Diy Joi

[MrsKingky]

A friend of mine often asks me to "instruct" him when we chat. We've been talking for a while now and we're relatively comfy with eachother but when he brings it up I sort of freeze because it's out of my comfort zone. I'm submissive by nature so I don't know if that's maybe why I get stage fright but I guess I'm looking for tips I'm going to watch joi videos online as well but I was just wondering if anyone has done it and has some pointers?! Sexting I can do no problem but joi seems to bring this mental barrier down and all sexiness is cut off

 

[Primalex]

So that's what TattooedGent87 is into?

 

[MrsKingky]

oh if only you knew how awkward that question is but no it's not him. I would find it easier if it was him, alas it's not.

I've had a couple of private messages with helpful advice so thank you to those people

 

[Starling2016]

Please excuse my ignorance but what is Joi? Serious question

 

[Primalex]

jerk off instruction(s)

 

[LIVINRFANTASIES]

Denny

Please excuse my ignorance but what is Joi? Serious question

Thanks for asking. Just because we are old and kinky does not mean we all know every secret code there is about sex.

Funny this came up. My wife got a PM from a new member wanting to tell him how she wants him to J.O. I don't know if she replied.

 

[Starling2016]

Thanks for clearing that up.
Jerk off instructions obvious really! That's the joy of abreviations new ones pop up all the time.

 

[MrsKingky]

I suck at abbreviations! They can take me a while to pick up if I'm too stubborn to google them When I finally learnt what JOI meant it was one of those "of course!" moments

I equally suck at regular text abbreviations. Fml was one that plagued me for a while, along with the ever awful YOLO

 

[Farawyn]

I always think SMH means Suck My Hole.
I know what it means.
But that's what I think.

Smh.

How are the JOI going?

 

[Nezhul]

Tips for you:
Instruct him not to cum without your permission / or tell you when they are about to.
Instruct them to watch some porn maybe.
you may want to try to get them to come close to cumming and then back off a few times.

 

[MrsKingky]

I have no idea what smh means

The JOI has been postponed, we haven't had much time to connect recently but I still think I should look into it more if the need arises in the future

 

[Farawyn]

I have no idea what smh means

The JOI has been postponed, we haven't had much time to connect recently but I still think I should look into it more if the need arises in the future

Shaking my head.

I like suck my hole better.

 

[LIVINRFANTASIES]

Dollie

Tips for you:
Instruct him not to cum without your permission / or tell you when they are about to.
Instruct them to watch some porn maybe.
you may want to try to get them to come close to cumming and then back off a few times.

I use these a lot if a man wants me to be his boss.

I suck at abbreviations! They can take me a while to pick up if I'm too stubborn to google them When I finally learnt what JOI meant it was one of those "of course!" moments

I equally suck at regular text abbreviations. Fml was one that plagued me for a while, along with the ever awful YOLO

To me it's so silly to use shortcuts. After all, we are here wasting time so how long does it take to write a word?
Hubby used to be on CB radio and I never did figure all those 10-4 things.

 

[Farawyn]

I use these a lot if a man wants me to be his boss.

To me it's so silly to use shortcuts. After all, we are here wasting time so how long does it take to write a word?
Hubby used to be on CB radio and I never did figure all those 10-4 things.

It is silly. Shortcuts. Acronyms.
What does CB stand for again?

 

[cookiecat]

Hubby used to be on CB radio and I never did figure all those 10-4 things.

CB radio! When I was about 15 (40 years ago), my grandpa had one. Me and my cousins would get on it and try to talk all sexy. Thank goodness that was our only technology in the olden days.

smhrothlmao

As to jerk off instructions - is this something guys really want or is it more about watch me stroke on cam?? (serious question)

yolo!

 

[Blue]

smhrothlmao

yolo!

I felt a great disturbance in the Internet, as if millions of teenage voices suddenly cried out in terror, and were suddenly silenced.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[ToPleaseHim]

Idk what smh is .

Answer:

Shaking my head.

 

[cookiecat]

I cannot see why it wouldn't be valid. I enjoy quite detailed direction at times both for what I am to do to myself and for how I am to proceed to please.

Is someone watching?

 

[MrsKingky]

As to jerk off instructions - is this something guys really want or is it more about watch me stroke on cam?? (serious question)

yolo!

It very well might be for some!! That was like a lightening bolt to the head! It all made sense....

But I think in his case he genuinely wanted me to instruct him. But I find everything about it is just completely against my nature so my mind just goes blank!

The other day I had someone message me asking what I was doing etc, I said I was spending time with my mum to which he replied

Him "so you can't play then? Well I'm home alone and about to ???"
Me "???"
Him "what shall I do?"
Me "I don't know"
Him "lol" (fucking abbreviations)
Me "Read?"

I was well aware what he was after but I was with my mum, nowhere close to feeling horny and not in the slightest bit concerned what his hand was up to... smh

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[cookiecat]

It very well might be for some!! That was like a lightening bolt to the head! It all made sense....

But I think in his case he genuinely wanted me to instruct him. But I find everything about it is just completely against my nature so my mind just goes blank!

The other day I had someone message me asking what I was doing etc, I said I was spending time with my mum to which he replied

Him "so you can't play then? Well I'm home alone and about to ???"
Me "???"
Him "what shall I do?"
Me "I don't know"
Him "lol" (fucking abbreviations)
Me "Read?"

I was well aware what he was after but I was with my mum, nowhere close to feeling horny and not in the slightest bit concerned what his hand was up to... smh

I guess that's what I was getting at when I asked about an ulterior motive of wanting someone to just watch them jerk off. It doesn't feel like something that's actually done in the spirit of enjoying each other; instead, it smacks of "I'm horny, boss me around because that's what I want."

I could be a little cynical. Maybe it's just a fun thing to do for both?

 

[cookiecat]

Cookie, these days I don't even have a mirror above my sink to brush my teeth. Being watched by non involved parties is not going to make me less self conscious!
Touching my self, the person there telling me how to usually takes at least a passing interest and in the other scenario I really mean just being told y the person receiving; but the idea of being directed is transferable.

It's something I've never done, I was curious! Thanks for the reply.

 

[PapaRomantic]

Speaking from a man's perspective here....we've done it for ourselves so many times that any diversion would be wonderful, but especially being instructed by a beautiful woman with a lovely English accent. I can see where it would be an enjoyable experience!