Dirty talk gone bad

[lick4her]

The othe night my wife and I were having sex and it was seemingly going the way it often times does -- oral for me to completion, oral for her to completion, then PIV sex.

Anyway, after my wife gave me a blowjob she came up and I was kissing her and I said "You know you're always super sexy. Your face is really sexy. But you look even sexier with a big fat cock in your mouth. I love the way you look with your lips wrapped around my dick."

We'll she seemed to get a little turned off -- and while we continued and I ate her out then we fucked, she seemed really bothered. I asked her about it later but she didn't say anything.

Any ideas?

 

[Nicole]

Have you ever spoken dirty to her before?

If so, what has her reaction been in the past?

 

[soapstar]

er, what is PIV sex?

 

[Wickid Cherry Pie]

Perhaps you just caught her by surprise if your sex is as routine as you make it sound. Is this the first time that you have talked dirty to her? If so, then that is probably the reason for her reaction.

 

[DuckLover]

er, what is PIV sex?

Penis In Vagina, I would assume.

 

[wicked woman]

No idea...sounded sexy as hell to me.

 

[soapstar]

Penis In Vagina, I would assume.

OH. I get it!

As opposed to PIA and PIH sex. LMFAO!

 

[lick4her]

Have you ever spoken dirty to her before?

If so, what has her reaction been in the past?

A little -- though not much. And to the other post - our sex life isn't that bland. My wife is actually into facials (and I've told her how sexy she looks with come on her face which seems not that different than saying she looks good with my dick in her mouth).

And I've said things during doggie style like "I could come just watching my cock slide in and out of your tight pussy" which had no affect. She isn't very vocal (with words that is, just makes pleny of noise). Maybe I just said that on a bad day for her.

 

[Nicole]

My boyfriend and I were talking about this tonight. I'm very, very into dirty talk, and he was saying that if he said that to me, his cock would fall from my mouth just long enough for me to say thankyou before devouring him once again LOL.

She might have had a bad day, but then again she might not actually like dirty talk ... hey it happens.

My best advice would be to talk to her in a non sexual situation, ask her if she likes the way you talk to her during sex or if you should stop. Ask her what she would like to hear from you.

This is a really hard one for me because like I said, Dirty talk is such a big part of my sex life with my boyfriend, I couldn't imagine a session without one of us talking Dirty. Just talk to her, find out what it is that gets her off and work with her on that.

I wish you luck ... please keep us updated if you can.

 

[crazybbwgirl]

No idea...sounded sexy as hell to me.

That's what I was thinking! Got me going......

 

[crazybbwgirl]

No idea...sounded sexy as hell to me.

That's what I was thinking! Got me going......

 

[crazybbwgirl]

No idea...sounded sexy as hell to me.

That's what I was thinking! Got me going......

 

[SexyChele]

Have you ever commented to her about what her face/lips look like when she is doing oral on you? It could be the way you phrased the words hit her the wrong way. Or maybe she just wasn't into it at all.

Sometimes one partner is really into talking dirty and the isn't. Just the way it goes sometimes. You might want to ask her how she feels about it. If it is something she enjoys hearing or if she ignores it thinking you might get off on it.

As for me, it depends. Sometimes I'm really into talking dirty and other times I'd rather pass. My partner will play off of me - if I start talking dirty to him, he reciprocates. If I don't, then he leaves off of it as well.

If this is the first instance, I would just write it off. If it continues, then I'd speak to her.

 

[Noor]

Well, your dirty talk was all how she looked to you and that wouldn't do a lot for me. I am not a visual person and frankly I don't care if I my face looks sexy, it is not like there is anything I could do about either way. I would rather hear about how I make someone feel, something that deals with me as a person not whatever my gene pool happened to hand me at birth.

It doesn't take anything for a person to look good if that is how they look, there was nothing in your dirty talk that reflected any connection you might have with her, women in magazines or pornos would probably look just as sexy with their mouth wrapped around your cock, nothing that makes her unique or special.

mentioning how her eyes sparkling/twinkle when she goes down on you, or the way she looks at you with your cock in her mouth, may have been a bit better.

just my crabby opinion

 

[Lust Engine]

I think this is going to lead to one of those outside of the bedroom conversations to solve.

Be open & honest as far as why you were a little dismayed & confused with her actions.

Good luck communicating your thoughts & hopefully you'll get some satisfactory answers.

 

[Squeezenplease]

Well, your dirty talk was all how she looked to you and that wouldn't do a lot for me. I am not a visual person and frankly I don't care if I my face looks sexy, it is not like there is anything I could do about either way. I would rather hear about how I make someone feel, something that deals with me as a person not whatever my gene pool happened to hand me at birth.

It doesn't take anything for a person to look good if that is how they look, there was nothing in your dirty talk that reflected any connection you might have with her, women in magazines or pornos would probably look just as sexy with their mouth wrapped around your cock, nothing that makes her unique or special.

mentioning how her eyes sparkling/twinkle when she goes down on you, or the way she looks at you with your cock in her mouth, may have been a bit better.

just my crabby opinion

Don't you think that if someone tells you how good you look doing something that it might be because of this particular situation it's a turn on for him and has nothing or little to do with the face you received due to your genes.

But I can see your point

 

[Noor]

Don't you think that if someone tells you how good you look doing something that it might be because of this particular situation it's a turn on for him and has nothing or little to do with the face you received due to your genes.

But I can see your point

Actually, no, I don't think that. We live in a society that outwardly seems to prize appearance over everything.

I don't care if I look sexy, I would like to know if or when I turned him on by something I had control over, something that is me and me with him specifically. Would rather be sexy for him than look it.

 

[Stiffy Says...]

Communication...

...open, honest and with compassion and no judgement....this is what will fix it. Yo ucan find a good compromise or clear any understanding with that.

 

[Noor]

Re: Communication...

...open, honest and with compassion and no judgement....this is what will fix it. Yo ucan find a good compromise or clear any understanding with that.

Well, what if what you are open and honestly communicating with compassion is offensive to the other person?

I believe lick4her was doing all that but it didn't do anything for his wife.