Dirty Talk?

[ExquisiteNymph]

How can I get my guy to talk dirty to me... I'm not necessarily talking X-rated stuff, just suggestive things/things he'd like to do with/to me later.... Any advice?

 

[M's girl]

Welcome to Lit!

A lot has been discussed about this. If you wish you can check out the Blank Manual and I'm sure more people will barge in with their comments here.

One thing ... it's hard to get people to do things that are not in their nature. Plus if they agree to do them in the end and still are not comfortable with them you will know and it will be like watching a really bad B-movie... so to speak.

You will have to discuss this with him and express what you want and need (and vice versa). Could well be he is shy because he thinks it would upset you. Could also be he just thinks talking dirty or giving 'directions' is not the way it should be.... You will only know if you talk to him. Also.... people need some time to get used to certain ideas and acts.

 

[seldomseen]

How can I get my guy to talk dirty to me... I'm not necessarily talking X-rated stuff, just suggestive things/things he'd like to do with/to me later.... Any advice?

have you tryed just asking him ...maybe you could get a trashy novel and highlight things you would enjoy being said to you and leave the novel in the bathroom ( assuming he is the only one that will find it). i think he should get the message.

 

[wehstar]

Like M's Girl said, unless it's in his nature to do so it won't work, and also he needs to understand that it is "OK" to say these things, and that it will bring him results.

My wife likes to be called "a dirty cocksucking slut who needs to be punished when we get home" but I wouldn't dream of saying anything remotely like that to a lady unless I had originally been encouraged.

Trying to think back to our relationships early days I think we started with sexy text messages before going verbal. That was a fun progression.

As with virtually all relationship issues posted on this forum - it's all about open discussion.

 

[thebarber69]

Well I have been learkin these halls for years and just registered the other week, but from what I can see, here is a few things that might have helped in some of my relationships.

Talk, describe, ask, beg, and shall I go on. Best to get it out, and let your special person know, than to think his crystal ball is going to work, remember, we are males, the crystal ball is broken, just get down one night as your going down on him and stop for a second, you got his attention now, and say, "You know, I really would like your to tell me to do...." and go on from there.

OR, one day your on the telephone, talking about just about anything, and say then "You know, how about tonight as were getting worked up, why don't you wisper in my ear, and tell me something you would like to do, act on, (now that might even shock you), or do. Let it all hang out, and be up front, don't let him try to guess it, it just won't happen, ask me, I know. ;-)

Well you see I rambled on for a few, I'll take take to lurkin the halls again and go, hope it works out.

 

[SesameStreet]

One word..............Communication. As with all things in a good relationship you should simply tell your partner what you like or want. If you can't then you need to work on the communication factor first.

 

[Ron54]

Have the same problemwith the wife. She says she can't do it but she has no problem telling me to do anything other than something sexual. Take out the garbage, empty the dishwasher, when are you going to paint the hall etc... Ans sometimes in the middle of just getting started to get it on. Go figure?!?

 

[KokopelliRises]

You could try asking him to tell you how he feels when you do something in bed and tell him in (explicit or not-so) words when he does something you like. Maybe he just needs to know that it is okay in the relationship, that you won't be offended if he talks dirty.

 

[M's girl]

Have the same problemwith the wife. She says she can't do it but she has no problem telling me to do anything other than something sexual. Take out the garbage, empty the dishwasher, when are you going to paint the hall etc... Ans sometimes in the middle of just getting started to get it on. Go figure?!?

If she has to remind you to do your part of the chores around the house every time ( ) she is the one having a problem with 'the husband'. Taking responsibility for your part of thát deal will encourage her and give her more time and energy to focus on telling you what she wants in the bedroom.

 

[wehstar]

Have the same problemwith the wife. She says she can't do it but she has no problem telling me to do anything other than something sexual. Take out the garbage, empty the dishwasher, when are you going to paint the hall etc... Ans sometimes in the middle of just getting started to get it on. Go figure?!?

This is not so surprising, if she is so dominating in your normal everyday life it makes sense that she would be more submissive in bed. And being submissive includes letting you do all the talking.

What you need to do is tell her to go paint the fucking hall. Then she will be able to talk dirty. It's all about psychology, and I should know; my brother has a degree in psychology and I read the back of one of his text books once.

 

[misspihla]

Talking dirty to him might encourage

Its always hard to do something new just out of the blue. Maybe if you ask something dirty, he will answer something dirty and there you go...

 

[moonoversoho]

definitely try talking dirty to him. maybe nothing too filthy at first, just sexy and playful things, stuff like 'you can do anything you want to me...' etc. don't be too graphic at first. if it's easier, start by sending texts or calling him. a good idea is to start when you're having sex, as you're both really getting into it. if you start to whisper things in his ear then, he will probably eventually respond.

good luck, and have fun!

 

[TravelMad]

He likely feels that he sounds stupid saying it... encourage him... don't push, just gently nudge him... whisper in his ear "tell me you wanna ____ me", while you're trailing your fingertip suggestively down his stomach and kissing his neck. Trust me... it's all about encouragement and him feeling secure.Feed him the lines... he'll get the idea once he sees what it does to you and that it's a good thing. Take it slow.

 

[SummerSun15]

Just start talking dirty to get him and get him really riled up. Tell him what you wanna do to him and what you want him to do to you. Then just ask him what he wants to do to you or what he wants you to do to him. But just remember to get him really excited first or he might feel funny. Good luck!

 

[Arafura]

Something really fun is reading dirty stories to each other. Check out your faves on here and take turns reading chapters. This can sometimes help someone who is ready and willing but just doesn't know how to begin.

 

[Dreamliner]

How can I get my guy to talk dirty to me... I'm not necessarily talking X-rated stuff, just suggestive things/things he'd like to do with/to me later.... Any advice?

How about asking him, tell him what you like or would love to hear as it makes you hot..a real turn on for you.

 

[subwannabe]

Ask him to play a game with you during sex. Take turns talking dirty to each other. You start, ask him to add something, and then continue saying different dirty things to each other. See how far and how long you can take it and tell him how much it turns you on to hear him talk dirty to you. Then put him in the hospital by fucking the daylights out of him. It's kind of like training an animal. You do this, you get a peanut. Do it again, you get another peanut.