Divorced Litsters

[LiveLife69]

When did you realize it was over? Unfortunately, not asking for a friend.

 

[Chiefjon066]

Soon as i got out of the Navy, got the classics you've changed line.

 

[sparkymatt]

When I found out that a week after we started a trial separation, she was fucking a family friend and told me there was no hell of a chance I would be going back. That was 18 months ago. It's going to be a bitter divorce in 6 months time.

 

[KarlMartinK]

When did you realize it was over? Unfortunately, not asking for a friend.

Sorry to hear about your plight.

When I realized she was working against me and couldn't be counted on to do even the simplest thing, but at the same time, she expected me to drop everything to be at her beck and call, that's when I knew it was over.

 

[Tri_Anything]

I'm sure there are plenty of us here. Please feel free to pm me if you need support, or just need to chat and vent.

The hurt can be devastating; don't hesitate to reach out.

 

[Uneklensane]

Volumes

A typical easy divorce fits inside a standard 2 inch binder. Ours took 3 binders that had 3 inch D rings. 6 yrs of marriage, 10 years of anger and animosity, and almost 10 more yrs of:
4 Other bad marriages
Married her sister... for 3yrs
Adopted child
The In-Laws
Parents death
4 Deaths in a row
Depression
Attempted suicide
Grown daughter
Lesbian... could have used that little gem when I was married to her
And a grandson by a man as old as I am.
33 yrs later I own a 4bd house where...
I, my 1st ex wife, her adopted son, our 30 yr old daughter, our grandson, live together....All mostly...VERY HAPPY. We even spend every Sat visiting her parents where her sister...my 3rd wife, lives with her 7th husband.
So the is light at the end of any and EVERY dark tunnel.

 

[LiveLife69]

Vvvvvbvv

 

[lauramilf]

Yes you should be happy, you both should. I was in an unhappy marriage for 20 years he was very controlling and shit with money and paying the bills i became the provider. Ended up having a string of affairs and everytime he suspected there were huge arguments life was hell but i used the affairs as a form of revenge but in the end i realised i was still getting crapped on when having the affairs with married guys so i choose to get a divorce and ended all my affairs. I have stayed single and have never been happier.

If she isnt prepared to change then i guess you have no choice. Its only going to work if you both want it too!

Or you could just start having affairs just dont be shitty about it and lie about your intentions!

Thanks guys

All sounds similar

Wife does nothing around house yet gets upset if I clean it
No intimacy
No sex
No nothing, she just exists and drinks

Denies alcohol problem
Won’t seek therapy for depression

I try to approach it all as a disease (much of it is) but also pulled in ‘shouldn’t I get to enjoy a partner and not be miserable’ direction