do you ever feel bad about the things that turn you on?

[MissMissyMiss]

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[yandere]

this is an interesting topic.

i do, but i wouldn't want to get rid of the shame i feel about it because it is ingrained into the fetish (if you will). me feeling bad is part of the turn on, if that makes sense?

 

[MissMissyMiss]

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[sterculius]

there was an extended period during which I used to give daily blowjobs to my best friend Larry. I really, REALLY enjoyed doing this! I was blatantly shameless in my insatiable compulsion to be sucking and slobbering on his very large cock! I would offer to do it at any and every opportunity that presented itself. This all ended abruptly when we graduated from high school and he moved away to California to attend Stanford U. For many years afterward I would feel extremely ashamed at my behavior and for having had this all-consuming need for giving him blowjobs. I tried to forget that I had been a cocksucker in spite of the fact that I would masturbate regularly while fantasizing to the memory of how much I loved doing it. I got married and raised three children until finally divorcing my wife who was repeatedly unfaithful to me. At that point I resumed my oral pastime of sucking cock but with a new outlook. I accepted my need for and enjoyment of the erotically thrilling sense of subjugation and objectification that being down on my knees, giving men blowjobs afforded me. I'm a cocksucker.

 

[likeat]

I've never even given a thought to this, I am what I am

 

[MissMissyMiss]

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[bill3901]

Lately, I have felt bad about some things, but I am improving

 

[MissMissyMiss]

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[likeat]

Very different sides of the same coin... maybe.

I admire people who have no inhibitions when it comes to sex but I kinda like the fact I have a personal cap and that I know my limits.

Ah well this is a different thing, knowing ones own personal limits and not breaching them is known as self discipline?

 

[Scheherazade88]

For me this is a much more complicated question, my background is Muslim Arab and I'm female from a middle-class respectable family. Anything I do, which is sexual, is considered wrong by my social strata. We laugh and feel shame if we say pussy in Arabic, but not in English, there exist a linguistic shame too.


If something as simple as a word is taboo, you can imagine how bad it is to be a female that sucks and fucks. And I've done it all over the world too. But I'm passing the guilt and increasingly no longer feel it. I associate it with society trying to control female pleasure and sexuality, like there is something wrong with it.

I understand what you mean about the fantasy you like, as I have a thing for it too, but like you I would never wish-it upon anyone. But don't worry, you fantasizing about it, is about your own pleasure and doesn't make you a criminal or bad person. I think a lot of women like men to be a little rough, even ardent Feminists like myself.

 

[Missingout]

Actually this is an excellent topic you started Miss. For weeks now I've been wanting to start a thread about what was happening in my life but just couldn't seem to.
At one point or another I could've checked each one of those choices except "I never think about guilt".
From where I was 20 months ago till where I am now has been mentally straining and draining at times. Mostly because of labeling. There is nothing positive about labeling or being labeled. But I, for the most part, broke through that barrier and realize I am who I am. I refuse to go back and keep all these feelings bottled up and not to live them out. Life is to short and no one is getting hurt.
I feel better just typing in this thread.

 

[MissMissyMiss]

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[MissMissyMiss]

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[Scheherazade88]

And I would love to hear what you and others think of my post.

 

[MissMissyMiss]

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[bill3901]

For example, I like to watch rape scenes mostly from mainstream films because the acting quality is higher hence making it look real. But because actual rape is something I wouldn't wish on anyone and would hate to have happen to me I find it strange that I'm into that.

Maybe its a control thing, the idea of being taken.
Eitherway I feel about it sometimes and other times I can't get enough.

Have you seen the movie Straw Dogs?

 

[MissMissyMiss]

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[bill3901]

Why does the Rape Scene irritate you?

 

[PussyAddict10]

For example, I like to watch rape scenes mostly from mainstream films because the acting quality is higher hence making it look real. But because actual rape is something I wouldn't wish on anyone and would hate to have happen to me I find it strange that I'm into that.

Maybe its a control thing, the idea of being taken.
Eitherway I feel about it sometimes and other times I can't get enough.

I know it would be completely wrong to do and would never in real life but the thought is very arousing.

 

[smallgirl]

I use to feel terrible guilt. Now? Not so much. I am who I am, and I need what I need.

 

[nakedplay]

I think guilt is taught at an early age. If it is different then it must be bad. I feel guilt all the time, about what turns me on.

 

[bill3901]

I think guilt is taught at an early age. If it is different then it must be bad. I feel guilt all the time, about what turns me on.

I think it's all tangled up with religion

 

[nakedplay]

I think it's all tangled up with religion

Unfortunately you are correct

 

[DirtySecrets11]

I still do feel bad sometimes. I get turned on by different things but whatever it may be I enjoy doing it shamelessly. Like if I wanted to act like a complete slut in bed; taken and used for his own orgasms, called names and forced to my knees. I would always feel bad during and after like somehow I didn't act like the decent girl I am suppose to be.

 

[MissMissyMiss]

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