Do they know???

[dirty_sumbit]

Sorry

Sorry for rambling

 

[cfuhrer]

no one knows and none of them would even guess.
I've got too much of an innocent face, for them to even consider tht i do it.

This. I guess being a virgin until later than "normal" tends to throw folks off that scent.

 

[Penuche]

Some who know I'm Pagan (I'm not in the closet, but I don't advertise it either) might have a glimmering of an idea about some of my preferences.

 

[cfuhrer]

No. I have a semi-public job in the private sector. Thus my private indulgences must remain private. It's an unfortunate reality.

I hope to be there some day so my not being fully open is partially playing the long game.

To "them" I am one of the most polite, respectful, straight laced guy you will every meet... so only those who have known me intimately would know..

Also, I look at it as: kink is what happens in my private space and not everyone needs to know what happens in my private space.

To me I enjoy the secrets.
I like being in a room of people and know that none of them could picture the things I'm into
The secrets are hot

And some of it is that secrets are hot. Nothing like sitting down to Sunday dinner with the family knowing what we did on Saturday night.


Yeah - I'm full of contradictions.

 

[Foxyrox]

Only one friend knows, and in all honesty she is not even someone I know that well, but I mentioned it one night in conversation, as she is into similar things. I would never tell anyone else. I don't think anyone would ever suspect.

 

[J_R_Ashunwhy]

My friends all know. Family, I assume does not.

 

[BabyLucy88]

Some of my friends had a small clue..
My older friend had an Ann Summers party, when the lady got out the paddle and smacked it on her thigh apparently I went very red in the face. Suddenly they all laughed and shouted "Lucy likes to spank! Lucy likes a spanking!" I just laughed and actually told them that yeah...I do

 

[Rigger287]

No they don't know - but that's just one of my sexual secrets.

 

[misskitty2k15]

Most of my friends know because I'm pretty open about it. I don't mind letting my friends know that I enjoy that type of thing. I am not in a traditional BDSM relationship though. I have both dominant and submissive traits but my fiancee is straight dominant. I don't live as a sub and he isn't a full time dom, we just incorporate it whenever we feel like it. My friends know that I have a collar that I wear sometimes and that I like pain. None of them understand it but once I told them how enjoyable it is some of them have asked their s/o to try certain things and almost 100% across the board they all enjoyed being spanked, having their hair pulled or just really rough sex where you're treated like a sex toy and it's not about love making or any of that it's just about pleasure. So they've tried just a teeny bit of it and like it.

 

[jonnysimple]

If you know of someone, eg., your neighbor, whom is on this site, and you talk to them, then they automatically know that you are on this site as well, and therefore, you BOTH have a secret to keep.

If it was me, I would first PM them and be subtle and understanding about it, but gauge who they are first. If they are very open about their sexuality, then you will risk being "outed" because of their own attitude. If it's someone who doesn't particularly like you, then it's a no-brainer.

I think what's worse is the guy who shows up for a meet and bumps into his daughter's best friend, but then finds out she's the meet.

 

[M_SNashCouple]

Nope. I live in the Bible Belt so it's not something to advertise. Plus I have a job in a hospital and we have an elementary aged child so...no lol

 

[inkyprimal]

Some do, some don't. I'm open with it as in, if I am asked about it then I will generally answer 'yes', but I also don't go into a lot of detail - if they want to pry more information out of me, they can ask. Otherwise, I keep it to myself. Thankfully at least, quite a high number of my friends are kinksters to one degree or another, ranging from just awareness to actively practising.

 

[BBbumboy]

Just a few, but that's not a problem for me. My kinks are pretty extreme but also personal so most of the time I separate the friend relationship from any sexual aspects of my life. If I want to talk about them, that's what I hope to use lit for!

 

[TomPal]

Just one person does

 

[Lord_Steve]

If you found out that someone on here was in your daily life? A co-worker or neighbor.

Maybe you read a post 'young lady looking to be owned by strong male'.
and its your next door neighbor.

or for me, I would love to chat with a strong female.
so find out a co-worker is into using and a abusing men.

would you go up to them, do you try to talk with them here first

I have always thought what would I do if one day watching porn I see my co-worker. or someone else I know.

Has this happen to anyone?

it seems like you are nuturing a fetish, op, which is fine but maybe you should be honest about it! good luck, though

 

[MistressMaggie]

Roommate is also a Domme so she knows everything.
Social friends know most.
One coworker knows first hand.
Mom and Dad know I make older men cry. haha

 

[deedee94]

I was at my Aunts for dinner last night, and my cousin is 3 years younger than me. I hate TV and asked him to pass me the zapper. He said ‘What’
‘The remote, not a cattle prod. Pass it to me.’
He did and I turned off the tv. After about a minute later, he said ‘You know, I’ve always wanted that done to me’
‘What, be zapped with a cattle prod?’
‘Yeah, that and tazered, and maced’ Then he went on to explain how he’d like to be branded. I asked him if he was shitting me, aka joking. And then I looked at him, carefully, trying to fathom if he knew what kink I get up to, which is none of the above. But no tell tale smirk of any kind.

I could help him with his desires, but I don’t think it would go down well with my partners.

He came with us to the movies with us today, and I so wanted him to know i wasn't wearing any underwear, and had a butt plug and ben wa balls in their right holes.

 

[9to5]

I was at my Aunts for dinner last night, and my cousin is 3 years younger than me. I hate TV and asked him to pass me the zapper. He said ‘What’
‘The remote, not a cattle prod. Pass it to me.’
He did and I turned off the tv. After about a minute later, he said ‘You know, I’ve always wanted that done to me’
‘What, be zapped with a cattle prod?’
‘Yeah, that and tazered, and maced’ Then he went on to explain how he’d like to be branded. I asked him if he was shitting me, aka joking. And then I looked at him, carefully, trying to fathom if he knew what kink I get up to, which is none of the above. But no tell tale smirk of any kind.

I could help him with his desires, but I don’t think it would go down well with my partners.

He came with us to the movies with us today, and I so wanted him to know i wasn't wearing any underwear, and had a butt plug and ben wa balls in their right holes.

should have just said "I am really feeling very full down there"

 

[TomPal]

Do whatever makes you happy! Who cares who knows and who doesn't

 

[James1324]

.....

 

[MarianneRavenwood]

No, they don't. They don't need to.