Do I have cuckold fantasy?

[BrownScorpio]

This fantasy and word is overused lately, here and other place, which made me think about several thoughts and fantasy I had.

I have a stable marriage with satisfactory sex life. My wife is a little reserved but explorative from time to time. We have had several non traditional sex experience but the thought of extramarital sex never appears between us. I was lucky to be her first partner and the only so far, at least she claimed it. There’s one or twice she said that it’s unfair that I had several women before her but she had only me, but didn’t go any further than that. Our sex life is ok now, not as great at when without kids. I can give her one or two orgasms each time. I could give her 5-6 back in the days. There’re times that she’s really horny, I played with her clit after I came in her and she had several orgasms, she still responded and came when I fingerfucked her, which means her sex drive is little more than I can satisfy.

There’re also times that we played some restraint with her tied down to the bed at I did whatever I wanted to her. A thought came across my mind that it would be nice if a guy with big dick sneak in and fuck her now to see how wild she can be with orgasms. I even fantasize about a birthday party for her at some remote hotel, I would do the same, tie her down to bed, blindfold her, and have a male massage service to serve and fuck her with me watching.

I’m wondering whether I’m a cuckold with that fantasy. I definitely do nit want any humiliation or open marriage, just want my wife to get the sexual satisfaction that may be there beyond my capacity. I definitely can not imagine the consequences to our marriage if I carry out that fantasy.

 

[Islander55]

You certainly have a cuckold fantasy but it does not sound like you really want her to fully enjoy other men. And it is certainly not something that you want to spring on her by surprise. If you were both into it, you would really need to let her be in charge of who, where and when. And there is no need for humiliation unless that is your thing. After all most women would be able to take care of two men. I certainly do not know her well enough to say they she might be into it but I am pretty sure that she has had a thought or two about what it might be like with another man. The lifestyle can be a lot of fun for both partners if you are fully into it but it can have some serious pitfalls if you have any doubts about ti.

 

[magicalmoments]

Your story sounds almost identical to my 1st marriage. In our case I introduced the idea of, for want of a better word, "swinging", when our marriage was at the stage yours appears to be at now. This was pre internet days and I found an adult contact magazine at the local adult shop and bought it home. Long story short this magazine was the catalyst for us to start really discussing and sharing our sexual fantasies for he first time. This included both of our desire to experience sex with other people, (we had given our virginity to each other), we talked about the risks of bringing other people in to our marriage, how much we valued and loved each other, how mch we both wanted to keep what we had and how we reconciled that with the fantasy of having sex with others. The impact on our sex lives was immediate, it improved to being better than when we were first married. After a year or so she placed a profile in the magazine and we started meeting other couples. We carried on with this very successfully for the next 18 years we were together.

The lessons I learned. The key message was protecting the marriage, especially for my wife, she needed to know beyond any doubt that if we did this, it would not threaten our marriage. Knowing we had each others backs and would not cross any boundary that might threaten the marriage. That if one said stop there was no argument, we stoped. Honesty and trust were they other key elements.

Listen to what Islander55 says, she knows what she is talking about.

 

[BrownScorpio]

Thank you both Islander55 and magicalmoments for your very eloquent responses.

I’ll try to find a way to initiate such conversation with my wife. She still has a some cultural reservation about sex although I know she could definitely enjoy it more.

 

[magicalmoments]

Thank you both Islander55 and magicalmoments for your very eloquent responses.

I’ll try to find a way to initiate such conversation with my wife. She still has a some cultural reservation about sex although I know she could definitely enjoy it more.

No problem, I hope you're able to work it out. Would love to have updates on how it goes.

 

[RIPAphrodite]

Love the kinkiness

 

[DeepAchingNeed]

Thank you both Islander55 and magicalmoments for your very eloquent responses.

I’ll try to find a way to initiate such conversation with my wife. She still has a some cultural reservation about sex although I know she could definitely enjoy it more.

ALL of this, and the beautifully real and eloquent responses you have gotten, can be reminders of what we prioritize and value, even as we allow ourselves to imagine and consider things that are "outside" of what we may think of as the standard of acceptability. The TRUTH is, if you are open, honest, and willing enough to have deep, meaningful, and sincere conversations with your partner, it will reinforce the tether and bond that you share. It might even give her the space to begin believing that you really do want her to be happier sensually and sexually, and that you do not take it as an offense that she might try different ways of finding that. It even goes beyond that and allows YOUR place in such considerations to be one where you are an equal part of that potential exploration!.... the more safe, secure, solid, and comfortable that you each are with one another... the deeper and more open, creative, and real that you can be... the better!! As you build your relationship and really do have deep, meaningful, and even challenging or difficult conversations and find yourself more bound to one another and truly really showing up how your partner wishes you to, the strength of coming through those tough and challenging conversations (and all of the bullshit stories we tell ourselves out of fear and doubt and insecurity) creates a reality where you are much stronger together- knowing you can and will weather any storm to come, and where you know that you really can count on and rely upon them, and they - you. Let your faith in one another and what you have created together be greater than your fear! It IS possible...

 

[CuttingEdge]

I think it is pretty natural for a husband who loves his wife or girlfriend to be shared with another man. Certainly, personality types play into that a lot, but what husband has not been a little ashamed of them cumming a little too quickly during sex, or looked down and realized other men might be a bit longer and thicker in girth? Or maybe not do as much foreplay as they should, or even truncate after-glow as I admit… far too many times I have been lulled to sleep too quickly after sex. The point here is, we love our wives and girlfriends, and yet we have felt we have also let them down in terms of sexual pleasure.

But how could we not feel that way?

A woman is so much different. My best day ever was being on my honeymoon and have sex three times a day, and yet that last time my orgasm was a hard-fought battle to get there, and I think when I came, it was but a drop of semen. I remember it was a little different for my wife and counting 81 times; from Friday to Sunday night, the number of orgasms she had. They varied in intensity granted, and clearly that was using fingers, mouth, her fingers and putting plenty of batteries in her vibrator, but the point is, women are capable of so much more than us men. How could but the most arrogant husband, feel they are not fully providing for their wife’s sexual needs?

I have wife-shared, but never been there when she was, and I think I am missing out. To be nibbling on her ear and telling her sweet nothings while another man plunges away into her depths, would be divine for her I would think. Or just as she is really getting into sex and I cum within her, there is another to take my place and prolong the sexual pleasure for her. And that is just it, the idea of wife-sharing, or even MMF has that appeal, because I want her to have extended sexual pleasure. I love her and I want her to have all that she is capable of.

But I am not sure that is what a lot of ladies hear when their husband broaches the subject of wife-sharing. I think they hear, ‘Oh, he wants to share me so that he has an excuse so he can have that other woman that he always wanted”. That may be true for some husband’s, but I know that is not the case with me. I think for a lot of husbands who find wife-sharing attractive, is because they deeply love their wives’ and perceive that their wife deserves more. The key word there is PERCIEVE because all men fall short of what a lady is capable of in terms of sex.

Still, I think before anyone broaches the subject with their wife in real life, it is important to consider how their wife might think, because it might be radically different than how they are thinking. I know mine is hesitant about a MMF because she thinks she will be ignored as I explore bisexualism with him, and that is NOT the case at all; I just want her to be doubly pleasured. I need to have that conversation first though, and reassure her. I think far too many men rush in thinking, “she is going to love that I want her to be doubly pleasured because I love her that much’, and instead she is deeply hurt because of the exact opposite way she is thinking, and the relationship suffers.

 

[JoeBeans2751]

Well you could buy a large dildo, tie her up blind fold her and fuck her with the fake cock! Check out my stories The John Holmes Model..pts 1-4..in The Masturbation/ TOY section..

 

[policywank]

Letting her be in charge of the details is very important. Don't even get into your own fantasies until the discussion is well advanced and it is clear that she is receptive. Even if she is inclined to embrace having sex with another man it doesn't mean she wants to be tied up blindfolded and fucked by a stranger. If that is on the menu at all it isn't likely where she would want to start. And if she is at all pensive the best way to kill her enthusiasm would be to project something like that onto her.

 

[Vitriolhack]

This fantasy and word is overused lately, here and other place, which made me think about several thoughts and fantasy I had.

I have a stable marriage with satisfactory sex life. My wife is a little reserved but explorative from time to time. We have had several non traditional sex experience but the thought of extramarital sex never appears between us. I was lucky to be her first partner and the only so far, at least she claimed it. There’s one or twice she said that it’s unfair that I had several women before her but she had only me, but didn’t go any further than that. Our sex life is ok now, not as great at when without kids. I can give her one or two orgasms each time. I could give her 5-6 back in the days. There’re times that she’s really horny, I played with her clit after I came in her and she had several orgasms, she still responded and came when I fingerfucked her, which means her sex drive is little more than I can satisfy.

There’re also times that we played some restraint with her tied down to the bed at I did whatever I wanted to her. A thought came across my mind that it would be nice if a guy with big dick sneak in and fuck her now to see how wild she can be with orgasms. I even fantasize about a birthday party for her at some remote hotel, I would do the same, tie her down to bed, blindfold her, and have a male massage service to serve and fuck her with me watching.

I’m wondering whether I’m a cuckold with that fantasy. I definitely do nit want any humiliation or open marriage, just want my wife to get the sexual satisfaction that may be there beyond my capacity. I definitely can not imagine the consequences to our marriage if I carry out that fantasy.

There is nothing wrong with your fantasy, it is shared by more than 50% of other men.

Women, as they mature especially in their 35-45 range have an INCREASED sex drive. That’s just biology, there is nothing you can do about it.

Here’s a thought, next time she brings it up, hopefully you two will be in bed, try to “pretend” you are a stranger or at least someone else she fancies. 50% of women have a fantasy of being taken by a romantic stranger. Play to that fantasy, maybe it will turn her on.

If you can both talk about it, then your intimacy will actually grow. You will be closer to her and her to you knowing that you share something together.

Maybe she will want to have sex with another man, how would you feel about that? Would it be that terrible?

No you do not have to respond to the cuck cliché. There are many ways couples can enjoy a third party in the bedroom that doesn’t invoke humiliation and degradation; not that there is anything wrong with that to the consenting adults who enjoy that in their couple’s life.

 

[KinkStevens]

Most of mine are dark af, but here are a few. My now ex and I go to a tropical destination, she plays the fag hag and finds 3-4 dicks to throat and sodomize me while Im dressed like a cheap whore. They DAP me and nut in both of my holes, all the while she’s orchestrating, guiding me, and verbally assaulting me. Another is to organize the same for her. A third one is to facefuck my buddy’s wife, cum in her mouth and send her home to hubby for a deep kiss greeting

 

[svengali_decL]

when I fingerfucked her, which means her sex drive is little more than I can satisfy.

I don't believe that is true and you are drawing conclusions erroneously.
The ability for a woman to orgasm and well, isn't necessarily related to her 'drive'. Many will be satisfied with one, or only achieve one. Hell I've known a couple who couldn't orgasm EVER, even with 8" in them. Nothing, they may as well have been asexual.

Now, a woman who does enjoy and desire multiple orgasms may go after them; as I've recited elsewhere its perfectly feasible to copulate and then enjoy multiple finger (or fisting) fantasy orgasms etc. Should she demand more? If she thinks you want to as well. Would she accept another persons input, who can tell unless the question is raised.

Just FWIW, I'll read the rest now...