Desparately Seeking an Oasis in the Desert of Love

lonely508

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My heart is heavy once again! After thinking I had found another oasis of love my hopes were crushed once again when she turned out to be just another mirage in the desert of love. I feel like my quest for true happiness and contentment will never end. Maybe that is my curse for wanting more than I already have in my life.

After three years on Lit I’ve met wonderful people along the way, people willing to talk and be friends, and for that I’m thankful. I’ve also been lucky enough to find a very rare, special, and elusive oasis a couple of times. When I did find a kindred spirit and soulmate it brought me the greatest joy, and I lingered there with them happy and contented for many months. We shared an ecstasy of love and passion with each other, but every single time a sandstorm of life rained down on us and took her away from me forever. The pain, heartache, and emptiness are almost unbearable when this happens. Perhaps that is the way things are meant to be, for there is always a beginning and an end to everything in life. Each time I tell myself to quit and stop searching, and just be content with my everyday world, and precious memories of love found in the other world.

However during my long journey I’ve discovered what is missing in my everyday life, and now understand that my needs run deeper than my everyday world will ever satisfy. There is an ache deep inside of me, part emotional and part physical, that never ceases to torment and torture me. The only peace I ever find is when my very soul finds another who also hungers for so much more than there everyday life can/will bring to them. If you are one of those very rare and very special women who understand my need, because yours is very much the same, then I want you to call out to me. Help me to find you, and welcome me into your oasis, where we can share so much with each other, and totally satisfy the ache we both feel deep inside of us.

I’m sure there will be those of you who will have something negative to post in response to my plea to find the right woman. Maybe what I seek is not possible to find on Lit. I only know that I must keep trying because giving up is not an option.

Perhaps you ask yourself, who is this man that writes of love found then lost, who aches so badly to find a woman who has the same deep needs as himself, and who professes to have so much to offer in return for her attention.

I’m a hopeless romantic who enjoys candlelight dinners, long talks, laughing, soft and sensual music, walking in the moonlight, holding hands, cuddling, touching, and all types of intimacy. I’m a man who is very sensitive, and very in touch with his emotional side. I’m a man who likes to read and travel. I’m a very giving man who has provided his other online lovers with a great deal of affection, and attention. I’m a man who is different than others you have met online. I’m a man who will respect you as a person, listen when you talk, value your opinion, and recognize that you are a very unique and special person. I’m a man who believes that openness and honesty are just as important in the online world as they are in the everyday world. I’m a man who knows what he wants and needs. I’m a man who understands that a beautiful woman is much more than what can be seen in her reflection in the mirror. I’m a man with a very big heart who has the desire and capacity to give the right woman a lot of time and attention. I’m a man who is very passionate, and my blood courses hotly through my veins.

My quest is not a game, it’s a serious pursuit for a like minded woman who after reading the above feels her very soul being drawn towards me. If you are not serious about pursuing a deep and meaningful relationship with a man who is very caring and giving then please don’t respond.

If my words have touched you then reach out and take some time to send me a PM. Tell me about yourself! Tell me what you want to find online! Tell me what type of journey you might want to take with me! Tell me what you NEED to satisfy the ache deep inside of you that never goes away!

Even if you were not touched thank you for taking the time to read this post.

I know there is a woman out there whose very soul yearns to be with someone like me. Even though I can’t see you, and don’t know you yet, I can feel your prescence, and the depth of your need.

Ryan
 
Maybe This Was A Bad Idea

I'm trying to decide whether to try and keep this thread alive or let it die. Perhaps it's time for me to just give up and end my journey.

I had hoped that some of the kind and caring women of Lit would feel my pain and emptiness, and give me a little nudge to keep my hopes alive.

I know from past experience just how hard it is to find that very special someone online. Fate and timing play a big role in that initial connection, and then it takes time to get to know each other well enough to determine whether their is a strong connection.

I'm a very sincere and passionate man who firmly believes that my special someone is out there, and hope that you see that I'm a real person who can make you feel very special.

Once again thanks for taking the time to read my posts.

If you are interested please send me a PM.

Ryan (Mr Lonely)
 
be careful what you wish for.... sometimes you might think you feel some drops of rain out there in that desert and it turns out someone's pissing on you. if you're really searching for someone sincere you might be better off looking somewhere else.
 
preacticality

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I’m sure there will be those of you who will have something negative to post in response to my plea to find the right woman. Maybe what I seek is not possible to find on Lit. I only know that I must keep trying because giving up is not an option.

Perhaps you ask yourself, who is this man that writes of love found then lost, who aches so badly to find a woman who has the same deep needs as himself, and who professes to have so much to offer in return for her attention.

Ryan[/QUOTE]


Ryan!!
Wake up!
Finding your princess, miss right, on an adult erotica website is a bit of a stretch don't ya think?
It is as bad as trying to find a wholesome girl at the local pub!

you should try
matchdoctor.com
to find ..'that perfect someone;
or match.com
 
Maybe I'm A Dreamer, But It's My Dream

As expected you can always count on there being someone out there that has something negative to say, when someone like me shows they are vulnerable and puts their deepest thoughts out there. That's fine with me. I understand that we are all free to speak our minds here, and offer our opinions and comments.

I have found Lit to be a place with many very nice people who are caring and kind, and who offer help and guidance that goes way beyond just sexual needs. Of course I have sexual needs too, that's what brought me to Lit in the first place years ago, but "just getting off" isn't what it's all about for me.
I think it's great that you are satisfied in that manner, and find nothing wrong with it. Different strokes for different folks as they say.

I have found women who understand what I'm talking about on Lit before so I know they exist. If my dreams are unrealistic, then only I will be disappointed by them.

Ryan
 
Don't give up Ryan.
There are a bunch of wonderful people on Lit and many have found there soul mates and went on to marry.Yes you hafta take the bad till you find the good and for some it never happens,but hopefully for a few of us it will :)

Never let go of your dreams.... :rose:
 
lonely508 said:
As expected you can always count on there being someone out there that has something negative to say, when someone like me shows they are vulnerable and puts their deepest thoughts out there. That's fine with me. I understand that we are all free to speak our minds here, and offer our opinions and comments.

I have found Lit to be a place with many very nice people who are caring and kind, and who offer help and guidance that goes way beyond just sexual needs. Of course I have sexual needs too, that's what brought me to Lit in the first place years ago, but "just getting off" isn't what it's all about for me.
I think it's great that you are satisfied in that manner, and find nothing wrong with it. Different strokes for different folks as they say.

I have found women who understand what I'm talking about on Lit before so I know they exist. If my dreams are unrealistic, then only I will be disappointed by them.

Ryan
I have no problem with you showing that you're vulnerable or expressing your deepest thoughts. apparently you haven't seen any of my posts.... I can be about as vulnerable and deep as they get. well, vulnerable, anyway... not sure how deep I am, but I share my thoughts anyway. you want vulnerable? I think about killing myself at least once a day because the one I care the most about in this world is marrying someone else, and I don't really think many people would give a damn if I did. there's some lonely and vulnerable and deep for you.

I was just trying to warn you against expecting too much here. it's true that some people have found the "love of their lives" here.... bamagirl says "many", but I would classify it more as a few.... but that could be one of those "you say tomato, I say to-mah-to" things.... but I think it's not really something that happens as a rule.

having said that, if you can find what you want here, more power to you. good luck. I wish you better luck than I've had.
 
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my

my uncle, just on a whim, built a profile on match.com and paid a small fee.
He met his wife there and they've been married now for four years!
 
Good luck with your search - you might consider being a little more concise and less gloomy when posting a personal ad...... just a suggestion. Chin up and all that eh.
 
Deprived_in_AZ said:
Good luck with your search - you might consider being a little more concise and less gloomy when posting a personal ad...... just a suggestion. Chin up and all that eh.

:D :D :D
 
well

wearing ur heart on your sleeve and pouring your bleeding heart out
can be quite the turn off. :eek:
 
ladyadonia30 said:
wearing ur heart on your sleeve and pouring your bleeding heart out
can be quite the turn off. :eek:





Unless you're doing it over a few bottles of red.
 
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