do older girls still get wet?

[phuzeee]

I (55) have been with an older lady (53) on and off for a time now and I have noticed that even tho she wants to have sex and she enjoys it when we do she very rarely gets wet on her own. We keep a little bottle of astro glide around for lube and she gets totally turned on when I get her lips and vagina wet and drippy. However I am wondering if this is normal for you older girls or is she just not that turned on by me and my attention to her, she does love to have sex and often initiates it between the two of us....so tell me how to read this one ladies

 

[sexyvixen1987]

She might be close to menopause or going through menopause - one of the signs is vaginal dryness. I think you just need to trust her if she says she's enjoying it.

 

[butters]

it is very very common in women over 45 and experiencing their menpause. just use lube - make sure she feels comfortable telling you if there are other things you can do to improve her pleasure (and therefore yours), and unless she says there's a problem between you just accept this is really quite usual though by no means exclusive.

 

[sexyvixen1987]

I already gave a serious response so I can say this now: if you're 55 and she's younger than you, why are you still referring to her as an 'older lady' in your post? It makes sense in the title of the thread, but the way you've worded your post it makes it sound like you think you should be with someone younger.

 

[m468h]

I (55) have been with an older lady (53) on and off for a time now and I have noticed that even tho she wants to have sex and she enjoys it when we do she very rarely gets wet on her own. We keep a little bottle of astro glide around for lube and she gets totally turned on when I get her lips and vagina wet and drippy. However I am wondering if this is normal for you older girls or is she just not that turned on by me and my attention to her, she does love to have sex and often initiates it between the two of us....so tell me how to read this one ladies

I'm not sure how to be polite about this at all....you're 55 and wondering why your older lady (53) needs lube.
I think there's a few problems here already but I won't go there.

I'll just say that using lube is a good thing and it's also used with women of alllll ages.

Wow.

 

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[phuzeee]

I am refering to her as an older lady because thats what she is and I am also considering myself to be an older man please don't try and tell me that I am just a middle aged guy and I have some sort of problem...I consider people in their fifties to be older folks nothing bad about that we all get older as life goes on, unless you are planning on living to be ...oh say maybe 150 or so then I would say that I am still a young guy. Please don't try and read between the lines and find thoughts and ideas there that I do not intend, I see us both as older people not senior citizens or crispy critters just older, on the lighter side thanks for your info I found it to be helpful and insightful

 

[infinity706]

The only thing it's likely evidence of is that she hasn't gotten to fuck as regularly as some other women her age. Women that keep up a regular pattern of serveral times a month and/or can't keep their hands off themselves seem to maintain their lubrication, tightness, and everything else. Of course, that just means you two have a little time to make up for.

 

[TallMan60]

The only thing it's likely evidence of is that she hasn't gotten to fuck as regularly as some other women her age. Women that keep up a regular pattern of serveral times a month and/or can't keep their hands off themselves seem to maintain their lubrication, tightness, and everything else. Of course, that just means you two have a little time to make up for.

Interesting, I had no idea that had something to do with it. I have been with women in their 50's and 60's and they have had no trouble with natural lubrication.

I'm generally very interested in this topic as well.

 

[Cathleen]

The only thing it's likely evidence of is that she hasn't gotten to fuck as regularly as some other women her age. Women that keep up a regular pattern of serveral times a month and/or can't keep their hands off themselves seem to maintain their lubrication, tightness, and everything else. Of course, that just means you two have a little time to make up for.

Huh? So says your vagina? lol




phuzeee, like many others menopause does play a role on the issue. I don't always get wet as when I was younger, things change, it's no biggie. It's part of the gloriousness of being a female.

sexyvixen1987's comment about trusting what she's telling you and how she is responding is excellent advice.

 

[NippleMuncher]

I have to agree with the OP on "older lady". All he meant was that he's not dating some young premenopausal thing.

I find myself in the same boat, my lady is mid 50's and postmenopausal, I'm mid 40's. Over the past year she's been experiencing a lack of natural lubrication. We've been compensating with increased foreplay and lube. While there is a good amount of truth to "use it or lose it", this is a common thing for post menopausal women to experience.

 

[thatgirl2136]

wow give the poor guy a break. he was explaining his situation not attacking her age.

 

[timy756]

Haven't you heard the famous quote?

"Older women never die; they just fade away"

Yep, good ole General MacArthur I think.

 

[phuzeee]

Once again THANK YOU ALL for the responses and the info...seems that maybe this is not something so uncommon. My thinking was that maybe she just did not find me appealing and hence the lack of moisture...I was always under the idea that if a woman was turned on by what is going on she would be "wet " and since this was not the case I was concerned that maybe I had lost my touch! Oh and the font size will stay large so that I can read it without my tri-focals on, that happens when you get OLDER!

 

[butters]

I'm okay with the screen, but try seeing the number on the front of a bus? Where's me glasses?

 

[timy756]

changing zoom level helps too

 

[phuzeee]

wow give the poor guy a break. he was explaining his situation not attacking her age.

I'd like to kiss the back of your neck and whisper in your ear just how much I appreciate those understanding words.....Phuzeee]

 

[StrayKat]

Oh and the font size will stay large so that I can read it without my tri-focals on, that happens when you get OLDER!

Lol. Bless you

 

[m468h]

I'm continuously amazed that men, in general, lack so much knowledge about a womans body.

 

[darjingle]

other strategems

My post-menopausal sweetie doesn't tolerate lubes well, unfortunately since I love them. She uses an estrogen patch that's kept her pretty juicy, not like a 20-year old but good enough for my geezer-dick. Plus she looks like a total Borg wearing it. There's also a lot to be said for spit. Your partner could ask her Doctor about the patch, which will also alleviate any hot flashes she might be suffering.

 

[phuzeee]

I'm continuously amazed that men, in general, lack so much knowledge about a womans body.

Well thats why I asked the question....geeeze!

 

[Bandit58]

I'm almost 51 and am still able to get very wet and even gush/squirt, but then I am also still taking birth control (Yasmin, low dose pill).

However I don't seem to be able to tolerate rough G spot play as well as I used to - the last time Sir used His fingers I noticed some slight bleeding afterwards and some soreness around my vaginal entrance. I have read that the vaginal walls get thinner as women age, so maybe that is the problem.

 

[fabricator]

changing zoom level helps too

I'm at 125% myself...................

 

[sexysharonmilf]

I (55) have been with an older lady (53) on and off for a time now and I have noticed that even tho she wants to have sex and she enjoys it when we do she very rarely gets wet on her own. We keep a little bottle of astro glide around for lube and she gets totally turned on when I get her lips and vagina wet and drippy. However I am wondering if this is normal for you older girls or is she just not that turned on by me and my attention to her, she does love to have sex and often initiates it between the two of us....so tell me how to read this one ladies

Menopause causes dryness. I had a hysto in my early 20s, ovaries didn't develop, but had no problems. If she's having fun, just use a good lube. Some women just don't produce a lot of juices anyway. The new his and hers is okay. Sure it is normal since, like I said, some women don't get that wet at any age.

 

[BertrandRussell]

My wife is fifty-mumble years old, and keeps lube around just like yours.

I believe that she is a refutation of the 'use it or lose it' theory, as she has been active for decades, losing natural lubrication when menopause arrived.

BTW, I'm getting to the point where I like larger letters too. But instead of imposing my problem on the rest of the world, I use ctrl-plus to make the letters larger in my browser and noplace else. Try it.