Did you ever have......

[bknight2602]

a period of really bad things happen to you?

Most of you know how flirty I am and normally a very happy person.

But during the last six months, I have had real life situations that have knocked my dick in the dirt. There were some really great things that happened, but overall it was the pits. It has taken all my good nature to go on with life as a happy person.

Do any of you have similar occurrences? And more importantly what strategies did you employ to get on with your life?

 

[Guest]

I wished I had a dick long enough to drag in the dirt.

 

[BgMma]

I know what you mean. I can't do too much about it, so I suck it up, put on my game face, and charge ahead.

Sorry to hear that you are having problems, love.

 

[MissTaken]

Yes.

For about 18 months everything I had a series of bad luck.

Now, strategies?

Well, doing something for myself every night i.e. write or paint. Something that relaxes me and helps me to escape. When, in actuality, these activities bring me more in tune with myself.

Make sure to attack life every day, even if you have to kick your own ass to do it. Breaking things down into steps and option, then attacking these things one at a time is the only way to move forward.

Keeping your vision. Looking forward, where do you want to be six months from now? How do you want your life to look? Then, again, break it down into steps, a plan and be sure to never go to bed at night without doing at least one thing to get there.

 

[Darkthought]

In bad times, I take look at the big picture.

Life's had some real lows... some terrible lows, but climbing out of those has brought some amazing times. It's never all rosy, and it's never all shit. The time you're in now won't last forever, and you'll be stronger and enjoy the next part that much more.

This too will pass.

 

[Lovepotion69]

For me I always seem to have things happening in a row. Either it's all good or all bad.

I look at is as with the weather; after rain comes sunshine...

Hope things will look up for you bknight.

 

[Tranquility]

a period of really bad things happen to you?

Most of you know how flirty I am and normally a very happy person.

But during the last six months, I have had real life situations that have knocked my dick in the dirt. There were some really great things that happened, but overall it was the pits. It has taken all my good nature to go on with life as a happy person.

Do any of you have similar occurrences? And more importantly what strategies did you employ to get on with your life?

For whats it worth someone once told me "don't sweat the small stuff and its ALL small stuff" since I took his advice to heart several yrs ago things sure have changed. I have become somewhat of synic over the yrs about certain things because ppl used to run me over like a speedbump but NOT anymore. Just make like nike and DO IT....best advice I got

 

[someplace]

to you tonight. To answer your question - yes, I'm in one now. I feel like I have a little cloud following me around. Oh well. There's got to be a silver lining in there somewhere....

 

[loveyamon]

A couple of years ago I went to seven funerals in six weeks . All after being six or seven fresh months out of a divorce . Needless to say I wasn't getting laid either. That was a bad run. At least none of the funerals were mine. I think that's what kept me going..

 

[Darkthought]

At least none of the funerals were mine. I think that's what kept me going..

It's good it worked out that way.

Life'd hardly be worth living the other way.

 

[loveyamon]

It's good it worked out that way.

Life'd hardly be worth living the other way.

Well said my Dark friend.....It's the only time I'll say better you than me...well maybe not always.....

 

[DéjàNu]

I know what you mean, all my life I had only good stuffs happening but these last year and half have been a succession of bad things. Now they seems to come back ok, most problems are resolved... I see the light at the other end of the tunnel. When you are in it tho everything seem so big but in reality we see those situations bigger than they are.
As for strategies, they are all different for each of us but me I lift my head and move on, do I have any other choice anyway? we are the only one responsible for ourself, we should come to our own rescue ourself. And we must know that their is always light the other end.

 

[svenmn]

Just how far down can one go?

We each have to take each day and find joy in it.

Okay sounds funny but been to the bottom of most people do not come back from. I look back over last two years it seem a lot longer. Went from excellent high paying corporate job and nice home to nothing zilch nothing nota, wife's comes up with terminal illness. Now trying to rebuild living in shack and I mean shack. But look at each of my childern and wife each day and pray that we have one more day together. So no matter how bad it is I figure moved past the bottom and have only one way to go.

Sorry but this thread just hit nerve tonight

 

[bknight2602]

Yes.

For about 18 months everything I had a series of bad luck.

Now, strategies?

Well, doing something for myself every night i.e. write or paint. Something that relaxes me and helps me to escape. When, in actuality, these activities bring me more in tune with myself.

Make sure to attack life every day, even if you have to kick your own ass to do it. Breaking things down into steps and option, then attacking these things one at a time is the only way to move forward.

Keeping your vision. Looking forward, where do you want to be six months from now? How do you want your life to look? Then, again, break it down into steps, a plan and be sure to never go to bed at night without doing at least one thing to get there.

Sounds like good advice!

 

[k¡tty]

The past 10 months have been the worse time in my life, that I can remember. Short of someone that I love passing away, you name it and it's probably happened.

I just keep trying to remember that things will get better, that I can only go so low before I start heading back up. I do my best not to dwell on what's happened, instead I choose to focus on some of the good stuff and hope that things are now on the upswing.

 

[bknight2602]

In bad times, I take look at the big picture.

Life's had some real lows... some terrible lows, but climbing out of those has brought some amazing times. It's never all rosy, and it's never all shit. The time you're in now won't last forever, and you'll be stronger and enjoy the next part that much more.

This too will pass.

Yes ther have been some highs drung this period, but they were outgunned!

 

[bknight2602]

A couple of years ago I went to seven funerals in six weeks . All after being six or seven fresh months out of a divorce . Needless to say I wasn't getting laid either. That was a bad run. At least none of the funerals were mine. I think that's what kept me going..

LMAO The glass is half full.

 

[bknight2602]

Just how far down can one go?

We each have to take each day and find joy in it.

Okay sounds funny but been to the bottom of most people do not come back from. I look back over last two years it seem a lot longer. Went from excellent high paying corporate job and nice home to nothing zilch nothing nota, wife's comes up with terminal illness. Now trying to rebuild living in shack and I mean shack. But look at each of my childern and wife each day and pray that we have one more day together. So no matter how bad it is I figure moved past the bottom and have only one way to go.

Sorry but this thread just hit nerve tonight

Nice way to put it though, sounds like you winning in the long term.

 

[Secret Pleasure]

I went through something similar last year. Seemed like all my walls were crashing down around me.

In sharing what had happened, someone said something to me that wasn't very nice and actually quite hurtful. BUT what it did was kick start my "fuck you if you think I'm gonna take this laying down" attitude.

What I did was this. I spent the day at the beach. It was cold out there as it was November. I brought my notebook and wrote down all my worries and things that had kept me down all that time. Was a very introspective time for me. Realizing that sometimes I'm actually my own worst enemy.

Once I'd done that, I let them go. They weren't my worries/fears to deal with anymore.

Don't know what it was about that day. I just seemed to change my attitude about things.

BK hope you get through this time and come out stronger than before.

 

[bknight2602]

I went through something similar last year. Seemed like all my walls were crashing down around me.

In sharing what had happened, someone said something to me that wasn't very nice and actually quite hurtful. BUT what it did was kick start my "fuck you if you think I'm gonna take this laying down" attitude.

What I did was this. I spent the day at the beach. It was cold out there as it was November. I brought my notebook and wrote down all my worries and things that had kept me down all that time. Was a very introspective time for me. Realizing that sometimes I'm actually my own worst enemy.

Once I'd done that, I let them go. They weren't my worries/fears to deal with anymore.

Don't know what it was about that day. I just seemed to change my attitude about things.

BK hope you get through this time and come out stronger than before.

Thanks, but it isn't worries, it is things that have happened, and I had no control or effect on them.

 

[Secret Pleasure]

Thanks, but it isn't worries, it is things that have happened, and I had no control or effect on them.

So was mine.

I was let go from a job I loved and did well, because my boss was a racist pig. He said some mean and nasty things to me and others.

I carried what he said and my being let go for a long long time. I couldn't face going to an interview or even updating my resume for months because of him.

 

[bknight2602]

So was mine.

I was let go from a job I loved and did well, because my boss was a racist pig. He said some mean and nasty things to me and others.

I carried what he said and my being let go for a long long time. I couldn't face going to an interview or even updating my resume for months because of him.

My company heired a guy 20 years younger as VP, without even asking if I might be interested.

 

[Secret Pleasure]

My company heired a guy 20 years younger as VP, without even asking if I might be interested.

I'm sorry to hear that BK. Have you done anything to remedy the situation?

Fortunately or unfortunately (however you wish to look at it) In my case I was unable to do anything because I am not a protected class or minority. However, he did fire someone else while on medical leave (against the law in my state) and she is a protected class. Because I was a supervisor and privy to information I am able to help vindicate her and myself in the process. Long story, but one of these days my ex boss will finally get his.

 

[Dumpling]

a period of really bad things happen to you?

Most of you know how flirty I am and normally a very happy person.

But during the last six months, I have had real life situations that have knocked my dick in the dirt. There were some really great things that happened, but overall it was the pits. It has taken all my good nature to go on with life as a happy person.

Do any of you have similar occurrences? And more importantly what strategies did you employ to get on with your life?

Hi there BKnight !
I think most of us have at one time or another have been in situations simular to yours and some how muddled trough it.
My mother kept on telling us:If you wouldnt have any bad times
how would you know and apreciate the good times or somthing like that!

I hope things will pick up for you!
Dumpling

 

[bknight2602]

Re: Re: Did you ever have......

Hi there BKnight !
I think most of us have at one time or another have been in situations simular to yours and some how muddled trough it.
My mother kept on telling us:If you wouldnt have any bad times
how would you know and apreciate the good times or somthing like that!

I hope things will pick up for you!
Dumpling

LOL, That is a way to look at life.