Did you know that when a man says NO to sex, this is abusive to women?

[LJ_Reloaded]

https://www.domesticshelters.org/articles/identifying-abuse/withholding-intimacy-can-be-abusive-too

In relationships where domestic violence is present, abusers often use forced sexual acts to assert power and control over women. This can include anything from rape to attempted rape, abusive sexual touching, rape using an object other than a body part, unwanted exposure to pornography, forced pregnancy or abortion, or sexually abusive language or threats. In a survey from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, nearly 1 in 2, or 44 percent of women, have experienced a form of sexual violence other than rape at some point in their lives. Nearly 1 in 5 women have been raped.

But in Weston’s case, her abuser withheld sex rather than force it upon her. It was a manipulation tactic, and one that made Weston begin questioning herself.

“I thought that maybe I was just too sexual, that I put too much emotion into sex, that maybe sex was more important to me than it should have been. I thought that maybe I shouldn't want it so much.”

In many relationships, it’s often the man who asks for sex more often than the woman. But sometimes, roles are reversed. Weston freely admits she has “either a higher libido than most women or am more sexually liberated,” and it was something her abuser discovered he could use against her.

That's right, folks, if you're not feeling it and don't want to have sex with your girlfriend/wife... that's abuse.

Can't wait for the first VAWA case to pop up featuring this. That bang you hear will be the sound of feminism politically blowing its collective brains out.

 

[DMBFFF]

Wasn't that issue brought up in the movie Yentl?

 

[LJ_Reloaded]

Wasn't that issue brought up in the movie Yentl?

Don't remember that movie. What happened there?

 

[DMBFFF]

Don't remember that movie. What happened there?

Okay, I saw it a long time ago.

Assuming I got it right: Barbara Streisand plays a daughter of a rabbi—I think the only child of a widower. He wanted a son to carry on with the studies, but he indulges her. He eventually dies and instead of Streisand's character being married off to a trad marriage who might not even be allowed to read, much less study, she cuts her beautiful long hair, dresses up as a (young) man, adopts the name "Yentl," and escapes off to rabbinical school.

Aside from trying to maintain the front of being a guy, particularly with her roommate, she thrives. Her roommate begins to like her a lot. So much that when the family of the woman he wants to marry forbids him—there might have been a suicide in his family, he asks Yentl to marry her instead—kinda insisting on it.

They get married and on their wedding night, to prevent having to undress and being discovered, Yentl assures the new wife they don't have to have sex. Problem is, this is repeated over the days—she (or "he") keeps denying the bride sex lest "he" be found out to be a she; but all the women's-liberation-teach-"his"-wife-how-to-read kinda backfires when the wife says the Torah (or Talmud—I'm not an expert on Judaism) says that just as a wife can't deny her husband's needs, he can't deny hers.

I forget how they resolve it. She eventually reveals herself to the roommate, he flips out, but he calms down. Next scenes I remember, the roommate is with the wife—as it kinda should be, and Streisand, I think, leaves the old country for America, Land of the Free—cue in the Neil-Diamond-and-maybe-some-Celine's-Titanic-like music, Babs singing so beautifully it's like butter.

 

[LJ_Reloaded]

Okay, I saw it a long time ago.

Assuming I got it right: Barbara Streisand plays a daughter of a rabbi—I think the only child of a widower. He wanted a son to carry on with the studies, but he indulges her. He eventually dies and instead of Streisand's character being married off to a trad marriage who might not even be allowed to read, much less study, she cuts her beautiful long hair, dresses up as a (young) man, adopts the name "Yentl," and escapes off to rabbinical school.

Aside from trying to maintain the front of being a guy, particularly with her roommate, she thrives. Her roommate begins to like her a lot. So much that when the family of the woman he wants to marry forbids him—there might have been a suicide in his family, he asks Yentl to marry her instead—kinda insisting on it.

They get married and on their wedding night, to prevent having to undress and being discovered, Yentl assures the new wife they don't have to have sex. Problem is, this is repeated over the days—she (or "he") keeps denying the bride sex lest "he" be found out to be a she; but all the women's-liberation-teach-"his"-wife-how-to-read kinda backfires when the wife says the Torah (or Talmud—I'm not an expert on Judaism) says that just as a wife can't deny her husband's needs, he can't deny hers.

I forget how they resolve it. She eventually reveals herself to the roommate, he flips out, but he calms down. Next scenes I remember, the roommate is with the wife—as it kinda should be, and Streisand, I think, leaves the old country for America, Land of the Free—cue in the Neil-Diamond-and-maybe-some-Celine's-Titanic-like music, Babs singing so beautifully it's like butter.

Damn. When art predicts life...