Do Actions REALLY Speak Louder than Words?

[juicylips]

Happens all the time. Someone tells me one thing..but by their actions I sense something else going on with them.

I wonder. Should I pay more attention to what they say to me or by the way the act towards me?

How do you deal with stuff like this?

JL

 

[lovetoread]

Its what they do,not what they say that counts.

 

[nasty1]

So, what should I do that implies I want your ass?

 

[bored1]

Happens all the time. Someone tells me one thing..but by their actions I sense something else going on with them.

I wonder. Should I pay more attention to what they say to me or by the way the act towards me?

How do you deal with stuff like this?

JL

Words are easy. Following through with the meaning of the words is difficult. I for one watch peoples behavior. I listen to what they say, and then sit back and watch what they do. Its amazing what you can learn about people that way.From there I form an opinion.

 

[Summery]

I think you need to pay attention to not only what they say, but what they do as far as actions. Somewhere in the middle, if you are lucky....you might find the truth and what is really going on. Words for some people can be pretty powerful sometimes. But in the end, I believe actions do speak louder than words.
How do you deal with stuff like this? Hell if I know. Hopefully somebody can give me some insight.

 

[juicylips]

So, what should I do that implies I want your ass?

I like a direct approach.

Like yours.

How do you want my ass?
JL

 

[nasty1]

Any way possible.

 

[LukkyKnight]

Of course actions speak louder, but it's not always about who (or what) speaks loudest.

 

[juicylips]

Any way possible.

Good answer.

I have lots of ways.
JL

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Happens all the time. Someone tells me one thing..but by their actions I sense something else going on with them.

I wonder. Should I pay more attention to what they say to me or by the way the act towards me?

How do you deal with stuff like this?

JL

A picture is worth 1,000 words, but actions speak louder than words!

I, for one, sometimes say a lot of things I "want" or "wish" for, but then fall short when it actually comes down to the "action".

Words are powerful, and can be the truth, yet it's the following through with them that are the hardest for most folks. Words AND actions together warrant the best consideration!

 

[nasty1]

Good answer.

I have lots of ways.
JL

I was thinking, I could tongue your ass, and, you could let a huge...BAH!!!!!!!!!! I've said too much.

 

[Behind the mask]

Well....

I think if you trust someone you can believe what they say, or at least believe that they believe what there saying
And if not pay close attention to them,
and if you don't trust them don't believe anything they say!

 

[J.B.]

Yes, they do.

And at the end of the day the one thing that won't steer you wrong is your instincts. Listen to what they have to say about that person, chances are you already know what kind of person (s)he really is.

 

[juicylips]

Re: Well....

I think if you trust someone you can believe what they say, or at least believe that they believe what there saying
And if not pay close attention to them,
and if you don't trust them don't believe anything they say!

You trust me, lover?

Hmmmmm?

JL

 

[cutie pie]

It all depends on the person I'm dealing with. Some people I know well enough to trust that they mean what they say. With others I need to see it before I'll believe it.

Speaking for myself. . .I can talk the talk and walk the walk.

 

[Behind the mask]

you'll just have to....

Believe what i say!.......

 

[cutie pie]

Re: you'll just have to....

Believe what i say!.......

Hmmmm. . .kinda hard to believe someone who hides behind the mask

 

[Up Too Late]

Happens all the time. Someone tells me one thing..but by their actions I sense something else going on with them.

I wonder. Should I pay more attention to what they say to me or by the way the act towards me?

How do you deal with stuff like this?

JL

I'd have to go with actions, although I think words can be pretty powerful, you can make or break someone with just one word.

As far as dealing with it...hmm, I'm still trying to figure that one out.

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

This was a major point of contention between my ex-wife and I; I was a person of few words that did not communicate well verbally, but I would go out of my way to do things for her and my family to show that I loved them. She on the other hand always said "I love you" but would not take the actions that I wanted her to show that she actually meant them. I knew she loved me, but her actions often spoke just the opposite, and she was (and still is) so self-centered that she would often sacrifice everybody else welfare and feelings to get what she wanted. That is the main thing that killed my love for her; that she felt that everyone (literally) owed her what she wanted in life without her lifting a finger to earn it.

For me, actions do speak louder than words, and I notice them more than words as I have had way too many people tell me one thing and do another. However, words are very important too, especially for women - often a simple "I love you honey" can make all the difference in the world, and can feel better than a hug, but combine the two together and you have a winning combination.

 

[juicylips]

<snip>
However, words are very important too, especially for women - often a simple "I love you honey" can make all the difference in the world, and can feel better than a hug, but combine the two together and you have a winning combination.

The combination of the two is much preferable, I agree. I usually get one form or the other. Rarely both. Words have a way of twisting me inside out. I tend to put more emphasis on what they say, even when there are times when their actions are less than they should be. I always give someone the benefit of a doubt. I like to see them live up to their words. Sometimes I wonder that I might have misread something. I try not to jump to conclusions.

How does that saying go?? We judge others by their actions, but ourselves by our intentions.
JL

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

I try not to jump to conclusions.

I always give others the benefit of the doubt, but after repetitive actions it soon becomes apparent how they really feel.

My ex-wife is the kind of person that loves to run guilt trips on my daughter to get what she wants, which stresses my daughter no end.

My daughter is sick and struggling somewhat financially, and doesn't need her mother to play these mind games with her just so she (my ex-wife) can get the attention she needs.

It really pisses me off, but I just bite my tongue because just about anything I would say to my ex-wife would just make it worse - there is no reasoning with an irrational person. Yet my ex-wife is always telling my daughter how much she loves her, etc. - whereas I am a very quiet person.

Nonetheless, my daughter knows I love her because I am always supportive of her both emotionally and financially, her decisions, I don't interfere with her life where I shouldn't, I have always put her first, and she knows she can count on me for anything as she is my life.

So, when contrasted like that, yes actions do speak louder than words - it just sometimes takes longer to realize it.

 

[Kitte]

Actions definatley speak louder then words. I find that to be especially true with men. They often may not be able to say simple things like, I care about you or I am thinking of you but they may do something to show you, if your eyes are open.

That thing that may seem like a trinket that he offhandedly picked up could be his way of saying "see I think about you"

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

Actions definatley speak louder then words. I find that to be especially true with men. They often may not be able to say simple things like, I care about you or I am thinking of you but they may do something to show you, if your eyes are open.

That is the way we are culturally programmed; in general, women say things, communicate well and communication is important to them, whereas men do things and try to solve problems for others as a sign of their caring.

That thing that may seem like a trinket that he offhandedly picked up could be his way of saying "see I think about you"

My very first gift to my ex-wife was a birthday present; it was a gold fish (live of course) and it was meant as a very personal gift with special meaning.

 

[Fly_On_Wall]

yes they do

 

[Dillinger]

Actions don't actually speak. At least I've never heard them speaking in any language I'm familiar with. However, they do often MEAN more than words (this is not to belittle the meanings of words however). Words are important. Words can inspire action. Words can contain magick.

Problems only arise when words and actions do not mesh - when they are at odds with each other. If a person says one thing, but does another. It is what that person does that is more important than what that person has said. The degree of difference/importance however can be quite flexible depending on the matters involved.