do men pick up on signals?

[Avery_Chisholm]

I volunteer with this man who I really really LIKE and I want 2 get 2 know better but how should I go about approaching him on the subject(DAMN i wish i wasn't so shy)like i was putting my head on his shoulders' last nite in a whole room full of people and he didn't seem 2 mind do ya think that would give him the impression that i like him??? and i haven't heard him speak of a gf and he doesn't have a ring on his finger......HELP please i get 2 see him tomorrow nite YIPPPPPPPPPPPPPIE!

 

[freescorfr]

Avery, dear, every post on Lit says "Say It right out!", in response to your situation. Communicate.

Actually, hoping people will pick up signals, is a relationship killer. How often have I heard, "Well, I thought you'd have known what I wanted!" - when I didn't. Accused and found guilty of not being a mind-reader. Accused, even, of not loving well enough "If you loved me you'd know what I was feeling!"

If you send a message - it's often wise to check if it's been received, especially if it's important to you - and also to check that it's been understood.

 

[Ishmael]

Avery, dear, every post on Lit says "Say It right out!", in response to your situation. Communicate.

Actually, hoping people will pick up signals, is a relationship killer. How often have I heard, "Well, I thought you'd have known what I wanted!" - when I didn't. Accused and found guilty of not being a mind-reader. Accused, even, of not loving well enough "If you loved me you'd know what I was feeling!"

If you send a message - it's often wise to check if it's been received, especially if it's important to you - and also to check that it's been understood.

What he said.

Ishamel

 

[Calamity Jane]

If you send a message - it's often wise to check if it's been received, especially if it's important to you - and also to check that it's been understood.

Yup, good advice as always from our friendly neighborhood displaced scotsman.

In my experience, people are pretty dense when it comes to interpersonal hints. If you want someone to know you're interested, you have to tell them you're interested.

 

[Spinaroonie]

I will speak for ever guy I know:

Signals? WHAT signals? Look we go two ways, we're oblivious or we overanalyze and do nothing. Most of the time you'resending all sorts of small woman signals. We don't know they're there. We really don't.

Don't rely on signals, you will get nothing.

 

[pussy4u40]

What he said.

Ishamel

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[labrynth]

~ maybe he is just as shy as you are-

 

[Ishmael]

Are you picking up on my signal Ishmael?

Of course I am dear. Now, would you like fries with that order?

Ishmael

 

[KillerMuffin]

Signals men pick up on:

I like you, wanna fuck/date/get some coffee/get married?

Signals men miss:

Everything else.


Or am I jaundiced in my views?

 

[pussy4u40]

~ maybe he is just as shy as you are-

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[pussy4u40]

Of course I am dear. Now, would you like fries with that order?

Ishmael

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[lisalove]

I think putting your head on his shoulder is an obvious indication you're interested in him. I wouldn't say outright how much you want a relationship yet...play a little coy and flirty for awhile and see how he responds.

 

[glamorilla]

Men should be clubbed over the head and dragged back to the cave by the hair.























Then kept barefoot and pregnant.

 

[Dream_Chaser]

not all men miss out on the signals. Maybe most, i'm not sure. I would say most men are more visually attuned than the women.

 

[Ishmael]

Yes please....fries and all the extras

Ahhhhhhhh, then you want the 'Happy Meal'.

Ishmael

 

[pussy4u40]

Ahhhhhhhh, then you want the 'Happy Meal'.

Ishmael

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[Mr. Bootie]

lmao!! Nope, Sometimes you just have to drop bricks on our heads.

I know that I don't always pick up on signals. Hints are good, but would more than likely be ignored if I wasn't abaolutely sure of the intent. Once I know what is going on. ( How true the feelings are, than I'm more likely to return them. ) Good Luck. The direct approach is best I think. Have fun.


kgboot
aka "Mr. Bootie"

 

[Ishmael]

Happy meals aren't very satisfying. I want the" super sized meal".

Oh, you mean the all you can eat, satisfy you for 24 hours special?

Ishmael

 

[Hamletmaschine]

Sometimes I think we all had it figured out better in third grade: you like someone, so you tell your blabbermouth friend that you are secretly in love with person X. Your blabbermouth friend runs over to blabbermouth friend of person X, who in turn relays the information to X. Person X tells his/her blabbermouth friend "I like/don't like him/her," etc. The circle is completed, the closest thing to perfect communication.

 

[pussy4u40]

Oh, you mean the all you can eat, satisfy you for 24 hours special?

Ishmael

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[Ishmael]

Mmmmm yes. You pick up signals really well Ishmael.

Sorry, sold out until next weekend.

We do have the 'do it yourself' package on special though. Comes with a free 'super soaker' if your interseted?

Ishmael

 

[pussy4u40]

Sometimes I think we all had it figured out better in third grade: you like someone, so you tell your blabbermouth friend that you are secretly in love with person X. Your blabbermouth friend runs over to blabbermouth friend of person X, who in turn relays the information to X. Person X tells his/her blabbermouth friend "I like/don't like him/her," etc. The circle is completed, the closest thing to perfect communication.

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[pussy4u40]

Sorry, sold out until next weekend.

We do have the 'do it yourself' package on special though. Comes with a free 'super soaker' if your interseted?

Ishmael

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[freescorfr]

Sometimes I think we all had it figured out better in third grade: you like someone, so you tell your blabbermouth friend that you are secretly in love with person X. Your blabbermouth friend runs over to blabbermouth friend of person X, who in turn relays the information to X. Person X tells his/her blabbermouth friend "I like/don't like him/her," etc. The circle is completed, the closest thing to perfect communication.

I'm not for creating a blabbermouth caste, Hamletsmachine, for the sake of conveying messages I might perfectly well transmit myself. Coolies, porters, minions who take care of my own frailties, which I could take care of myself, and be all the stronger for it.

Blabbermouths in the ninth grade were the best we had: and they were good. These days communication skills could have curriculum time from Kindergarten on and blabbermouths can take their place among the best of us.

 

[RawHumor]

The plain truth of the matter is that most men just don't get subtle hints.

It's been a complaint of wives for ages.