Do I give good sex?

[Scentofawoman]

I just decided to post this here. I haven’t posted in awhile and I need a spot to unload some thoughts. If it gets deleted I’m cool with it.

I came onto Lit at a time when I needed a self confidence boost. Most people know when a relationship is failing a marriage is at its last fading breath, some people find solace in fantasy.

Here on Lit I rocked my mind with several sexy and creative men in many parts of the world. The words we would spill on paper would leave me breathless and buzzing for days. Pure lust to close my eyes and loose my self in words written to me. I did this for years.

And then in real life my world came crashing down. I was betrayed, abandoned, divorced and ground up like many people feel. My mind set adrift and I walked into my first fetlife munch.
I didn’t know what I was, what I wanted, I was lucky I met a real leather Don and his slave. They mentored me and I met more, real people.

Then I met him. He was raw, wounded, and pure bad boy from his posture to his pronunciation. The man/boy was primal to the core and he made my toes curl.

But I was too In my mind and emotions. All the words that flowed beautifully in Lit was not translating into real life. Instead of the stomping tigress, I was the shy kitten in the corner. He could see it too, he could sense my fire. He tried to submit but I couldn’t even sustain a passion to play.

We let each other go. He wasn’t good for me. We were too different. All the things you say to justify but I could never deny that when we did spark towards the end, we lit a bonfire.

That was 2 years ago. Since then I’ve had different sex partners and one serious relationship. Yet I still look in the mirror and wonder? Do I give good sex? None of my exe’s have complained. The serious relationship we fucked like rabbits but he Had issues.

I’m 43 now, boobs are sagging, stretch marks getting longer, arms are starting to jiggle more. . And just the other day when I’m ready to wonder if I’m doing something wrong with life I get this:

 

[Scentofawoman]

. I want you raw like you let me have it before. I'm not looking for time as friends. I'm not looking for a second girlfriend. I'm looking for a sexy erotic fuck buddy and your sexy and erotic. Your tiny, your pretty, you have sexy brown skin, your pussy is amazing, your tits are perfect, your ass is gorgeous, your asshole tastes sweet. And I want you to call me up when your not in a top mood but need a good deep dicking from an alpha male.

I miss everything about you I described and let's not forget your squirting on me. I want that. I want it in my mouth, on my face and chest, running down to my cock as I'm masturbating furiously.

Just a thought, a fantasy, a request. Think on it.



After so much time and when I was in my worst place.

Blunt honest. He knows we won’t work out again. My naysayer friend would remind me how bad we were for each other.

But I’ve looked at this almost everyday.

Oh yeah I’m going to fuck him again and it will be so primal.

And when I’m done and looking in the mirror again wondering about life and my sexuality. I’ll know the answer to my questions.

Yes I do give good sex.

 

[frmtutanota]

. I want you raw like you let me have it before. I'm not looking for time as friends. I'm not looking for a second girlfriend. I'm looking for a sexy erotic fuck buddy and your sexy and erotic. Your tiny, your pretty, you have sexy brown skin, your pussy is amazing, your tits are perfect, your ass is gorgeous, your asshole tastes sweet. And I want you to call me up when your not in a top mood but need a good deep dicking from an alpha male.

I miss everything about you I described and let's not forget your squirting on me. I want that. I want it in my mouth, on my face and chest, running down to my cock as I'm masturbating furiously.

Just a thought, a fantasy, a request. Think on it.



After so much time and when I was in my worst place.

Blunt honest. He knows we won’t work out again. My naysayer friend would remind me how bad we were for each other.

But I’ve looked at this almost everyday.

Oh yeah I’m going to fuck him again and it will be so primal.

And when I’m done and looking in the mirror again wondering about life and my sexuality. I’ll know the answer to my questions.

Yes I do give good sex.

Nice...

 

[KrazieKat69]

I’d say you give good sex if he’s calling again!!

 

[Scentofawoman]

I’d say you give good sex if he’s calling again!!

I now right?

 

[interestedtoknow]

...Yet I still look in the mirror and wonder? Do I give good sex?

Interesting question I need more information, what are you doing this weekend? May be I can get a sample.

 

[Petulence]

The answer to the question is probably not as black and white as one would hope. Most of us would probably like to believe we are great to fuck, giving our partner everything they could ever desire. But in reality, most of our partners are willing to compromise, take a little less while telling us we are everything, in order to avoid the possibility of going without.

All that matters at the end of the day is what you believe to be true. If you are doing what you can for your lover, and it is satisfying for you, then the answer should always be yes.

 

[tnman03]

A relationship based upon raw sex without further expectations isn't unheard of. So if it's your thing then do your thing, a lot of us here wouldn't mind something similar. How long it lasts is kind of moot because how long do other more conventional relationships last? We can lament the past, live in the present and hope or prepare for the future. But hopes and wishes don't always come true and letting an opportunity for something enjoyable now pass you by would be a sad thing. It's your choice.

 

[Trvlingman]

I’m 43 now, boobs are sagging, stretch marks getting longer, arms are starting to jiggle more. . And just the other day when I’m ready to wonder if I’m doing something wrong with life I get this:

Many men, myself included, find a woman who's boobs are sagging, who has stretch marks, etc. to be far sexier than a woman who is doing everything possible to artificially retain someone that they once were or someone that they wish they could be. I love when a woman accepts who she is and embraces how sexy she is.

In my opinion, great sex comes from whole-heartedly and unreservedly releasing yourself into the act. It doesn't come from appearance or specific actions, it comes from a sense of relishing your sensuality and embracing the raunchiness of sex with joy and laughter. I think that sometimes we get so concerned about whether we're doing it well that we forget it's supposed to be fun.

I think the same is true with life too. There's a lot of people that are quick to offer opinions about the "right" and "wrong" way to do live your life, and most of them just know what's right or wrong for them. If you live and fuck with passion and without reservation, you're doing it right.