Desperate for female friend/advice

[Lesliefem]

Hi,
I'm looking for a female friend (age not important, just over 18 due to subject matter).

I'm a 40 year old married woman who has a WONDERFUL husband (also a super dad to our 3 children). We've been married 20 years this past April!!!!

I've always been faithful to Brad up until last summer (2000). I still can't believe I actually had an affair after all these years of faithfulness!!

Ever since this happened my mind has been kind of messed up, I'm constantly thinking about sex and can't seem to bring myself to telling my husband. Are there any women out there in similar situations?

Oh, the guy I cheated with is only 18 and is starting to want more (sexually). After he and I were together I even had relations with a few other of his friends. Am I just trying to hold onto my youth or have I become some kind of slut?

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Understanding

Dear Lesliefem,

I have never been married, but I know plenty of people who are, so I cannot personally relate to your situation.

However, I'll be 49 next month, and ever since the attack on the WTC, my thoughts have readjusted so severely, and I find that a lot of my time is now spent thinking, reading or discussing sex.

I think part of it is the desire to make every minute count now, doing as many things to please myself instead of just catering to others.

I do think that you should consider discussing your focus on sex with your husband. I believe in honesty with personal relationships, and although I'm single, I could not imagine having a partner I couldn't be honest with.

It might possibly be an attempt to get your "youth" back, but it might also be that this young guy has showed you attention that you have been lacking in your marriage.

So this isn't really "advice", but I hope this thread stays open long enough to hear many different viewpoints. Thanks for posting.

 

[wildrose69]

honey dont worry about it...i was married for 49 yrs...and divorced my ex because he dropped the word s-e-x from his vocabulary 16 yrs before that...during the time we were married I did have some affairs I found it spices up your life..and having a "younger" lover is definately a plus!!! I have a 31 yr old college student available...I dont think there is anything wrong with that at all....***** is short..enjoy...just watch it if you want to keep your marriage going...Be careful ....but enjoy!!!

 

[Guest]

just wondering...all these sex in you...have you tried to release some of that with your husband? Maybe he just needs you to renew that passion by showing a sexual desire for him. Introduce him to some new ideas that you never tried with him or share sexual ideas. You might be surprised to find that he may too be sexually unsatisfied with you right now. OR maybe he's just not interested...who knows but it's worth a try...good luck