Do i got a Problem?

[SIC]

Hey all, Do i got a problem? I think i do because me and my ex have been brokin up for the last 5 months and all we do is talk once in a while and what not. Now i have become every good a picking up girls when we go out. I have gone on alot of dates in this 5 months.

Now with about 5 of the girl i have had them naked and done some touching and stuff like that. But i cant bring myself to having sex with them? For some reason in the back of my mind i think it wrong and just cant pull through on it. Like last week i had one of the girls stay at my place for like 3 nights not in a row. I did like the "warm" up stuff with her i just couldnt have sex with her and i know she is down for it because she really likes me.

Now every girl i have meet i have told that i aint looking for a relationship right now and i am 100% straight up with them i dont lie and play games and they are all fine with it and still want to go out with me.

Now the last girl i was with amanda she started asking questions about my ex and wanted to see pictures one night so i just showed her and then she started to freakout about me talking about her mean while she is the one asking the question and i am just awnsering them. Then she will be like well it seem like you guys have done everything together and i was like yeah we were together for 2 years straight.

This amanda girl still likes me alot and is calling all the fuckin time. I am fine with that till all her friends came up to me and were like are you amanda's James and i was like no i am just james and nobody owns me thank you. now they think i am a asshole and i could care less really but she still likes me.

I wont lie i still love my ex and i know she still loves me and i aint sure why we aint together we just arent right now and i cant see the future.
So what is my problem why aint i really interest in girls right now ? Like i have had them completey naked and have stopped myself and i dont know any guys that would stop!!! Is there something wrong with me ??

Thx

 

[firefighter02]

Hey all, Do i got a problem? I think i do because me and my ex have been brokin up for the last 5 months and all we do is talk once in a while and what not. Now i have become every good a picking up girls when we go out. I have gone on alot of dates in this 5 months.

Now with about 5 of the girl i have had them naked and done some touching and stuff like that. But i cant bring myself to having sex with them? For some reason in the back of my mind i think it wrong and just cant pull through on it. Like last week i had one of the girls stay at my place for like 3 nights not in a row. I did like the "warm" up stuff with her i just couldnt have sex with her and i know she is down for it because she really likes me.

Now every girl i have meet i have told that i aint looking for a relationship right now and i am 100% straight up with them i dont lie and play games and they are all fine with it and still want to go out with me.

Now the last girl i was with amanda she started asking questions about my ex and wanted to see pictures one night so i just showed her and then she started to freakout about me talking about her mean while she is the one asking the question and i am just awnsering them. Then she will be like well it seem like you guys have done everything together and i was like yeah we were together for 2 years straight.

This amanda girl still likes me alot and is calling all the fuckin time. I am fine with that till all her friends came up to me and were like are you amanda's James and i was like no i am just james and nobody owns me thank you. now they think i am a asshole and i could care less really but she still likes me.

I wont lie i still love my ex and i know she still loves me and i aint sure why we aint together we just arent right now and i cant see the future.
So what is my problem why aint i really interest in girls right now ? Like i have had them completey naked and have stopped myself and i dont know any guys that would stop!!! Is there something wrong with me ??

Thx

You should seek professional help now..no..not in the morning..NOW..GO NOW..Quickly..as quickly as possible.

 

[SIC]

LOL what ?

 

[RamapoNJ]

like you said, you are still in love with your ex. Also, you still seem to have the thought it might work out in the future for both of you. This might be a major reason why you wont have sex with these girls.

a question: what do you consider cheating? (the "warm up" stuff that you said, or actual intercourse)

in my opinion, you dont seem ready for that step yet and that is the way you should leave it. Nothing seems terribly wrong to me.

 

[SIC]

Well if i were in a relationship i would think the "warming" up stuff in cheating and i aint someone that would cheat. I think cheating is wrong.

Now yes i still love her and she still loves me i know this. Its not like i dont want to move on and find a new girl and i already have some really nice girl. I just cant seem to have sex with them. Its not like i say no i cant do this i just dont go any ferther with it because it feels wrong. I aint going to wait up for my ex because i know it may never happen i aint stupid. Yes we have talk about getting back together and have gone out together like today we were together nothing happened we just went out. She is see some one else right now.

I just dont understand why it feels wrong?

 

[H0wl]

If you really are still in love with her then it feels wrong because the person who you're with isn't her.

If you really want to get over your ex then you probably need to take some time and spend it OUTSIDE a relationship.

Stop picking up girls and getting them naked

Maybe stop spending quite so much time with your ex?

Give your mind a little time to assimilate everything thats going on with your ex before you start putting stress on yourself by trying to start anything new.

 

[SIC]

yeah well i guess it might feel wrong because it aint her and it always has been or for a long time anyways.

I think the reason i think of her so much is because my friends are still with ther girlfriends for the same time and we use to all be together. yes some of them have brokin up and started up again. Now i think everytime we all go out and i watch the things they do for each other makes me think of my ex. I think a big reason that i am always picking up girls with them is because i feel like i goto. but i really dont.

I think i am putting to much stress on my self thinking about her and all the other shit thats going on at work and everything else.

I would really like to fine another really pretty girl and see were that takes me. When i say pretty i dont mean a super model i just mean somethat i am look at !! I know me talking to all this girls really bothers my ex and i dont understand why she should care so much.

I have no idea i am just confused with everything right now and i guess you could say i am under some stress and before i never did because i could just talk to my ex and she would listen and tell me her thoughts about everything.

I just want to get past it and all the feeling and things we say and start new with someone i dont know anything about.

thx for the help