Dirty Talk

[Slutgirl]

Ok, you guys, I've got another topic for you.
I recently got married and my new husband is absolutely WONDERFUL in bed. And the foreplay! WOW! He always makes sure I am very satisfied even before penetration. But here's the thing. He's really kind of shy when it comes to words. But, if I start talking dirty to him, it REALLY excites him. But he only does it if I start and to be honest, I would really enjoy it if he started it sometimes. I have tried to talk to him about it, but it seems to make him uncomfortable to discuss it if we're not hot and heavy. Any suggestions?

 

[Mrhappy]

Well, that's a tough one SG...
Each and all of us is different, thank God, and situations vary. Is your husband a shy romantic type? If so, his idea of talking dirty might be, "Your eyes are like alabaster pools." or something like that. If he does get loose verbally once he gets turned on, maybe he just needs to know that it turns you on to hear him say certain combinations of words and phrases. Try coaxing it out of him. Ask him, Do you like to see me play with my ____ ? When he just nods his head, ask him, "What is it I'm doing that excites you?" If he gives short answers, keep asking him essay questions. Make him respond in detail and tell him how turned on you get when he 'explains, in great detail' the way you make him feel and what it is you do with your mouth or tongue that gets him so hot.
He may just be shy. I was too until I met that person who brought out that side of me. I think it was when she looked at me over her shoulder and said, "Oh yeah baby! Just like that. Keep stroking my clit, but don't stop fucking my ....." I think you get the idea. Who doesn't love to hear word's like that from their partner?
Good Luck...I'm sure there will be more great suggestions to follow.
mr.h

 

[Slutgirl]

Thanks, mr.h, I tried some of that and he did seem to loosen up a little. Maybe more so in the future, we'll see how it goes.

 

[*Eve*]

It seems to me that you already have a good thing going if he keeps you satisfied, but just talk to him about it. The best time to have those types of discussions, are after sex when you're laying together, he'll probably be a bit more receptive to the idea then.

 

[Marco]

You pose an interesting query. I tell you. As a young lad, I had some rather interesting experiences...babysitter seduction...adolescent gay older-male stuff. All episodes were of the, "Shhh, be quiet, don't want ayone to hear us," mode. I now have difficulty voicing passion even though I enjoy a great hetro sex life. You never know what's driving people's actions.

 

[Miranda]

Here's a thought, why don't you try some phone sex? Call him at his office... that is, if he has a private office, or maybe while he's home and call him from your cell? That could lead to some very very hot sex when both of you get home... and it might loosen him up a bit. When you walk in the door he'd pounce you... make him tell you what he wnats... just ask "what do you want to do to me..?" Keep egging him on! He'll gett it soon enough. I had the same problem with a past lover and the phone sex REALLY worked!

Miranda

 

[PHANTOM5875]

Miranda,
That's a great idea! I'm going to try that one myself.

Slutgirl, sounds like you've got a great one there and you're just going to make him greater. If you do the cell phone thing, I suggest you make sure it's one of the newer digital ones that minimizes listening in (or so they say). You wouldn't want to hear your phone sex conversation of the afternoon rush hour radio show. That actually happened here in my hometown several years ago. They thought it was SO funny until I directed the FCC boys to their door.

Anyway, I'm sure he loves you enough to overcome some of his reservations of the naughty talk if he really understands it revs up your motor. You're getting great advice here (except for mine, of course!)

Wishing you Good luck, Great Sex, and evergrowing happiness.

PHANTOM