disappointed

[jaclyn]

New to this site. Just found this board. Very interesting

Started chatting online a few weeks ago. I am a happily
married female that was bi curious. Started out rather
good. Met someone and was talking on a regular basic
Conversations were mainly about sex. Began to get a
a litttle suspicious because of some of the sexual things.
Bottom line is this SHE turned out to be a HE. This
has really put a bad taste in my mouth about this chat
thing. I came to explore things about women. Proves
a point that guys want sex peroid. It doesn't matter
how they get it. They don't have a clue about women
or how they feel or what they want.

Disappointed

Jaclyn

 

[LukkyKnight]

You can't be sure, online

But most the guys here post as guys, so just be alert and you'll surely find somebody more in sync with what you're seeking.

Welcome, sorry you met one of our jerks. There are... lemme see here... oh dear.... there are SEVERAL more you may encounter. Well, odds are in your favor, numerically, but remember: trust, but verify.

 

[pj phillips]

Hi Jacquelyn, happens all the time, just keep trying. Happens to me all the time. pj

 

[Guest]

Hi ya!!
I Have also had it happen to me several times.. Men pretending to b Women.. Also happens they say there 1 type of person.. Or describe there self and it couldnt be farther from the Truth on who they really are.... Im kinda bad about things like this... I ask them to hear there voice right away through voice chat, Telly or sumething.. Just to get a good idea on whom im speaking too..Because you can never be to careful.. Might be sharing ur self and your thoughts to someone who really doesnt care its all a game to some people!!
Gl tho.. Melissa.

 

[VeryBadGirl]

Don't let one bad experience turn you off too much

I just pm'd you...
VBG

 

[on_the_verge]

Does this all mean I can't be in touch with my inner lesbian? Anyway, VeryBadGirl don't be disappointed and it happens with this online medium. I am sorry you had shared so much and was betrayed, but think of it as understand and being able to be aware that not all things carry face value online. I do hope you can share with the "right" person(s). Just don't give up and besides, you will meet another who truly would like to convers with you and be honest. There are always some good eggs out there!

 

[VeryBadGirl]

Sent 3 PMs?

Jaclyn, if you haven't gotten my pms yet, let me know on this thread - I'll give you my hotmail addy.

Talk to you soon!
Dana

 

[Ebonyfire]

New to this site. Just found this board. Very interesting

Started chatting online a few weeks ago. I am a happily
married female that was bi curious. Started out rather
good. Met someone and was talking on a regular basic
Conversations were mainly about sex. Began to get a
a litttle suspicious because of some of the sexual things.
Bottom line is this SHE turned out to be a HE. This
has really put a bad taste in my mouth about this chat
thing. I came to explore things about women. Proves
a point that guys want sex peroid. It doesn't matter
how they get it. They don't have a clue about women
or how they feel or what they want.

Disappointed

Jaclyn

I have to disagree. I think you have to realize that just like every thing else you have to be careful. Some guys and gals are dishonest. You have to just take your online interactions with a grain of salt.

But lumping all guys into one category, that is unfair and inaccurate. Just shake it off, and keep chatting. Be more wary next time. Good luck.

EB

 

[Guest]

I dont think anyone was Stero typing all MEN.... but it is alot more common that men do it Then women pretending to be guys im sure you would have to agree on that.. just would hurt to get emotinally involved with someone and think you new them to find everything they said was a load of crap..Mel

 

[slinkystar]

I can identify

Jaclyn, I can completely understand where you are coming from. You woulnd't believe how many times this has happened to me. I met this 'girl' online one time. She said all the right things, though. I never suspected until one day I got an email from 'her' and I think he messed up because he left his signature on the email, which plainly identified him as Brian something or other. When I confronted him, I was so angry and upset at being betrayed. I had told this 'woman' I loved 'her' and 'she' would reply back the same. Needless today I was heartbroken. What hurt the worse was this person's best friend who was also male, was keeping his secret! I felt like I such a fool. People can email you photos of anyone and make you think its them. I don't trust anyone until I've either talked with them on the phone or met them in person... but nothing a person says will convince me they are male or female.

Just don't give up on talking to people, most are actually honest people.

 

[eroticfiction]

That totally sucks.......

 

[vylette]

totally uncool

i have to say that was one of the most "uncool" things i have heard in awhile...i am sorry that happen...i am with you, that would definitey put a bad taste in my mouth...dont give up though, i have met some really great people ...so i know they are out there...dont let one bad experience jade you...

 

[Max27]

one way to know

the one way that I have been able to verify, if you have been trading pictures, ask her/him to take a picture of themselves doing something specific. not like, masturbating or anything like that. something easy but unique, like wearing a hat backwards or in front of a McDonalds.
if they can't produce quick, it is probably a fake. don't worry about offending them by asking for proof. just explain your past hurt and they should understand.
if they aren't willing to prove it to you, then my guess, they are hiding something.

 

[Ebonyfire]

I dont think anyone was Stero typing all MEN.... but it is alot more common that men do it Then women pretending to be guys im sure you would have to agree on that.. just would hurt to get emotinally involved with someone and think you new them to find everything they said was a load of crap..Mel

No, I would not have to agree on that. POin tof fact, I did disagree. I have been online since 1986, and find that not to be the case. but that is my experience and YMMV.

EB