Do any of your R/L contacts know that you write erotic fiction??

[Vivacia]

Was just wondering if any of you have told either family or R/L friends that you write erotic fiction...

If you have what was their reaction?

Have any of you been caught out by chance by someone in R/L ?

How did you explain it if you were?

Just curious

 

[Cath!]

yep...lots of them do.

My husband has read most of them. My friends have read most of them. My cousins have the link to here and "quite enjoyed" them apparently...lol
And my mother knows...but I don't share them with her.

 

[sigh]

friends and family both...yes

but not my mom...if my mom "caught me" writing erotica, she'd probably be cool about it but i just can't tell her...doesn't seem right somehow

it's not likely to happen anyway...i haven't written any in ages

 

[KillerMuffin]

It's no secret. I don't bring it up, but if someone asks what I'm working on I'll tell them. It's not something that pops up frequently in casual conversation, ya know?

"Hey Madge, how are the kids?"

"Great! Tommy made the honor roll again, Sally is on the debate team, I write pornography for the Internet, and Bobby's braces are coming off next week."

 

[cymbidia]

All of my BDSM friends know.

Some of my non-BDSM friends know.

A few of my relatives know, like a handful of cousins and my mother.

My father and my two sisters do *not* know. I don't think they could handle it!

I've given my Lit page addy to all those who know.
If they know about my erotica it means they know about my sexuality, so i'm careful to whom i'm open with regard to my writing.

 

[Calamity Jane]

My mom and sisters know... don't think dad does. My step-dad does though. Ummm... most of my friends do, and I think all of the above have read my stuff posted here, and some of my stuff that isn't posted.

People know I write, and when they ask what I'm working on, I tell them. Whether it's a poem, a short story, or erotica. Nothin to be ashamed of, right?

 

[Tyrael]

Only one of my friends know I write erotic stories but it's not something I tell just anyone. My parents would disown me if they knew. They always are telling me they think I'm using the net to commit illegal acts.

No, I haven't submitted any to any sites.

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Yes and No

ALL my friends know of my writings (in fact, most of them encourage me, but not all of them are really interested in reading them). As yet, none of my family know. I'm sure, in time, they will know, but now is not the time!

 

[horny_giraffe]

A couple of my friends know--which is why I have to be careful what I say, sometimes. That or use an alias.

 

[daughter]

Was just wondering if any of you have told either family or R/L friends that you write erotic fiction...

I fail to see what there is to hide. You'll never see my mother looking at a porn site, but I have read a great deal of my poetry to my mother. I'm not ashamed of my work.

If you have what was their reaction?

When folks ask about my work, I tell them what I write. I write prose, poetry, fiction and non-fiction. If they're interested in erotica and they read me, they usually compliment me.

Have any of you been caught out by chance by someone in R/L ?

Again, 'caught' insinuates doing something wrong. I neither hide nor broadcast my life. If you ask, I'll answer you honestly.

How did you explain it if you were?

We're talking sex not mass murder or theft. How would I explain it? "I enjoy this site. If you're interested, I'll forward you the link."

Peace,

daughter

 

[Andreina]

two friends do... i dont think my parents could handle it, they are way beyond being conservative.

 

[perks]

Re: Re: Do any of your R/L contacts know that you write erotic fiction??

I fail to see what there is to hide. You'll never see my mother looking at a porn site, but I have read a great deal of my poetry to my mother. I'm not ashamed of my work.

[/B]

okay daughter,

Wooooo Hooooo for you , I have to say, I think there is a difference between you writing Chamomile tea and me writing an ode to my pleasure of blow jobs. I don't think I want my mother<the preacher's wife> to know of my sexuality to that extent.
I wish I could share my writing with her, but I sure as hell don't want her in on my sexuality. I'd hate for her to realize all those spankings I received as a child are a fetish for me now.

I've told my hubby, my best friend, and my hubby's brother's wives. He's told some of his friends. Everyone I talk to on-line knows. Of course, people in NYC that go to the erotic poetry nights know.

Parents are just a totally different bird for me. Maybe it's because I'm a PK....I would be judged harshly. I wouldn't stop, but I don't deal well with parental censure. I'd rather they didn't know.
I wouldn't lie about it if they asked me. I'm really horrible at lying anyway. I'm way too transparent. The situation would be hells of uncomfortable.

God, I remember being in Art college and having figure Drawing Class; I wasn't allowed to show them to my father, and my mother wasn't comfortable looking at them either. Jees, I can just imagine her reading "Lips stilled on tasty cock, softly supplicating"
Yeah, I'm not sharing this one with the parental units.

 

[daughter]

perky

I have works that are explicit . "Chamomile Tea" is not risque, but that wasn't the question. Vivacia asked if we were comfortable with family and friends knowing what we write. My mother doesn't enjoy porn. That doesn't mean that I would be afraid to tell her I do. Would you entertain a discussion about jazz with someone who's not interested?

FYI, my mother has listened to some of my work that does make her blush, but she also knows it is art to me that, that it is important to me, and that is reason enough for her to be proud and supportive.



Peace,

daughter

 

[Guest]

Most of my friends have read my erotica.
My husband is my sounding board, so he knows. My parents and siblings do not know.
While I am comfortable with myself and my writings, I would not expect my family to be. So, until they take an interest, I'll not discuss it.

 

[daughter]

raindancer

I had hoped I had made that clear. My mother hasn't read my stories, and I wouldn't ask her because I know she wouldn't enjoy it. My poetry is about the most she can handle.

Anyone interested in what I do, I share it. I agree. I don't expect folks to be comfortable with the same things I am.

Peace,

daughter

 

[Guest]

Re: raindancer

I had hoped I had made that clear. My mother hasn't read my stories, and I wouldn't ask her because I know she wouldn't enjoy it. My poetry is about the most she can handle.

Anyone interested in what I do, I share it. I agree. I don't expect folks to be comfortable with the same things I am.

Peace,

daughter

Daughter,
I hear you! Sometimes, I do wonder whether my mother would or could write about her sexuality as openly as I have. I underestimate her, at times. But, I'm not sure I would feel comfortable knowing her thoughts, as well.
Who knows! As we both grow, we may reach that level in our relationship.

Be well!

 

[MidnightAngel]

I have one RL friend that knows what I write. I began writing for him, as a matter of fact. He always reads my stories before anyone else....kind of my critic.

I would hope that my business associates don't know or find out....that would be a little harder to explain.

Family? They don't know, but I wouldn't have a problem with it if they did......I'm an adult; after all.

 

[Lady Violet]

Hmmm..

i guess the gig was up when a friend told me about this great story he read online about this slave woman who defends her masters home during the rebellion. A lot of sex, he told me.

And who's the author I asked?

Well, i dont really think it was her real name.

Really, how so?

Well, her name was Little Miss Purr....

Ohhh.. I said.. Interesting..

then, a couple of days later, i emailed him another story i had written (under the name of Little Miss Purr). Lets just say he came over to my house a lot more after that!!

My parents don't know, my husband does and so do most of my friends, but i keep it pretty hush hush. Its a great convo starter at parties!

So!!! Did you know Vi writes erotic fiction?? lol

 

[cymbidia]

Re: perky

Vivacia asked if we were comfortable with family and friends knowing what we write. My mother doesn't enjoy porn. That doesn't mean that I would be afraid to tell her I do. Would you entertain a discussion about jazz with someone who's not interested?

You make very good points, daughter.

I have the unmitigated luxury of not really being a writer. For those of you who are, perhaps, what you write and that you write are very different beasts. You write erotica. You write non-erotica. You write across generes. You write non-fiction. You write, though, because you are writers and you have to write.

I don't have to write. In contrast to yours, my stories are direct off-shoots of my sexuality. My erotica is always about my sexuality. It's autobiographical. It happened.

I cannot let anyone know about my writing, then, unless i'm willing to let them know about my sexuality. My sexual bent is sufficiently outside the (mythical?) norm so that even here at (usually) tolerant Lit, some have problems understanding and accepting who and what i am.

Some of us cannot let everyone in our lives know we write erotica. It might have nothing at all to do with being afraid and everything to do with not wanting to make other people uncomfortable with us.

No, i wouldn't entertain a discussion of jazz with someone who's not interested, daughter; such would be rude of me. In like manner, splashing information about my very personal sexuality into the faces of heretofore happily-ignorant-of-the-fact friends and family members isn't something i will do, either.

My mother knows it all.
That's enough in-my-family stuff for me, thanks.

 

[daughter]

cmybidia

I hear you. Great thing about dialogue is the opportunity to clarify. I am in recovery. Everybody isn't comfortable with it so like you, I don't casually discuss it.

I made that mistake with my mother. I assumed because she was supportive that she would be willing to talk about it. She couldn't. It matters to me to be sensitive to others' feelings. Like you said, sometimes it's not about our comfort level, but recognizing others'.

Peace,

daughter

 

[Vivacia]

Hiya - thanx for all the responses.

I just want to say that I wasn't askin if you were comfortable with them knowing as such - I was just curious as to if they knew. I mean as many of you have mentioned it isn't the kind of thing that comes up in "everyday" conversations, but sometimes people that have seen the site ask for your opinion and I just wondered if, under those circumtances, you told them something along the lines of; "well yeah, it is a good site - infact I have written the odd story/poem for it as it happens!"

Where I am concerned, although what my family and friends think is important to me, I am not that bothered if they were to be uncomfortable with the fact that I have (and will continue) to write erotica. I am not asking them to come read it if/when they find out about it, but if they wanted to I wouldn't have a problem with that. Equally if they don't want to read it that is just peachy. I write mainly because I enjoy it, most of my story ideas are ones I have written as surprises for my partner, you know something slipped in his bag when he has to work nights, so that he has something to read and "keep him warm" on those long, lonely night shifts. If he likes them he then suggests that I re-work them for the "mass public" and post them up here.

A few of my friends know that I write, (Draco, Sweetcherry and Slinky's wench all knew and encouraged me) but not many, as for family, well as I said above, my partner knows and again supports me, even helping out when it gets to the editing stage - as it happens we are working on his first story for the site. The rest of my family however (and work mates) don't know - though if they asked me I would tell them.

Daughter is right, it is nothing to be ashamed of, we are all very talented and should be proud of that. Maybe "caught out" was the wrong phrase for me to use, but at the time (about 4am my time) it was the best my poor tired brain could come up with. I was trying to find out more the kind of situation that Lady Violet had, where a friend read it and told her about it not knowing SHE had written it, and then their response when they were told that infact it was their friend/relative that had infact written that rauchy but fantastic story they were raving about.

Hope this clears things up a little, and thanx again!

 

[batter]

only one other person knows i write here sometimes.

 

[rdodger]

Lordy no... and i've no idea how i'd deal with it...

 

[perks]

daughter & cym,

you both have such valid points. I guess I'm caught somewhere between. We all know what our families can deal with, what we can share. Families are a different bird, when it comes to outing yourself. It's not that writing is something to be ashamed of, neither is sexual preference and so on. I just think the sharing of it in some circles is a grey area and not just a black and white thing. I think it is great, daughter, that you can share with your mom that you write. My mom knows I write, but she has no idea of my erotica, that's different entirely.

I wasn't trying to bust on your chamomile tea either, I was just messin' with you gurl, I know that carmel skin is way more tasty than tea ......WOOOOOOOOOOOO HOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!