Dirty Talk
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SweetErika
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I think just talking about different scenarios and ideas can get the creative juices flowing. Reading stories alone or together can work very well, as can playing games, writing letters, porn/erotica, phone sex and talking dirty. Your best bet is probably to try a bunch of different things to see which one(s) work for you. I just started conversations with my husband based on what I saw here at Lit, asking him what he thought of different acts, and proposing we try new things.
There are excellent threads on talking dirty and spicing things up in The Blank Manual sticky at the top of How To. Here are two threads from the past on talking dirty (there are tons of them if you do a search), and in post 10 in the first thread there are quite a few links to some of the best threads on the subject.
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=382140&highlight=dirty
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=393429
There are excellent threads on talking dirty and spicing things up in The Blank Manual sticky at the top of How To. Here are two threads from the past on talking dirty (there are tons of them if you do a search), and in post 10 in the first thread there are quite a few links to some of the best threads on the subject.
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=382140&highlight=dirty
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=393429
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Dirty talk is one way I guess. But it all depends on what he likes and dislikes and how far he is willing to go and open up. And that also depends on the relationship you have and how new it is. It would be for me...
Exploring new things involves a great level of trust on both parties most of the time. If one (like you I suppose) is somewhat bolder than the other he or she has to pull the wagon for a bit until the other one catches up.
Dirty talk will give him an impression of your likes and preferences, but unless you talk about that further in a non-sexual situation it could also give a wrong impression. Bacause dirty talk often also involves fantasy situations and sometimes things we don't really want to do in real life (real sex).
So... just talking about it with him in a non-sexual situation seems like the way to go for me, although I know how hard it is to open up and not be shy.
If he is kind of shy I think the "I want to make things so much better for the two of us" approach will work best.
Exploring new things involves a great level of trust on both parties most of the time. If one (like you I suppose) is somewhat bolder than the other he or she has to pull the wagon for a bit until the other one catches up.
Dirty talk will give him an impression of your likes and preferences, but unless you talk about that further in a non-sexual situation it could also give a wrong impression. Bacause dirty talk often also involves fantasy situations and sometimes things we don't really want to do in real life (real sex).
So... just talking about it with him in a non-sexual situation seems like the way to go for me, although I know how hard it is to open up and not be shy.
If he is kind of shy I think the "I want to make things so much better for the two of us" approach will work best.
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M's girl said:Like your pic in the sigline!
What does fudding mean?
Thank you for the pic compliment! Jailhouse made it for me.
This is a silly quote from "Extras"
There's a bit with Kate Winslet in a nun's outfit talking about phone sex.
Andy Millman: "Have you talked dirty back to him? Have you?"
Maggie Jacobs: "No, no, I have not. I don't know what to say to him, it's too embarassing. What if I say, like, something and he just laughs at me, or something and he, and it's too much and he gets all offended."
Andy: "Well, no, it's just all stuff like, 'Ooh, I'm playing with myself.'"
Kate Winslet: "Sounds interesting."
Andy: [surprised] "Hi. Not me. Her."
Kate: "Go on."
Andy: "Her boyfriend likes to talk dirty on the phone and she doesn't know what to say to him."
Kate: "Oh, yeah, that can be a bit awkward. Well, why don't you just start off with something light, you know, like, um, 'I'd love it if you stuck your Willy Wonka between my Oompa Loompas.' You know, something a bit fun, a bit jokey. And then you can get more hardcore, rattle off the old classics, like, 'I'm playing with my dirty pillows,' 'I'm aching for your big purple-headed womb-ferret,' and then go straight in hard, like, 'Get 'round here 'cause I'm fudding myself stupid and I'm bloody loving it.' Right?"
Maggie: "Yeah."
mastagraff
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just wisper into his ear when he is inside of you,"fuck my pussy hard" will make him fuck you hard...
TBKahuna123
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Purple-Headed Womb Ferret? OK, THAT is the first time I've heard that one! Of course I've never called my wife's breasts the Oompa Loompas either. 
Ahhh Dirty Talk, one of the most asked questions on this board. Thing is, I don't have a good answer, exept to say that it's something you have to feel. I mean, my wife for example, is a very sexual person who is pretty vocal in bed, but I wouldn't classify what she says as "dirty". It's not like you see in a porno where the woman is crying fuck me harder, fuck me harder, or stuff like that. Now, I'll admit that for me there is a certain bad girl appeal to that, and she's tried it, but it just wasn't her.
If you aren't feeling that, aren't into saying those kind of things to your lover, then they come out sounding fake. It's not the words that are arousing, it's the attitude, I think. If you just aren't into dirty talk, then that should be fine, because there are lots of ways to express that lust, if you will.
If you want to try it, watch a porn or read a couple stories, they all feature what most men equate with "dirty talk". If you find it's not your personality though, don't stress. Just look into his eyes, grit your teeth and growl at him. Believe me, that works just fine.
Ahhh Dirty Talk, one of the most asked questions on this board. Thing is, I don't have a good answer, exept to say that it's something you have to feel. I mean, my wife for example, is a very sexual person who is pretty vocal in bed, but I wouldn't classify what she says as "dirty". It's not like you see in a porno where the woman is crying fuck me harder, fuck me harder, or stuff like that. Now, I'll admit that for me there is a certain bad girl appeal to that, and she's tried it, but it just wasn't her.
If you aren't feeling that, aren't into saying those kind of things to your lover, then they come out sounding fake. It's not the words that are arousing, it's the attitude, I think. If you just aren't into dirty talk, then that should be fine, because there are lots of ways to express that lust, if you will.
If you want to try it, watch a porn or read a couple stories, they all feature what most men equate with "dirty talk". If you find it's not your personality though, don't stress. Just look into his eyes, grit your teeth and growl at him. Believe me, that works just fine.
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I find text messages at first mild then getting dirtier and dirtier are a good way of getting someone excited, aroused and playing back...
