Dilemma - I’ll take anyone’s input

[BadAdGuy]

Thanks guys. Confirmation of what I knew but a hell of a fsntasy

 

[Dribble]

I wouldnt. But that is because I am a professional and I take my job seriously. Keep the fantasy, but keep you mouth shut. She will tell you if there is.

 

[georgerb]

Personally, you should chill out and appreciate the good employee.

And even if she makes the moves, I'd politely decline. The value of a good employee is way better than getting your rocks off.

 

[Booboobear84]

Down that road lies madness. I also get that as a good employee there is a certain simpatico. Just don’t go there. I had a young friend (absolutely smoking) and her work had the same policy (dance studio). Two months after she left she started dating a student, just married him. Be smart keep work and play separate.

 

[RickTango]

Having been in a senior leadership position for many years I can tell you there is no better way to get fired...regardless if it is consensual. It is called creating a “hostile work environment” or using a position of power for personal gain.

Unfortunately I had to fire multiple managers over the years for this very thing.

 

[Booboobear84]

Having been in a senior leadership position for many years I can tell you there is no better way to get fired...regardless if it is consensual. It is called creating a “hostile work environment” or using a position of power for personal gain.

Unfortunately I had to fire multiple managers over the years for this very thing.

What he said

 

[Kelseyd020200]

What everyone here has said. Just don't.

 

[MrMikelobe1952]

There are so many things that can go wrong.
You can get fired.
There can be a misunderstanding or an argument and you get accused of harassment.
Other employees accuse you of favoritism.
You break up and then the workplace is exceedingly uncomfortable.
This is just the beginning of the list.

 

[guitar_player]

Good advice. Just enjoy the company. It’s hard to find a good employee.

 

[BadAdGuy]

Thanks. And sadly I agree. Actually shocked only angels popped up on my shoulder and not a single horny devil

 

[Jada59]

Thanks. And sadly I agree. Actually shocked only angels popped up on my shoulder and not a single horny devil

I'm a horny devil. But even *I* say "no".

 

[greengamegirl]

Just try to be her friend. Learn some more things about her. Then find a way to spend time with her out of work. Don’t do anything at work beyond being friendly.

Recently I hired an assistant. Labor force where I am is tight and finding good employees is tough. She’s a good employee with one problem, she is ‘girl next door’ smoking hot. But she doesn’t play to it at all. I honestly don’t think she knows how beautiful she is. Occasionally she will wear loose fitting blouses that allow for a peek down at her very well proportioned breasts. Note she’s about 5’1” 110lbs.

Not an incredible amount of flirting but she does twirl her hair a good bit when we’re talking and has no issue sitting right next to me.

So desperately want to push the limits OK, so I want to bend her over my desk but I stray from my story.

Best advice on how to see if interest without losing a good employee or making her feel uncomfortable

I’ll hang up and listen.

 

[carrollguy]

PM me the location so I may show up and meet this hottie.

 

[carrollguy]

I promise if anything happens you can live it vicariously through me.

 

[BadAdGuy]

. That’s the response type I’ve been expecting

 

[Uneklensane]

Can you say LAW SUITE???

Recently I hired an assistant. Labor force where I am is tight and finding good employees is tough. She’s a good employee with one problem, she is ‘girl next door’ smoking hot. But she doesn’t play to it at all. I honestly don’t think she knows how beautiful she is. Occasionally she will wear loose fitting blouses that allow for a peek down at her very well proportioned breasts. Note she’s about 5’1” 110lbs.

Not an incredible amount of flirting but she does twirl her hair a good bit when we’re talking and has no issue sitting right next to me.

So desperately want to push the limits OK, so I want to bend her over my desk but I stray from my story.

Best advice on how to see if interest without losing a good employee or making her feel uncomfortable

I’ll hang up and listen.

 

[Deleted member 3041612]

It sounds like you already knew what you wanted to do, but wanted someone to agree with your decision.

You have been warned about the legal ramifications of the position you could be put in and what power she may have as an employee. Question for you. Is she worth it enough to lose your job for? If you have a house, vehicle and other debts to be paid, is she worth a serious mark on your life's resume and legal record? Also, she could find another job and it be okay. The mark you would have on your record would show up when looking for another job, #metoo.

Is she worth changing your job for? If so, go for it. Word of warning...change jobs first.

 

[MrDevereaux]

As previous posters have said: think this through. Rational brain will win through.

Your conduct as a manager has to be professional and beyond reproach. Sure, a few bad habits may be allowed (think small ones: not putting your coffee cup in the dish washer, not a euphemism, sometimes calling someone the wrong name) but your ability to restrain yourself from sexually harassing an employee should be paramount.

I agree with BlackCaramelCreme, having that mark on your record is not a good look.

 

[kurrginatorX]

As having been in a position of supervision, I adhered to a strict policy of "Never put yourself above anyone, but always keep yourself apart from everyone." It seems that one recurring theme in some of these answers is to just try to be friends, but I do not recommend even that. This is not to say you cannot enjoy a friendly work environment, but once the day is done there is no reason to maintain any sort of contact. You are her boss. Once you become friends with a subordinate, the lines of authority become blurred. I have to wonder, though, if your reason for hiring her was based on her resume or her "smoking hotness."