do we ever learn?

[Moonlight_33]

How many times do we go through the process of getting emotionally attached on line, only to find out it's all a bunch of crap, and little more then lies and emotional mind games? How many times do we allow our selves to be used up and cast aside in a seemingly never ending cycle of getting sucked in and spat out? Perhaps this time i will learn. I sure hope i do, cause i doubt i could live through it happening again. So when your stealing a heart, and fliting with sweet words, have a thought for the one your playing with, they have hearts and fellings too, and lies cut deep. With holding the truth is as bad as a lie, and emotional wounds cut deep, and take time to heal. Learn from my pain, when next your *harmlessly flirting*



As i gift just for you
I will write you this poem
and try to forgive you
for leaving me alone
I will take back some time
and heal what i can
i'll think not of your crime
and the harm that's been done
I'll take back my heart
and surround it with stone
to hurt never more
safe here, all alone.
I'm sorry if this hurts you
perhaps you did care
it hurts me to look up
and know your not there
So i'll see you tomorow
or some day there after
when my heart's not so tender
and not such a disaster
so heavy i sigh
no more tears will i shed
i've said my goood bye
to a love that's now dead.

 

[Cheyenne]

Ouch.

If there ever was a good example that the things people say and do here ARE real, this is it.

Words can hurt others. I've always hated the "but this isn't real, it's all fantasy" excuse.

 

[Nicole]

All I can say to you is ... I'm so very sorry that you're hurting. I hope you can move on form this and be happy.

Good Luck

 

[Mistress]

Been through it too many times to even admit...

 

[Moonlight_33]

so why do we keep doing it?

It seems beyond me.

 

[Cheyenne]

so why do we keep doing it?

One word: hope.

 

[doctor_insanus]

so why do we keep doing it?

It seems beyond me.

Because you're a romantic. Unfortunately, that sort of thing tends to happen to romantics.

I know. I've had some impromptu heart surgery done a couple of times myself. Probably not the last time, either.

Be well. You're not alone.

 

[morninggirl5]

so why do we keep doing it?

One word: hope.

You are so right. Hope is the one thing that is impossible to completely kill.

 

[unusuallyconfused]

We can cry on each others shoulders. It sucks to hurt this bad. Please have some very fattening yummy food and read a great book or take a bubble bath with wine.

Pamper yourself. That always helps a little.

 

[Xander]

Been there, done that. And there's porbaly a few out there that hate me for my choices.
But You know what, its worth it.
Words cut deeply, being pushed away cut deeply. There a whole can of worms there that will cut right throught the bone.
But it will never stop me from searching out, what I believe will make me happy. Online IRL, where ever you can think off.

And you know what, Right now I am a very happy man. Resolved and knowing what to fight for, and knowing where I stand.

There's nothing worse in the world of emotions, Than being strung along and kept in the dark, not knowing a god damn thing.

 

[Guest]

How many times do we go through the process of getting emotionally attached on line, only to find out it's all a bunch of crap, and little more then lies and emotional mind games?

Not all online relationships end in disaster. My Man and I have been going strong for a while now. He's been wonderful. And, like Xander said about him, I know there are some here who hate me due to past mistakes too, but I don't care. To hate someone for something that didn't even involve you is completely stupid. What's important to me is that my Man and I have been back together (from a month or two of my complete blind stupidity) since Jan now, and we keep moving more and more into a positive light.

Good luck to you.

 

[Angel]

Sorry, Tiggs. I just hate you because you're a jerk Just Kidding.

In all seriousness? Sometimes you've just been stepped on so many goddamn times IRL that when someone catches your attention online it seems so much safer that way. You think that they're so far away that they can't hurt you. Sometimes it works out, and sometimes it doesn't.

It's the same with offline relationships when they go bad- maybe even worse because all you can see is typing... You're never going to truly understand what exactly is going on in the head of the other person.

 

[Guest]

In all seriousness? Sometimes you've just been stepped on so many goddamn times IRL that when someone catches your attention online it seems so much safer that way. You think that they're so far away that they can't hurt you. Sometimes it works out, and sometimes it doesn't.

I agree 100%. Last July, when my ex (whom I used to come to Lit and cry about) and I split up, I turned to the net for friendships/relationships. I thought it/I would be safe. Flirt a little, have some fun, but nothing would come from it. That's when I met my Man. We had quite a bit in common and we got along wonderfully. We talked about meeting. I think that's when I started to get scared some. Noe scared about meeting a man from "the net" (I've done that before, it's no biggie). I mean scared about this new relationship taking off so soon after a major break up. I did what I always do. I subconsciously sabotaged the relationship so I'd have an "easy way out". I found an even further away man that I started talking to, etc. Long story short (well too late for that, eh?)... LONG story shortened down a hair? lol My first post here is where I am in my life now. And I couldn't be happier.