sonicor
Curious
- Joined
- Feb 13, 2026
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Recent conversations and observations have left me wondering, do people these days understand the difference between being hierarchically dominant and being obnoxiously alpha and how they are not necessarily inclusive?
Too often I am running into men mostly (but some women too) declaring themselves as "Dominant" to excuse what I see to be borderline bullying behavior, oblivious to their partners emotional and physical needs. Don't get me wrong, it just makes it easy for me to sweep in and take their partners away. Stupidly easy.
If you consider yourself a dom, but you are not spending the majority of your time caring for your partner, trying to understand how to make them feel safe so that they can let their submissive selves come out to visit... then you are not doing it right.
Most submissives dream of being able to be their "little selves" full time, but in reality they are often armored in layers to get through the days. Work and life take their toll, and sometimes, these layers are there out of necessity. Being a responsible partner means knowing when those layers need to stay on, and when they can safely be removed to allow your sub to recharge in your energy. The safer they feel with you, the more they will want to be with you.
Being a real Dominant is not a gift, it is a responsibility with fulfilling reward potentials.
So don't be a demanding twat.
Don't cause your partner to burn out.
You'll just make it easier for someone with experience to take him or her away from you.
Too often I am running into men mostly (but some women too) declaring themselves as "Dominant" to excuse what I see to be borderline bullying behavior, oblivious to their partners emotional and physical needs. Don't get me wrong, it just makes it easy for me to sweep in and take their partners away. Stupidly easy.
If you consider yourself a dom, but you are not spending the majority of your time caring for your partner, trying to understand how to make them feel safe so that they can let their submissive selves come out to visit... then you are not doing it right.
Most submissives dream of being able to be their "little selves" full time, but in reality they are often armored in layers to get through the days. Work and life take their toll, and sometimes, these layers are there out of necessity. Being a responsible partner means knowing when those layers need to stay on, and when they can safely be removed to allow your sub to recharge in your energy. The safer they feel with you, the more they will want to be with you.
Being a real Dominant is not a gift, it is a responsibility with fulfilling reward potentials.
So don't be a demanding twat.
Don't cause your partner to burn out.
You'll just make it easier for someone with experience to take him or her away from you.
