different sex drives - serious ?

[Guest]

I've been with my current "boyfriend" (that sounds so silly) for nearly 10 years - just a couple weeks till our anniversary. We aren't married and have never really considered it but do have a full life together, bought house, etc. He's older than me by 20+ years but that's never been a problem and still isn't. He was very sexually active all his adult life including our time together. Last year he started - out of nowhere - quitting as soon as he came. Before that he always made sure both of us were satisfied. I wasn't very worried at first but it seemed to become a habit.
Then along summer time I started having a physical problem - a period that lasted from June to Nov! Finally saw the doctor, I just kept thinking it would stop any minute. Anyhow, got on progesterone and my body's pretty much back to normal - except now when I'm not having my period I'm VERY horny! The whole time I had my period we didn't have sex mainly because I just didn't want to. And the fact that I felt I wouldn't wind up being satisfied. I got tired of him just rolling over and going to sleep while I lay there frustrated. I performed oral sex for him few times but my heart wasn't in it. And I do enjoy giving him blow jobs. He didn't seem to mind not having real sex and things went along until I got projesterone. Now I masturbate several times a day and have even called in sick to work so I would have a lot of time home to masturbate. He seemed happy at first, had sex a few days in a row and all seemed great. In fact we had some of the best sex ever! Then he kind of seemed to decide that it was work or something. Things got really bad last month. I was so horny and he literally came and then rolled over and fell asleep. I slept on the couch for three days! We've never even really fought before so this has just been devastating to me. I don't know what to do. I'm not really good at voicing my concerns but I did get up the nerve one day. When I asked him how he could just leave me still wanting like that he responded "I worked on you for 20 minutes." I was stunned. All of a sudden I felt like a car with engine trouble or something. What used to be so great just seems to be dissolving and the harder I try to fix it the worse it gets. I know I'm definitely part of the problem but I can't figure out the right things to do. Any suggestions?

 

[Guest]

I also should have mentioned that I do have good orgasms when I masturbate, but they're not what I'm craving. I want real good old fashioned - or new fashioned - or any fashioned - SEX!

 

[Weird Harold]

Now I masturbate several times a day and have even called in sick to work so I would have a lot of time home to masturbate.

I'd start with a visit to your doctor to get your progestrerone dosage adjustd. Being this horny should NOT be a normal reaction -- heightened sex drive, yes; Obsession, no.

Once you've got the excess desire under control, you should be able to resolve the other aspects of your problem easier.

 

[Babydoll5272]

I agree with user above

I would definalty talk with your doctor first about your level of sexual desire that seems a little excessive to me!

But onto the subject of you and your BF I totally understand where you would feel like a car with engine trouble! I am in your shoes in a way! I have hit my sexual peak and my husband is out of his! For years he would want sex 24-7 now he rejects me and says he is tired or says nothing and just goes to sleep! I have never been rejected our whole marriage! So I wound up going to bed frustrated or bringing out the toys! When I really just want good old sex!

I wish I could offer some advice to you but I am going through a similar situation and just wanted you to know I was thinking of you!

Hugs
DOLL

 

[Guest]

You know, I never really thought that the hormones might be a little too much. I just thought I was over the "dry" spell and was making up for it! Added to the fact that he was already sort of losing interest before my physical problem started, I just didn't think it was really me - I added up my extra strong desires to the fact that I "wasn't getting any" from him.

I have to say that this month has not been anywhere near as bad as the past few months. I've been easily aroused but not that deep down craving gotta have it attitude it had been. Maybe my body's figuring out the hormones???

I will talk to the doc about it though, I go see him in two weeks anyhow.

Thanks Babydoll for letting me know that I'm not alone.