe it for me. Are you married?
Are you hetrosexual. bi=sexual, etc.?
How long ahve you been in your relationship? Are you monogamous? Details, please.

Thanks.

blue

 

[CreamyLady]

It might just be my hangover . . .

. . . but I find these incessant questions about very personal things -- which, admittedly, I have answered in the past -- increasingly annoying.

I don't think the ibuprofen helped. The coffee didn't either.

 

[April]

Flamingo, what's with all the questions? Are you writing a story or something? Can't you at least combine your questions into one thread? Do you know that I was going to start a thread about you? Would that be rude? I thought so, and decided to ask you directly? What? You mean everything's a question? Wow?

 

[Nexxus]

April, I'm confused. (duh)
Is that real sarcasm, real anger, Siren's version of sarcasm, or am I just too damn sensative?
By the way I think Flamingo asks too many fucking questions also!

Nex

 

[SimplySouthern]

I kinda like all the questions. Anyway..he can't help it. Its in his lawyer-like nature!

Rock On Flamingo!

 

[CreamyLady]

I kinda like all the questions. Anyway..he can't help it. Its in his lawyer-like nature!

This isn't a courtroom, we're not defendants or respondents, and quite frankly there are far more interesting topics.

I'm really being a bitch today. I have got to stay away from tequila . . .

 

[Lasher]

No wonder everyone hates lawyers...

This isn't a courtroom, we're not defendants or respondents,...

Couldn't have said it better myself.

 

[SimplySouthern]

As stated before...if you aren't "into" answering questions...after you read his post, why bother with any type of response. Seems a little wasteful of your time to come in here to type how much you dislike something.

You don't like being questioned...fair enough. No one likes to have their brand of posting trashed either.

This is Blue's way of getting to know people. Better than the old "How bout I stick my dick in your ass" post we used to get from him. Granted, these questions aren't for everyone, but neither are questions about feminism and which country is the greatest.

To each his own.

 

[Lasher]

It was the lawyer comment, wasn't it??

Seriously, though. If someone takes the time to post a thread, I'm assuming they want to see what people have to say. And just because a post is not exactly what the person who started the thread was asking for does not make the feelings of the person who posted to that thread any less valid.

This is an Open Forum. Flamingo has the right to repeatedly ask repetitive, lawyer-like questions. In return, CreamyLady has the right to say that she is annoyed by repetitive, lawyer-like questions. That's the great thing about the exercise of freedom.

Now, this whole thing about not reading something if it's going to annoy you is one of those ideas that sound great in theory (like, say, free government subsidized Health Care), but just doesn't work in practice. Should CreamyLady have to ignore everything that Flamingo posts just because he's posted a long string of repetitive, lawyer-like questions? What if he does actually have something worthwhile to say someday? How will she know?? She won't unless she actually reads the posts as they appear on the board. Now, if something Flamingo posts moves her to comment - regardless of what that comment might be - Flamingo should be happy to receive feedback. If he is too sensitive to accept that not everyone will be pleased with what he has to say, then perhaps he ( or anyone else who cannot accept criticism) should not be posting.

Honestly, if I sat here and only read positive comments about what I have to say, I'd wonder what the fuck is wrong with everyone.



[Edited by Lasher99 on 07-15-2000 at 05:30 PM]

 

[April]

Nexxus, I started out serious and then degenerated into complete silliness. But I am totally serious about combining the questions into one thread.

I have a question of my own. Why do the sane members of this BB get ragged on for expressing our opinions of other's posts when there are morons like earnestlover, dave73, and roland gilliad running around being fucking assholes, and only a couple of people have said anything about it? I told roland to stop being a jerk, and people stood up for him. WTF? Let me get this straight. You can be a jerk with impunity, but don't question others posts in a rational way. Is this the correct impression? If not, somebody tell me what the rules are!

 

[Isabella Thorne]

April ... i was so upset with Roland .. i didn't know what to say .. you said it for me dear .. thank you .. so please don't think WTF? ... finally today i got together an answer for him .. you will find it in the "For All Canadians" thread ..

 

[Weird Harold]

Shunning is the answer to assholes

running around being fucking assholes, and only a couple of people have said anything about it? I told roland to stop being a jerk, and people stood up for him. WTF? Let me get this straight. You can be a jerk with impunity, but don't question others posts in a rational way. Is this the correct impression? If not, somebody tell me what the rules are!

Not a rule, just the voice of experience. Ignore the jerks. Don't make any sort of response, rational or otherwise. If the people who come here only to stir things up and be assholes don't get any reaction, they eventually start posting sensibly, or they give up and leave.

 

[SimplySouthern]

I am certainly not saying that you can't (or shouldn't) express your opinion on any subject. I just fail to see the logic in posting a reply saying ou object to the questioning. It isn't as though a response is required. No one is forcing you to be questioned. I can understand when people post obnoxious threads (Dave and Earnestlover) but even then, I think the first time should be treated as a mistake. Often, when people come to a sexually based BB, they aren't sure the etiquette used. Let's be honest...those of us that have been to other sex-type BBs will say that most (not all) of the people who frequent them aren't as intelligent and articulate a crowd as you find here.

I suppose my main problem is that here lately I have seen a rash of nothing but bitching and moaning about the fact that no one likes what's going on here. Too much of this...not enough of that. I think Flamingo has been asking thought provoking questions. I seem to remember everyone bitching about all the flirting and carrying on, and I am woman enough to admit that I did that. Seeing that it upset people, I have toned it down considerably. Not enough serious discussion, people said. So here we have someone trying to start a serious discussion thread and he gets shit on about it.

I fail to understand the logic behind this. You want to talk seriously but not feel like you are being questioned? I'm wondering if it is the way the questions are worded or the subject matter. This is, after all, a sexually based BB.

For myself, as a general rule, if I read a title to a thread that is nothing that I want to discuss....I move on and often never open the thread and read it. Sometimes I skim through it to listen to what others had to say. The title to this thread clearly stated what it was about. This thread seemed to be clearly marked to me...the title seemed to echo the inside content.

I apologize if I offended anyone earlier by asking why you felt the need to post that you didn't like the questions...of course I didn't mean that you shouldn't do that. As I said earlier...everyone is different.

 

[Lasher]

You have nothing to apologize for, SS. If you state your opinions in an honest and heart-felt manner, you should never feel sorry for having done that. People will disagree with you no matter what you say, and it is certainly not something to get upset about....

I'm wondering if it is the way the questions are worded or the subject matter. This is, after all, a sexually based BB.

Actually, there are 2 factors to Flamingo's questions that annoy the piss outta me.

The wording is a problem. When I read the questions, I do feel like I'm being grilled by a lawyer. I'm sure it would be difficult for him to do otherwise, given his age and his vocation. But that doesn't change the fact that it's annoying. I come here to be entertained, and it doesn't hurt anyone to take the time to make their questions fun and make people feel like they want to answer. Lovely Latina is great at that - she's asked some similar types of questions, but always in a manner that makes it enjoyable to participate. Maybe I'm just being picky (or maybe I'm spoiled, who knows....).

Oh, and the second part of this - He's just asked so many damn questions so damn quick it just seems like he's not interested in seeing anyone answer. Ya know what I mean? It's like *Boom*, here's a question... and then *boom* here's another one. Why bother to answer if no one is listening?

Maybe he just shoulda taken the time to get to know people first before he started getting so nebby, I dunno.... Whatever it was just rubbed me the wrong way.

The title to this thread clearly stated what it was
about.

One thing I've learned here, the title of the thread rarely has much to do with what the thread is about after 5 or 10 posts.

those of us that have been to other sex-type BBs will say that most (not all) of the people who frequent them aren't as intelligent and articulate a crowd as you find here.

I've never spent any time on a "sex-type" BB. If this board had been about nothing but sex when I got here, I would've been bored within a week. It may very well be a BB on a sex site, but there's always been a hell of a lot more going on here. You couldn't keep the variety of intelligent people that post here interested if there wasn't so much more to it....

Oh, and btw, SS, do you feel like your wish has come true now? LOL.





[Edited by Lasher99 on 07-15-2000 at 10:13 PM]

 

[SimplySouthern]

Still not quite there

Still doesn't give me the warm fuzzy feeling I expected. I don't know...still seeing you as Jerry Seinfeld I suppose.

 

[CreamyLady]

Excuse me, Simply Southern, but in one breath you gave us permission (how gracious) to express opinions on any subject, and in the next told us it wasn't logical to do so, when that opinion was an objection to the questioning.

Opinion is opinion, and entirely subjective.

Flamingo Blue can post as many questions as he wants. I have seen the light; I won't read them anymore. I do object to repeated questions and his tone, which -- in this post -- is demanding and just shy of hectoring.

I didn't answer the question because I'd already answered it, on another of his threads.

Now that I think about it, you didn't answer this "thought-provoking" question, either.

And finally, don't apologize. Why? You were only stating your opinion -- that no one else is entitled to state theirs. Bless your heart.

 

[SimplySouthern]

no relationship ~ no intimacy. Unless you consider masturbation applicable, in which case I am the master of intimacy.

 

[Lasher]

"What is it with Masturbation??"

in which case I am the master of intimacy.

But certainly NOT "Master of Your Domain"....

 

[Jeff726]

Have to agree here

You have nothing to apologize for, SS. If you state your opinions in an honest and heart-felt manner, you should never feel sorry for having done that. People will disagree with you no matter what you say, and it is certainly not something to get upset about....

I'm wondering if it is the way the questions are worded or the subject matter. This is, after all, a sexually based BB.

Actually, there are 2 factors to Flamingo's questions that annoy the piss outta me.

The wording is a problem. When I read the questions, I do feel like I'm being grilled by a lawyer. I'm sure it would be difficult for him to do otherwise, given his age and his vocation. But that doesn't change the fact that it's annoying. I come here to be entertained, and it doesn't hurt anyone to take the time to make their questions fun and make people feel like they want to answer. Lovely Latina is great at that - she's asked some similar types of questions, but always in a manner that makes it enjoyable to participate. Maybe I'm just being picky (or maybe I'm spoiled, who knows....).

Oh, and the second part of this - He's just asked so many damn questions so damn quick it just seems like he's not interested in seeing anyone answer. Ya know what I mean? It's like *Boom*, here's a question... and then *boom* here's another one. Why bother to answer if no one is listening?

Maybe he just shoulda taken the time to get to know people first before he started getting so nebby, I dunno.... Whatever it was just rubbed me the wrong way.

The title to this thread clearly stated what it was
about.

One thing I've learned here, the title of the thread rarely has much to do with what the thread is about after 5 or 10 posts.

those of us that have been to other sex-type BBs will say that most (not all) of the people who frequent them aren't as intelligent and articulate a crowd as you find here.

I've never spent any time on a "sex-type" BB. If this board had been about nothing but sex when I got here, I would've been bored within a week. It may very well be a BB on a sex site, but there's always been a hell of a lot more going on here. You couldn't keep the variety of intelligent people that post here interested if there wasn't so much more to it....

Oh, and btw, SS, do you feel like your wish has come true now? LOL.





[Edited by Lasher99 on 07-15-2000 at 10:13 PM]

Lasher I have to agree with you here. I don't like being asked constantly about my personal details either. And to think I want to be a cop! Another question-filled career. Eeesh!


Jeff

 

[Dixon Carter Lee]

Hey, Flamingo, as someone who criticized your posts at first I have to say that you've very much behaved like a man. You listened to what people said, you changed your tack, but you've stayed who you are without becoming someone everyone wanted you to be.

You constant questions have brought about some interesting threads, and if that was your goal, good. The threads are certainly better than the constant firt-a-thons and mean spirited polical rants. And they're even better than the long winded threads on how to post threads (I'm guilty there, I think).

You DO seem like your working on a thesis, though. Phrases like "Details, please" are odd, and have a clinical sinisterness about them. So, what's up? Why so many demanding personal questions? Just curious.

And I'd answer your question, but I choose to keep much of that part of my life private. Otherwise, it's an interesting question.

 

[FlamingoBlue]

Guys, really....

I was just curious. That's all.


blue

 

[Siren]

well you know what they say Blue....

 

[Isabella Thorne]

ahhh Siren dear you forgot .. satisfaction brought him back.

 

[Svedish_Chef]

The question...

Yes no maybe wait