wifeisaway
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I have been married twice before amrriage when first going out was having sec 3-5 times a week after arriage very very very lucky to get it twice and sometimes longer than a week between
do all women do it
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sweetrapturedlight
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not just women
Men do it too...I know first hand...was married to someone that didn't want sex hardly at all...
Men do it too...I know first hand...was married to someone that didn't want sex hardly at all...
Kadiddlehopper
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sweetraptureddelight
Well,though it is sad it is comforting to us males in this situation to hear that women go through it as well.Comforting isn't the right word,but you probably know what I mean.Makes you wonder if sexual screening shouldn't be a part of pre-marital counceling or something.And sometimes you have no way of knowing it will be like that until it happens.I know I certainly didn't think I'd ever have that issue but sadly I do.So I guess you just deal the best way you can...and that can take many and various end results.
Well,though it is sad it is comforting to us males in this situation to hear that women go through it as well.Comforting isn't the right word,but you probably know what I mean.Makes you wonder if sexual screening shouldn't be a part of pre-marital counceling or something.And sometimes you have no way of knowing it will be like that until it happens.I know I certainly didn't think I'd ever have that issue but sadly I do.So I guess you just deal the best way you can...and that can take many and various end results.
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Not being married, or previously married, I can't comment on that aspect of your situation. However, I do know that if you had a more active sex life with your significant other before marriage and it's dwindled, either suddenly or over the course of time, chances are you need to analyze how things may have changed. Sit down and talk with your significant other. Obviously something has changed in life or the dynamic of your relationship to cause this decreased sexual appetite. You need to figure out what that is. It could be something emotional or psychological (stress has a way of decreasing one's sex drive), or it could be situational (if you only saw each other sporadically while dating, chances are you made every opportunity count, whereas when you're married you're always together and some of the passion and excitement has died) or it could be biological (hormones and human chemistry are funny things). It could be any number of factors. But again, the fact that you had a more active sex life suggests that you did, at one time, have compatible sex drives and that something happened after marriage that changed things.
I can't say it enough, open and honest communication is key for making a relationship work. If there's a problem or you find yourself dissatisfied with some aspect of the relationship, talk it out. Don't accuse. Don't be argumentative. Don't pout. Be considerate of your significant other's feelings. Be supportive and understanding. Genuinely listen to each other. And if you find yourself getting frustrated, unable to get what the other is saying/thinking/feeling, take a break and do something fun or relaxing and come back to the discussion when you're both feeling calmer.
I can't say it enough, open and honest communication is key for making a relationship work. If there's a problem or you find yourself dissatisfied with some aspect of the relationship, talk it out. Don't accuse. Don't be argumentative. Don't pout. Be considerate of your significant other's feelings. Be supportive and understanding. Genuinely listen to each other. And if you find yourself getting frustrated, unable to get what the other is saying/thinking/feeling, take a break and do something fun or relaxing and come back to the discussion when you're both feeling calmer.
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Re: Re: not just women
I'll second that. Looking at her avatar, it's hard to imagine a guy that could keep his hands off her, that wouldn't want to seize every opportunity to kiss and caress her, to spoil her with affection and ravish her whenever time and place permitted. Heh. And maybe even when place didn't necessarily lend itself to appropriateness.
skme said:What a fool he was!!!!!!!
I'll second that. Looking at her avatar, it's hard to imagine a guy that could keep his hands off her, that wouldn't want to seize every opportunity to kiss and caress her, to spoil her with affection and ravish her whenever time and place permitted. Heh. And maybe even when place didn't necessarily lend itself to appropriateness.
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