NCSuthurnDarlin
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i was wondering guys would you mind being in a reltationship where you're only being used for sex or would you just go along with it...because i have a tendency to do it to guys all the time.
do guys mine being used for sex
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1stClassNiceGuy
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Well...
In my drunken state atm, I wouldn't mind at all, hehe.
Being used for sex, even though some people might say it is morally wrong, is better than no sex at all.
In my drunken state atm, I wouldn't mind at all, hehe.
Being used for sex, even though some people might say it is morally wrong, is better than no sex at all.
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Like with women...
I think it really depends on the guy and what his interests and intentions are. For the most part, I think a lot of guys would have no complaints with being "used" for sex, because they're getting something out of it too. And what guy doesn't enjoy a good no-strings fuck now and again?
However, contrary to popular opinion, guys do have feelings and are capable of genuinely caring about a woman. We do think about relationships and monogamy. We do define what the women in our lives mean to us. So, if you're with a guy in what seems like a relationship, but don't have a clear understanding that it's "just sex" or "just sex, but with the potential to turn into more" or "a real, committed relationship" then you have to be careful. Just like girls can sometimes misinterpret sex for love, guys can do the same. Of course, this also depends on what sort of relationship you have outside of having sex. If you meet, fuck, and then part ways without a word...well, it's hard to misinterpret that. But if you're friends, if you spend a lot of time together doing normal, non-sexual activities...there's always a chance for misunderstanding.
I'm probably reading way too much into the question, aren't I? Short answer: if you tell a guy you just want sex and nothing more, he'll probably be cool with it. Hell, he'll probably think he won the lottery - unless he actual had hopes of establishing a more meaningful relationship with you.
I think it really depends on the guy and what his interests and intentions are. For the most part, I think a lot of guys would have no complaints with being "used" for sex, because they're getting something out of it too. And what guy doesn't enjoy a good no-strings fuck now and again?
However, contrary to popular opinion, guys do have feelings and are capable of genuinely caring about a woman. We do think about relationships and monogamy. We do define what the women in our lives mean to us. So, if you're with a guy in what seems like a relationship, but don't have a clear understanding that it's "just sex" or "just sex, but with the potential to turn into more" or "a real, committed relationship" then you have to be careful. Just like girls can sometimes misinterpret sex for love, guys can do the same. Of course, this also depends on what sort of relationship you have outside of having sex. If you meet, fuck, and then part ways without a word...well, it's hard to misinterpret that. But if you're friends, if you spend a lot of time together doing normal, non-sexual activities...there's always a chance for misunderstanding.
I'm probably reading way too much into the question, aren't I? Short answer: if you tell a guy you just want sex and nothing more, he'll probably be cool with it. Hell, he'll probably think he won the lottery - unless he actual had hopes of establishing a more meaningful relationship with you.
1stClassNiceGuy
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I think Mephisto put it nicely.
NCtraveler
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Darlin, if a guy knows up front what the deals is, you'll have no problems. I am sure there will be no shortage of volunteers either.
As a fellow tarheel and a southern gentleman, I wish you well in your quest.
As a fellow tarheel and a southern gentleman, I wish you well in your quest.
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NCSuthurnDarlin said:
First of all this is the very first time in my entire life I ever heard a woman make a comment like this....
Secondly, if there is a woman or women in the state of Connecticut that seem to have this very same problem as NCSuthurnDarlin would you please add me to your list of victims. Of course your may have to take advantage of me for several hours and several times a week....
Thank you for your time....
Jaded1, CT
islander01
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Well if its just sex depending on the gal usually no prob. Its very hard to find a woman with the same opinion in my experiance though.
islander01
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Yeah sometimes I just want to be held
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islander01 said:Yeah sometimes I just want to be held
Especially when fur lined handcuffs and silk scarves are used to do the holding...
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I'm with Mephisto on that one. I'll play nice, suuuure, but don't get pissy if you find out I'm seeing others as well. Found out alot of women looove to have they're cake and eat it too!
Hmmmm.... speakin/typin from a woman's POV...
We can all use each other at times "just for the sex"... it's when we continue doin it on a regular basis that it becomes a problem!! Whether it's from male or female prospective, feelings CAN occur/develope over time.... it's not a probability... just a possibility!!
IMHO... Been there, done that!!!
LizA
We can all use each other at times "just for the sex"... it's when we continue doin it on a regular basis that it becomes a problem!! Whether it's from male or female prospective, feelings CAN occur/develope over time.... it's not a probability... just a possibility!!
IMHO... Been there, done that!!!
LizA
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TantaLiza said:Hmmmm.... speakin/typin from a woman's POV...
We can all use each other at times "just for the sex"... it's when we continue doin it on a regular basis that it becomes a problem!! Whether it's from male or female prospective, feelings CAN occur/develope over time.... it's not a probability... just a possibility!!
IMHO... Been there, done that!!!
LizA
Yeah I'm doin' it right now....cept she fell for me but not vice versa and it sucks cuz I do care for her but it won't last and it'll just get really bad. So time for a change really soon...........
SuperShyGuy
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If the woman I was with was honest about things, and we were both in agreement that it was purely a sexual relationship I don't see a problem. If on the other hand she was telling me how much she cared forme when all she wanted was a good hard screw, then yes I certainly would mind. I expect honesty above all things. Just my 2 cents.
