dishonesty, flattery, exaggeration in the bedroom

[big_cane_sugar]

Some of the posts I've seen lately have reminded me of a question I used to wonder about back in my single days.

Some bits of my experience for context. I've been with women who faked orgasms so poorly that either they wanted me know they were faking or they just didn't know how to do it, with women who faked pretty well but I could tell, women who might've been faking but I couldn't tell, and women who were definitely not faking.... Some of the latter told me I was the best lover they'd ever had, which was nice to hear and I wouldn't mind thinking at least some of them were telling me the truth. One told me she thought I had an unusually large penis, which was either a lie or she didn't have much experience of the world.

I never minded any of that. In all those cases, I think they were trying to make me feel good or to make me appreciate them. No harm, no foul, let's keep playing this fun game.

But actually I don't remember lying to any of my partners in that way. Easy for me to be honest since I'd intentionally gotten myself into those situations with them because I really liked them, so I could always find lots of flattering but true things to say. Maybe they didn't feel that way lol... maybe also some of them felt more pressure to please me than I felt to please them. And of course as a guy I never had to fake orgasms back in my single days and I wouldn't have known how to do it if I'd wanted to.

What I'm wondering is how often lovers lie to each other. In brief relationships, I guess it must happen all the time. In longer relationships, with more comfort and more opportunities for communication, things eventually have to get sorted out. With my wife, a couple decades of experience now, I don't think we'd even try to fool each other. It probably wouldn't work and the other would justly wonder why all of the sudden we're not being honest anymore. We like each other pretty well and we like to play so we have plenty of nice things to say and do for each other without making things up.

But I bet some of you have much more interesting stories and completely different perspectives. If you're willing to share, I'm interested!

 

[razor33a]

I'm like you, married and why fool each other? Recently had conversation with wife about women faking it. I think most guys exaggerate a bit even in long term relationships but in a flattering/hot talk way instead of some nefarious intent. Like saying someone is as hot as when they got married but most have put on weight, sagging more, etc. It's not meant to trick them but that they are still wanted. If someone faked it with me I'd never know (dense that way) but it'd also get me off even more since vocalizing is a turn on.

 

[big_cane_sugar]

There's obviously no reason to say hurtful things to someone you love.

But I'm sure a woman I was with wouldn't have fooled anybody. Neither of us really knew what we were doing yet but it wasn't our first time either, and every time I came she would just start shaking her hips really hard and tell me she was coming too. That's the one I had in mind saying I'm not even really sure she was trying to fool me. Like I could imagine that in her mind she was trying to drop a hint that I wasn't getting it done for her. I don't know. She was such a beautiful young woman but as the saying goes, youth is wasted on the young. If I'd gotten ahold of her four or five years later I'd probably have made her hot little body shake for real.... I don't know what happened to her, this was before social media made all relationships permanent, but I hope she found a guy who did that for her.