Dildo got stuck--what happened?

[ticklish709]

Hello all,

I posted a while back that I bought a huge suction cup dildo (see post Suction Cup Dildo--Where do you use yours?) and I got a lot of good fun ideas. Well I'm still learning about it and my body--wow am I learning! But something happened the other day and I don't have a clue why it happened or if it‘ll happen again.

OK my hubby has a medical reason that prevents us from having sex. I have no intention of cheating on him but physically--I need release! So I bought a suction cup dildo and started using it. It was so big--I had trouble getting more than an inch of the head in me. But being the silly person I am--I figure if that much feels good--I'll keep screwing it until I get all of it into me. That's when the problem happened.

I had the dildo stuck on the back of a door with a mirror and I was humping away when I decided to try to get all of it in me. I gave a big push and wow oh wow--it went in to the hilt!!! My breath caught in my throat and I felt like I'd just been split in half. I stood there impaled on the door with this massive cock in me for the longest time. I started making small circles around the base with my hips at first. I just couldn't get used to that much in me. Then I started to feel some discomfort deep in my pussy--OUCH!!! I decided that this wasn't my best move so I decided just pull off of it. NOPE! That rubber dick didn't budge an inch! Now I'm feeling a bit panicked and try to get off of it and I can't. The phone starts ringing and I felt like I was on an episode of the Twilight Zone!!! My clit was still aching for me to finish but my pussy was in pain! OMG I wasn't sure if I wanted to cry or laugh at that point.

I stayed there for a while before I could slide that monster out of me. What the hell happened?? I felt like it had become a part of me or it was like it was a cork in a bottle! To make it worse--my neighbor was suppose to come by and drop a key off at any moment. --what a sight that would've been!!!! Me naked and impaled on a dildo stuck on the back of a door--he surley would be able to see if he looked in the window!!!

Now I'm afraid to use my baby and I'm still a bit sore. Seriously, does anyone have any idea why this happened and what not to do so it won't happen again? Ok--no smarty pants answers either. I've already figured out not to take full length in me anymore!!! I may be toy shopping again! Any thoughts???

Ticklish709

 

[danigrl84]

I have no idea what happened to you, but have to thank you for making me giggle..... Hope you do figure it out, though and good luck in all your ventures

 

[bronzeage]

Next time, stick the dildo to the bottom of the bathtub. Make sure you are facing the faucets. When it gets stuck inside you, fill the tub with warm water and your vagina will loosen immediately. This works for anal insertions as well.

Don't worry. This kind of thing happens all the time.

 

[BarnacleBob]

stuck Dildo?

You either forced the head into your cervix (improbable) or your vaginal muscles cramped from the sudden plunge and seized up.
Were you able to relax at all or could you feel your vaginal muscles cramping?

 

[favoritesgoddess]

Don't worry. This kind of thing happens all the time.

Only here can one get such reassuring advice.

 

[SweetErika]

I vote for muscle spasm and/or insufficient lube. For the lube issue, try using silicone (though if your toy might contain any silicone, you'll need to put a condom on it first). It's super slick and doesn't dry out, so it won't gum or dry like water-based lubes. Make sure every insertable part of the dildo is covered with lube before attempting insertion.

For the muscle spasm, you'll need to be more cautious and orgasming before you attempt insertion might help. You can also try doing some kegels if you feel yourself starting to tighten up. It seems counterintuitive, but forcing those muscles to contract and relax will help them relax more. Bronzeage has a decent idea, too - heat can really help relax tight muscles.

 

[dashd]

spasm could cause this but something else may be in play... the monster dido could have been tightly sealed and thus pulling it out created a vacuum on removal attempt not allowing it to come out. More likely than just spasm alone.

 

[TBKahuna123]

spasm could cause this but something else may be in play... the monster dido could have been tightly sealed and thus pulling it out created a vacuum on removal attempt not allowing it to come out. More likely than just spasm alone.

See, my first reaction was, whatever, this has to be a joke because it doesn't seem physically possible. Unlike anal play where you have a ring of muscles, the vagina is just built differently. Then someone brought up the muscle spasm and I thought, wow that never occurred to me. My wife had some issues with this during sex a few years ago(no that's a not a dick size commentary), and her doctor actually gave her the same advice Erika did: Kegels. It helped her almost immediately.

The vacuum idea is intriguing too. I was thinking lack of lube myself, but it could be a combination of the two. The same effect that makes that suction cup stick to your mirror could make the material of the toy stick to the moist walls of your vagina. There again, Erika is right, silicone lube cures all ills. NOTHING will adhere to that.

 

[sunandshadow]

Lack of lube and lack of arousal (especially due to panic or due to having fallen asleep with the toy in (what usually happens to me lol)) can both cause a vagina to refuse to let go of a toy. The warm water approach works well, or if you are someplace away from water trying to relax and build your arousal back up is the best tactic.

 

[CowBoy18^]

ok, i hate to be the smart ass, but this really sounds like it'd make a good story. lol, i do feel your pain though and glad it finally came out without needing medical help.

 

[aspiringDOM]

Sounds like you at least found the humor in the situation afterwards. I've got to say, that's in interesting short story. Wish you luck in the future with your toy.

 

[BrazenFellow]

You've already gotten all the advice I'd give. All I could say is if that happens again, don't panic. When adrenaline goes up almost every muscle in your body will tense up and that'll just leave you anchored in place.

Possibly anchored in place shaking like the only vibrator at a lesbian sleepover depending on just how adrenaline-fueled you are. I know when startled during sex I have a reaction time roughly comparable to a steroid-injected cheetah strapped to a rocket booster. So yes: step one, relax. Two, kegels. If that fails, try for a hot compress around the mons to gradually loosen if you're not already in the tub as Bronzeage suggested, and four: break the suction holding the toy to whatever you're on and change position to remove.

 

[Adrraiya]

Yes, of course it sounds like a good story

but, I have had this happen... with a man... it has happened to 3 of the 4 men I have been with (over the course of the last 20 years) .... orgasm so damn... ummmm... deep/hard/spasmy (what would be the right word).... that he can't move and gets sorta stuck where he is until the entire orgasm sequence is over... regardless of amount of lubrication.... essentially he has two choices... get slammed out for a while or get slammed in... either way wait it out.... (note: I don't think I have tried silicone lube... have used Astro Glide and Wet... perhaps silicone lube would solve this problem)

as it relates to your situation.... with that being a dildo... my suggestions would be (1) use more lube than you think you will need (2) take it in slow-n-easy... give time for your body to adapt to it... before you go wild-buck-humping it.... (3) perhaps a quick soak in the tub for you & dildo would solve the problem because the warm water will relax your muscles

don't rule out the possibility that you shoved it thru your cervix.... that can happen... even with tampons... even though rare... but, I would imagine that with something like a dildo there would be incredible pain.. but, this is just a speculation on my part.... I know of 2 women who's tampons "got lost" by going up thru the cervic & causing lots of infection problems, having to be surgically removed... and 1 women who ended up in ER with play-toy dejour stuck because it went up thru her cervix....

suppose the moral of the story might be: Bigger isn't always better

For anyone who would like to know... I was looking up AstroGlide (been using it for years & years) to see if it has silicone.. and regular does not... but AstroGlide X does have silicone & you can order a Free Sample..... you can choose between AstroGlide & AstroGlide X..... so whenever the X sample gets here... then I will see how it works for stuck in me problem.... thanks, SweetErika, for the idea

 

[blueberree]

thoe whole up the cervix thing

Firstly, the idea of it, causes a spasm of horrification.

I don't see how anything can be inserted into your cervix yourself. A large dildo filling out your vagina is much larger than the incredibly small opening of a cervix.

It seems like you would need medical intervention to insert something into the cervix. It simply doesn't seem like it would ever be open enough for a tampon or a dildo to get inside.

 

[qrayze]

Firstly, the idea of it, causes a spasm of horrification.

I don't see how anything can be inserted into your cervix yourself. A large dildo filling out your vagina is much larger than the incredibly small opening of a cervix.

It seems like you would need medical intervention to insert something into the cervix. It simply doesn't seem like it would ever be open enough for a tampon or a dildo to get inside.

babies go thru the cervix...

and during orgasm, the cervix does open and close (to let the sperm in), that's how women get preggers...

plus, I'm not sure if you've ever heard of "sounding", but that's where women insert something thru the cervix on purpose for the pleasure of it. I've never done it and don't know much about it, but it does happen.

 

[Noira]

plus, I'm not sure if you've ever heard of "sounding", but that's where women insert something thru the cervix on purpose for the pleasure of it. I've never done it and don't know much about it, but it does happen.

Sounding is up the uthrea! Not the cervix. I don't doubt it's been done but egads, not a good idea!

 

[blueberree]

Babies

Well, yes. Of course most babies go through the cervix. However that is a process your body naturally goes through in the process of birth, and it is a one way ticket out.

Your body does not simply accept something large traveling in the opposite direction.

One's cervix becomes softer during ovulation and likely that, along with slippery mucus helps the sperm travel their appointed route. And whatever physiological thing that might happen during orgasm would not seem to be extensive enough to accommodate a large object.

 

[janeyruth]

For some reason, I'm reminded of the Seinfeld "Assman" bit...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tujqM2u-BVo

 

[LizzyDark]

I'd say there is zero chance it when into your cervix. Even having something bonk against that hurts. I can't imagine what would happen if a dildo went through and back out, but I can promise you this, you wouldn't be laughing about it anytime soon.

It sounds like lack of prep, lack of lube, and lack of necessary arousal. Our bodies are designed to pass small people out of our vaginas. You'd be hard pressed to find a dildo that was too big, and believe me, I've been to the toy stores and saw the human arm toys for fisting fun. All the lube advice given so far is good, but I'm usually against buying something I make naturally if I'm doing things right.

Maybe you got into a weird angle or something, but even then, it seems far more likely that the suction cup would give out before being stuck was a problem.

Properly lube yourself beforehand. If you're a naturally dry type, properly lube with store bought. Relax. Get yourself worked up a little more with external stimulation. And probably try a different angle.

 

[A_Kefka]

I saw some other people mention what I was thinking already, that your muscles clamped down on it very tight. I remember reading something about how that can happen, although the article talked about it happening during sex and said the best thing to do was wait for the guy to lose his erection to seperate. I think it was an article about embarrassing hospital visits or something, because I seem to remember it saying a couple showed up in an ambulance stuck together. But waiting and doing anything that would relax the muscles is probably your best bet if it happens again.

 

[seekertosecrets]

This sounds like something that should be on the next American Pie movie.

 

[daryl3]

I don't comment in here very often but.... after hearing this example, would beg to be "stuck in" until the whole orgasm is complete. Sorry if this is strange but am completely consumed with the female orgasm and what better way to experience it. would this be something that is dangerous? i would not want to hurt someone or have them in pain because of it. Sorry for butting in. d

Yes, of course it sounds like a good story

but, I have had this happen... with a man... it has happened to 3 of the 4 men I have been with (over the course of the last 20 years) .... orgasm so damn... ummmm... deep/hard/spasmy (what would be the right word).... that he can't move and gets sorta stuck where he is until the entire orgasm sequence is over... regardless of amount of lubrication.... essentially he has two choices... get slammed out for a while or get slammed in... either way wait it out.... (note: I don't think I have tried silicone lube... have used Astro Glide and Wet... perhaps silicone lube would solve this problem)

as it relates to your situation.... with that being a dildo... my suggestions would be (1) use more lube than you think you will need (2) take it in slow-n-easy... give time for your body to adapt to it... before you go wild-buck-humping it.... (3) perhaps a quick soak in the tub for you & dildo would solve the problem because the warm water will relax your muscles

don't rule out the possibility that you shoved it thru your cervix.... that can happen... even with tampons... even though rare... but, I would imagine that with something like a dildo there would be incredible pain.. but, this is just a speculation on my part.... I know of 2 women who's tampons "got lost" by going up thru the cervic & causing lots of infection problems, having to be surgically removed... and 1 women who ended up in ER with play-toy dejour stuck because it went up thru her cervix....

suppose the moral of the story might be: Bigger isn't always better

For anyone who would like to know... I was looking up AstroGlide (been using it for years & years) to see if it has silicone.. and regular does not... but AstroGlide X does have silicone & you can order a Free Sample..... you can choose between AstroGlide & AstroGlide X..... so whenever the X sample gets here... then I will see how it works for stuck in me problem.... thanks, SweetErika, for the idea

 

[Adrraiya]

I don't comment in here very often but.... after hearing this example, would beg to be "stuck in" until the whole orgasm is complete. Sorry if this is strange but am completely consumed with the female orgasm and what better way to experience it. would this be something that is dangerous? i would not want to hurt someone or have them in pain because of it. Sorry for butting in. d

It can be painful... for both us... if he tries to much to move.... this is the type of thing you can explain to a man before you ever try intercourse with him... but that he really can't fully "get the feel of" until he is in that moment.... but all men whom I have been with have been caring & do their very best to make it work for both of us... and for him... it isn't as much a choice to be in or out.... if ya on in-stroke, then stay in... if ya on out-stroke, then stay out... most times, I tell them time to sink it in... and they do & both get to enjoy it

Something to consider.... I had Uroplasty when I was 5 to rebuild my urinary tract.... I had to learn to do Kegels after that surgery to build up the entire area to provide a higher-than-normal level of support for my urinary tract to keep from prolapsing


This being the case.... I started Kegels at least 2 decades before most women even find out about them.....

 

[JuanVato]

stuck

That visual of you being "stuck" sounds like something like a borderline BSDM thing. Needless to say I am glad you are ok after that.

 

[ticklish709]

Question Answered

Hello all,
I just got back from a doctors appointment and I have the answer to what happened. I think you guys are wonderfully smart and funny!

Here's the scoop! After he picked himself up off the floor and stopped laughing he did the exam. He said that it was a muscle spasm from being stretched so far so fast and not enough lube that caused my muscles to clamp down. I bruised my vaginal walls but it's almost gone. Yes lube was part of the problem too--thought I'd used enough but I guess I didn't. I brought the offending dildo with me and in his words, "no one should use a dildo heavy enough to almost break a purse strap!” Snort . . . He told me not to get a dildo longer than 6' and no more than 4-5" around or it won't be fun. You know he's been my doctor since I was in college and has a great sense of humor. I can't tell you how much that helps me to ask him stuff like this.

Thanks again for adding to and making this thread my misfortune fun and filled with good advice. Ohhhhhhh I so agree that this would make a great story idea. If any of you write a story about this--let me know! I can help with describing the embarrassment and humor of being impaled on a dildo stuck to a door! Oh and I'm off to Adam and Eve to order a new much smaller dildo. I'll heed Doc. B's advice and grease the hell out of it, get myself all hot before I climb aboard and take my time. Only meeeeeeee!!! LOL

Ticklish709