dilema...want her...
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SweetErika
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Welcome to Lit! 
Who made the first move with the kissing, biting, etc.? If it was her, I'd venture to say she feels the same as you do. I don't know your relationship obviously, but perhaps you could ask her if she's ever thought of being with another woman, possibly in the context of having a friend who came out as bi, or seeing/reading something about how common it is for women to be curious.
However, you have to weigh the risk of a negative response or outcome carefully. Would you be able to find another job and place to live if she reacts poorly (or if you do have sex and can't deal with it after)? I suspect that's the very reason she hasn't pushed it...she can't afford to lose the caregiver of her kids. Of course if it does get more sexual, you need to talk with her about the possible consequences beforehand too.
Who made the first move with the kissing, biting, etc.? If it was her, I'd venture to say she feels the same as you do. I don't know your relationship obviously, but perhaps you could ask her if she's ever thought of being with another woman, possibly in the context of having a friend who came out as bi, or seeing/reading something about how common it is for women to be curious.
However, you have to weigh the risk of a negative response or outcome carefully. Would you be able to find another job and place to live if she reacts poorly (or if you do have sex and can't deal with it after)? I suspect that's the very reason she hasn't pushed it...she can't afford to lose the caregiver of her kids. Of course if it does get more sexual, you need to talk with her about the possible consequences beforehand too.
SweetErika
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It sounds like she's very interested, and it'd be best to just talk to her. I don't think she's going to go any further if you don't. I'm also guessing you don't really know what kind of agreement she has with her husband...he may allow her to see women. If he doesn't and she wants to keep it a secret, it's probably best for you to not get involved. At least that's my policy. As with nearly all other situations, communication is the key. 
