Do you have an age limit?

[the captians wench]

JM telling ITW that he's out of her age limit got me to thinking about this.

Do you have an age limit? And if yes what is it and why?

When my uncle came out of the kink closet to tell my mom he has a guy he'd like me to meet, her first discription to me was that he's 40. Now her and I joke that we're going to go out one night and she'll attact some 40 year olds for me and I'll snag a couple 20's for her, but I didn't realize she thinks I actually look for guys in their late 30's and 40's until this conversation.

I've just never put much thought into age. My step dad was 30 years older than my mom so I grew up fathered by some one older than my grandfather. He always acted younger than my grandparents tho. He's the one that kept us kids into sports and stuff like that, would even go out and play with us until the cancer got bad. So in my very young eyes, old wasn't old until you were like 100 or something. And I'm still of the opinion that age is a state of mind.

But I guess all the guys I've "dated" since my ex hubby have all been over 30 except one who was 29. Even my friends are all getting ready for the big 30, at least. But it's not like I go out searching only for people in their 30's, it just seems to be the group I relate to more, which makes since with my background.

But this works the other way too. I've been out with a friend who was eyeing this 20 something piece of eye candy, but when prompted to go talk to him she said he was too young, that she was old enough to be his moma. Never mind the fact that she's old enough to be my moma but what ever *giggles*.

And then there are those who do go out looking for some one old enough to be thier daddy, or something along those lines.

So does age matter to you?

 

[FungiUg]

Do you have an age limit? And if yes what is it and why?

Somewhere between 20 and 50.

 

[Bandit58]

Master Gil is six years older than me. I have been with a man 11 years older and another 18 months younger. If I was looking for a Dom I doubt that I would go younger than 40 - as I am creeping up to age 49 myself.

As far as female playmates go, I don't go younger than 30. That is my absolute bottom limit - I don't feel comfortable playing with anyone I could have given birth to.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Not overly...I've dated much older and much younger and though most of those I dated were of similar age or older, I married someone 9 years younger. For me it is more about the person, what their mind is like, their personality, than a figure. Mind you, if I were single and looking now I would likely restrict the older a little more as I am nearly 50 myself and would be looking for a longer rather than shorter time together so picking someone too far ahead and in poor health might be limiting the option of that dream being possible. Silly in a way given my own health is not the greatest, but it would make me feel I was at least increasing my odds to pick someone closer to my age.

Catalina

 

[the captians wench]

Master Gil is six years older than me. I have been with a man 11 years older and another 18 months younger. If I was looking for a Dom I doubt that I would go younger than 40 - as I am creeping up to age 49 myself.

As far as female playmates go, I don't go younger than 30. That is my absolute bottom limit - I don't feel comfortable playing with anyone I could have given birth to.

I had one date with a guy in his 50's. The reason why there wasn't a second isn't because he was 50 (old enough to be my grandpa) it was because he was crass and couldn't really hold intelligent conversation with out turning it into sex talk. Horny old man at his finist. Which you know I don't mind horny older guys, I rather like being hit on and oggled. But at least be able to go 10 minutes with out turning the conversation back to things you want to do to me.

young enough to be my baby, well would be a baby so I'm not to worried about that right now *giggles*. And I'm not aposed to dating guys my age or a bit younger, we just don't seem to interest each other. *shrug* I just tend to attract the attention of guys in their mid 30's most. And I guess I kind of like it that way now that I think about it. A guy in his 30's is more likely to be stable than one in his 20's.

 

[the captians wench]

Not overly...I've dated much older and much younger and though most of those I dated were of similar age or older, I married someone 9 years younger. For me it is more about the person, what their mind is like, their personality, than a figure. Mind you, if I were single and looking now I would likely restrict the older a little more as I am nearly 50 myself and would be looking for a longer rather than shorter time together so picking someone too far ahead and in poor health might be limiting the option of that dream being possible. Silly in a way given my own health is not the greatest, but it would make me feel I was at least increasing my odds to pick someone closer to my age.

Catalina

You bring up a good point here cat. And if I were thinking more long term, I guess I would have to be a bit pickier myself. I remember what my mom went thru when my step dad got really sick and died. Now she's a 40 something widdow and really has no one to share that with who's her age. The other widdows she's met thru groups are 60's and over and most not thinking about dating again. I don't know if I could handle the things she did when he got sick, and I know I don't want to burry a husband in my 40's.

 

[Bandit58]

I had one date with a guy in his 50's. The reason why there wasn't a second isn't because he was 50 (old enough to be my grandpa) it was because he was crass and couldn't really hold intelligent conversation with out turning it into sex talk. Horny old man at his finist. Which you know I don't mind horny older guys, I rather like being hit on and oggled. But at least be able to go 10 minutes with out turning the conversation back to things you want to do to me.

LOL - this older guy was 55 and I was 44 at the time, it was a casual thing and he had ideas of being my sugar daddy. However when I asked him for money for petrol one time he was lucky to have $20 cash in his wallet but it was full of plastic cards

I gave him the flick because he started behaving like my ex, and there are good reasons why my ex is my ex. He wanted me to move closer to him (we were 2 hours drive apart), he said he could find me a job and a place to live, but I didn't want to feel obligated so I turned him down. Plus by then I'd begun to be involved with Master Gil and other doors were opening

 

[reignophelia]

Somewhere between 20 and 50.

Ditto.

 

[malinborn]

I cannot honestly say that i have an age range. Typically i like older women but still around my age... there've only been a few younger women i have Dated... one night stands and the like are diffeent, but even there the younge number is lower.

When i was 19 i dated a woman in her mid 40s. That ended when he daughter, 20, showed a particular interest in me and i in here. Jayne, the 45 year old, had a steady man in her life anyway... pretty sure i was just her young bad boy

That said, age really matters very little to me in that mindset so long as they are legal and consenting and the attraction is there

 

[Blushing Bottom]

I so hear you on that one and unfortunately younger men seem awfully attracted to me.

Go figure?

I don't go younger than 30. That is my absolute bottom limit - I don't feel comfortable playing with anyone I could have given birth to.

 

[the captians wench]

I cannot honestly say that i have an age range. Typically i like older women but still around my age... there've only been a few younger women i have Dated... one night stands and the like are diffeent, but even there the younge number is lower.

When i was 19 i dated a woman in her mid 40s. That ended when he daughter, 20, showed a particular interest in me and i in here. Jayne, the 45 year old, had a steady man in her life anyway... pretty sure i was just her young bad boy

That said, age really matters very little to me in that mindset so long as they are legal and consenting and the attraction is there

my mom and I had that problem, but I got kicked out insted of him.

 

[malinborn]

**HUGS**

my mom and I had that problem, but I got kicked out insted of him.

 

[catalina_francisco]

my mom and I had that problem, but I got kicked out insted of him.

Poor you!! One of my daughter's love interests once suggested he and I get it on...I politely declined and let him know I was not interested in sharing or stealing her partners, no matter how hot they may look...and I didn't tell her at the time as I knew it would undermine her self esteem. He ended up stuffing up in other ways down the track and had a hasty exit from her life, protesting and begging forgiveness all the way.

Catalina

 

[intothewoods]

I inspired a thread! Well, sort of. I know, it's always about me.

My general guideline is no men under 25 (and really, I'm likely not going to be compatible with most men under 30, but we can make out or something!), and no men over 45.

It's not a hard age limit, but in practice, I've been pretty turned off by most of the "older" men I've met recently in the scene. They're usually really, really sexually agressive and, not particularly subtle or smooth about it. I'm just not into the dirty old man thing.

Also, for a number of reasons, I'm very uncomfortable with the older man, younger woman dynamic. I used to be all about older men, but now, frankly, it reminds me of a time in my life I'd rather forget. But maybe once I get a little distance, I'll feel differently.

 

[malinborn]

*hugs*
i love your avatar
and hey, i'm 35

i am sure you inspire much more then just a topic from time to time.

as for issues you may have.. a lot of it takes time, or as you said, distance. maybe you will get passed it, maybe not... and if not, well, we all still lubers ya!

 

[the captians wench]

I inspired a thread! Well, sort of. I know, it's always about me.

My general guideline is no men under 25 (and really, I'm likely not going to be compatible with most men under 30, but we can make out or something!), and no men over 45.

It's not a hard age limit, but in practice, I've been pretty turned off by most of the "older" men I've met recently in the scene. They're usually really, really sexually agressive and, not particularly subtle or smooth about it. I'm just not into the dirty old man thing.

Also, for a number of reasons, I'm very uncomfortable with the older man, younger woman dynamic. I used to be all about older men, but now, frankly, it reminds me of a time in my life I'd rather forget. But maybe once I get a little distance, I'll feel differently.

See I think that's why I'm liking this mid 30's to 40's range, even if it's not what I set out to look for. The guys tend to be a bit more.....phantom of the opera style dom than hng....not that there aren't hngs in that age range, but I'm more of a night in shining armor wench than a pleb wench, ya know.....tho I'll take a warior in a kilt any day of the week, if for nothing more than a bit of a romp in the woods.


I think I've been working on costumes too much!

 

[Homburg]

After considerations of legality, my guidelines have to do with compatibility. When I was younger, I looked for women that were somewhat older than myself (as in I was in my late teens and went for women in the mid-20's or so, that sort of thing). I was a fairly mature chap as a teen, and wanted to be with women that had a bit more maturity. Had I been in social situations where I could gracefully have looked for older than that, I may well have.

Then I met my wife, and had my first relationship with someone my own age.

These days, I worry less about age. I've found myself attracted to, and interested in, women from a wide range of ages. Older, younger, same, matters little. Compatibility is what matters.

That said, and as others have already mentioned, if she is young enough that I could have fathered her, well, we've got a problem =P

 

[ecstaticsub]

When I was younger (20-30) I hd a real hang-up about older men. I think it went back to issues with my very dirty perverted grandfather. I always dated, played with men who were no more than 2 yrs older. I prefered men about my own age. I did have a relationship with someone 4 years younger and that was fun.

Then I met my Dom on-line and I knew he was a little older but I didn't know how much. But now I am in my mid-40's so 50something doesn't seem as far away as it did in my 30's. I developed very strong feelings for him before I even saw a picture of him. I overcame my fear of older men because I got to know him first as a man. (the fact that he knows tantric sex and can outlast sexually any man I have ever been with helps a lot, too )

I think that is one of the advantages of meeting someone on-line. It gives you a chance to get to know someone for who they are before your instinctual first appearance judgements kick in.

 

[LittleJade]

I prefer older men. Period.

I've dated anywhere from 5-28 years my senior, submitted to people even farther apart in age to myself... and it's what I prefer.

That being said, my partner is an anomoly- he's only 2 years my senior... and we work... but he's far more mature than most 27 year olds I've met.

Sir is 10 years my senior. It works for us.

 

[EmpressFi]

When I was younger, I looked for men older than me (my first 'melt you to the bones' kiss was from a man 13 years older than me). My first husband was 10 years older. I think I looked for and needed that protection that an older person gives.. that and I was stupid and thought no one else would want me.

In my mid-twenties.. I found myself being attracted to persons who were in a wide spectrum of ages. I find that the mind is what attracts me most and both fortunately and unfortunately, the internet allows for that kind of attraction the most. You can spend hours talking with someone and think.. "wow, they really get me".. and find out they're 19. (*whistles innocently*)

Both Master and my husband are younger than me, but I didnt seek out younger men, it just happened that way.

 

[CutieMouse]

*****

 

[midwestyankee]

I find myself attracted to people of a certain independent spirit and that is absolutely not a factor of age. In recent years I've found that independence in folks who are their late twenties as well as some in their thirties, forties, and even older. As the attitude pattern that attracts me tends to dwindle with age, I suppose that I'm going to find that fewer and fewer ladies in my own age range will appeal. Such is life.

 

[serijules]

I don't have a set limit, but I have never been attracted to anyone in their 20's despite only being 29 myself. Ma'am is 10 years older than me. My first dom was twice my age nearly. Ma'ams other sub just turned 50. Her maid is in his late 50's I believe. One of my good friends in the scene is nearly 60 and I'd fuck her. *shrugs* My attraction to people rarely has much to do with their age other than the exception of 18-21 grey area. The reason I'm rarely attracted to the younger crowd is likely because I'm an old soul and have little in common with younger people.

I will say that I don't consider an 18 year old an adult, no matter what the law says. In my world, you aint touching on adulthood until you are 21. I'm kind of a hypocrite in that regard. Even the most mature 18 year old usually screams "kid" to me. That being said, I have some 18-21 year old friends, but I have zero interest in participating in scene related activities with them.

 

[NemoAlia]

My age range is within six years of me, right now. I'm 27.

 

[WriterDom]

Generally I don't waste my time with anyone under 25 but there are exceptions to the rule.