Different Loving

[bluntforcemama]

I bought this book yesterday. It's 400 pages, no illustrations or photos. It's intensely interesting, though. The sales person blushed when I set it on the counter. I winked at him. Has anyone else read it?

 

[WriterDom]

Yes, and sold most of my books on ebay. I think I still have The Loving Dominate

 

[bluntforcemama]

Why did you sell them?

 

[WriterDom]

Why did you sell them?

I don't know. Kind of wish I hadn't now. Sold it and screw the roses, send me the thorns.

 

[bluntforcemama]

I don't know. Kind of wish I hadn't now. Sold it and screw the roses, send me the thorns.

Sadist (in more ways than you know).

 

[CutieMouse]

*****

 

[bluntforcemama]

I found this at 1/2 Price Books a few weeks ago. It is a very interesting read, but I got distracted by other things and stopped. I need to pick it up again.

When I bought it I also bought a Suzie Bright book of erotica that had a *very* risque cover. The clerk said "You'll want a bag of course?" and I said "Oh no dear, I'm fine thanks. " I think he went 6 shades of white. LOL

I liked playing the sales person. A little wink, a little smile. It goes a long way.

 

[Technodivinitas]

It's definitely one for the library, and there's a copy in mine. (I almost never sell books!) But while Gloria Brame's a fine enough author, I personally didn't/don't buy into her brand of kink. She feels too politically correct. Too Commercial Kink. And a little too self-important, perhaps. It manages, IMHO, to be both clinically technical reading, and touchy-feely-hold-handsy-warm-fuzzy, neither of which turns my personal screws.

My suggestion is, read, study even, but salt liberally. It's ot the gospel it wants you to believe it is. (Screw the Roses: much better. The Loving Dominant: Best in my collection.)

 

[DreamsSurrender]

That book was amazing, I still have it around,overall it taught me alot...from experienced people in the lifestyle. I read it before I had any experiences at all Loved it.

 

[snowy ciara]

Yup I've read it. I found it a bit dry, but very informative. I liked Loving Dominant much better, too. We oughtta have a thread showing all of our kinky books in it. Maybe I'll start one.

One interesting one I found was an English translation of psychpathia sexualis by Kraft-Ebing. Very good from a historical standpoint, as medical/psycholigical science has improved since then.

 

[Technodivinitas]

My library's pretty extensive, though not completely exhaustive, by any stretch of the imagination. Mostly, I'll buy just about anything that fits the topic, and only give it a cursory skim at first, to determine whether or not I think it's crap. I actually don't even have a copy of Screw the Roses..., much to my dismay. I almost picked up a copy years ago, when it was still a back-room small press publication, but I bought something else- Different Loving, possibly. Whatever I bought, I recall kicking myself once I got it home.

 

[TaintedB]

Originally posted by snowy ciara
Yup I've read it. I found it a bit dry, but very informative.

I've read Different Loving and I didn't find the _interviews_ dry at all. The rest was informative, yes. As I recall, it covered a great deal of ground, not all of it strictly bdsm. It's been almost ten years since I read it, and I imagine things have changed a lot since then. The various subcultures, particularly the bodymod ones, have certainly grown enormously and have become much more popular. In fact, I wouldn't even call bodymod a subculture anymore, given that it's almost as common now to get your belly or eyebrow pierced as it is to get your ears pierced. Wish they'd do an update.

 

[rosco rathbone]

I thought the interviews were the worst part. They picked some real dingalings to interview.

 

[TaintedB]

Originally posted by rosco rathbone
I thought the interviews were the worst part. They picked some real dingalings to interview.

That was the whole point, I imagine. To be "representative" of what's (or who's) actually out there?

Taint

 

[rosco rathbone]

That was the whole point, I imagine. To be "representative" of what's (or who's) actually out there?

Taint

So you think that bdsm women are dingalings, eh?

Next you'll be telling us that their men lack knowledge of the true ways of mastery.

 

[kitty4ever]

Yes, and recommended both that and The Loving Dominant to Betticus while he is exploring and learning.

 

[bluntforcemama]

Yes, and recommended both that and The Loving Dominant to Betticus while he is exploring and learning.

So you two are a couple?

 

[kitty4ever]

So you two are a couple?

No, we're not. He's called me his mentor, and he comes to me with a lot of his questions. He often IMs me about his posts here and asks for my input.

Editted to add: Betticus and I are friends, although I often tease him about his 'harem' and he admits to being an attention whore.

 

[bluntforcemama]

No, we're not. He's called me his mentor, and he comes to me with a lot of his questions. He often IMs me about his posts here and asks for my input.

Editted to add: Betticus and I are friends, although I often tease him about his 'harem' and he admits to being an attention whore.

Wow. That's a nice thing to reinforce.

 

[Betticus]

Wow. That's a nice thing to reinforce.

I do like attention, lots of it and from women. When I'm in a relationship I love lots of female attention but only from one woman. In return she gets a lot of attention from me.

 

[bluntforcemama]

I do like attention, lots of it and from women. When I'm in a relationship I love lots of female attention but only from one woman. In return she gets a lot of attention from me.

Then get yourself into a relationship.

 

[bluntforcemama]

Hell.... double post. The fates conspire against me.

 

[Betticus]

I miss my harem.

 

[bluntforcemama]

I miss my harem.

Well, round up another set of wild things and there you go!

 

[Betticus]

They weren't my sexual harem. Just some very close female friendds that I took care of. Kind of a substitute for what I really need, just enough to get by with but still not everything.