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[Niceandspicy]

Any ideas?

 

[Niceandspicy]

Oh, and I think she works in a bank.

 

[Maxell46]

Sorry..but you have to just look at her and say "Hi" and take it from there!
Woman do not bite ( ...then again they do and thats OK at times... ) and are just people like us guys.

E mail and then you can ask her out?Lame dude!
C'mon...thats a pipe dream.You have to talk to her first .
Make eye contact and say hello.If you get shot down dust yourself off and chalk it up to at least having some gonads to say something.
Get some balls and be confident. Woman dislike unconfident men...
Do it!
Nothing ventured nothing gained...
and all thoe other cliches you don't want to hear

Any ideas?

If I can just get her email address I can ask her out from there.
Just need to get from bloke who stands smiling each morning to actual converation.

Please no cliches("just be yourself", "just ask her strait", "excuse me")

 

[SweetErika]

"Be yourself" might be cliche, but it's true. If you're trying to seem funnier, smarter, nicer, edgier, etc., than you really are, you won't portray confidence and ease. And women love confidence and ease.

Compliment her. Show a sense of humor, if you have one. Say whatever comes to mind and comes easily. If she doesn't bite, move on to the next woman who catches your eye.

 

[Niceandspicy]

What I really need is some conveniantly timed natural disaster, perhaps a flash flood or a bus crash.

 

[wehstar]

What I really need is some conveniantly timed natural disaster, perhaps a flash flood or a bus crash.

Maybe I'm just being ridiculous I don't know, but maybe you could engineer a natural disaster. Feign a heart attack, drop your house keys at her feet, run out of change for the bus. Shit yeah, I am being ridiculous, ignore me.

Maybe you could point out how ridiculous two people standing silently next to each other for 15 minutes every day is, watching that same guy leave at 8.10 on the dot, and that woman cycle past at 8.12.

 

[infinity706]

Talking to women isn't really that much different than talking to guys.

 

[jackell99]

Advice from The Hollies...

"Bus stop, wet day, she's there, I say,
Please share my umbrella..."

Now for some advice from me.

When I was in high school there was the girl that I totally fuckin' adored.
But I could never find the way, the reason or the guts to get the words out, so I'd just steal pencils from her and talk about stupid shit, anything but what I wanted to say.
We wound up at community college together too, and about half way through our first semester she came running up to me to show off her engagement ring.
I was only half joking when I said "Oh, I see, you're going to run off and get married without ever going out with me."
She looked me dead in the eye and said:
"You never asked." before walking away and out of my life for the next 15 or so years.
We caught back up, and I told her those three words had changed my life.
That was the day I figured out the only thing you should be afraid of is letting fear stop you from doing or saying what you want.

 

[MissChristine]

Judging by today's weather here, ask her to stand under your umbrella

 

[Mansa Musa]

Any ideas?

If I can just get her email address I can ask her out from there.
Just need to get from bloke who stands smiling each morning to actual converation.

Please no cliches("just be yourself", "just ask her strait", "excuse me")

Simple. Tomorrow morning, before walking to the bus stop, buy two cans of soda/juice/vitamin water/whatever. When you arrive, if she's there, make a little show of producing a can from your bag. Then, and here's the hard part, offer her a can of juice, ye daft pillock!
She's a woman, not a terminatrix, and you don't necessarily need to "meet cute", as if life is exactly like a RomCom. If you're smiling at her, and she's smiling back at you, she's probably waiting for you to say something. She may reply to your offer with a smile and a "Thank you.", or "No thank you, my boyfriend wouldn't like it.", or "Donde esta la biblioteca?", but you'll have an answer.

 

[professorquixote]

drive by in your car?

 

[Elenia26]

1. Give her your phone number or e-mail addy.

2. Find out what coffee or other hot beverage (shutup) she likes. Bring her one.

 

[dpeach86]

This one's foolproof, kid.

Ask her what time the next bus comes. When she answers, tell her something about you. Keep the conversation light. Ask her a question. Women love to talk about themselves. If you can somehow find a similar interest, give her your card (one with your email addy).

<3 Peach

 

[Darkknight2010]

This one's foolproof, kid.

Ask her what time the next bus comes. When she answers, tell her something about you. Keep the conversation light. Ask her a question. Women love to talk about themselves. If you can somehow find a similar interest, give her your card (one with your email addy).

<3 Peach

Good call. Common ground is key. If you find something you both like, you're golden. If not the situation just stays akward and you wouldn't bond in a relationship.

 

[HowMayIPleaseU]

I'm with Maxell on this one (and dang I like his avatar)...

Just say, hey I've seen you standing here for (however long you've been watching her) and I'd like to get to know you a little better. I wonder if you might like to go out for a cup of coffee sometime???

Simple straightforward direct... If she says no, you POLITELY say (well thank you anyway, the offer stands if you ever change your mind) and you then discuss something completely mundane like "what do you think of the new bus seat colors?". Do not, UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES, be less than polite, as it is certainly a woman's prerogative to change her mind (and we certainly do so at times) and if you are rude in response, you will only reinforce in her mind that she was absolutely correct in turning you down...

 

[Galahad]

I understand your concern about misspeaking to the woman of your dreams. If you flub your first attempt, will you have a second chance? May a misplaced phrase irreparably misdirect your life?

Do you worry so much about what to say that you forget to smile? In general, a smile is a nice beginning. You have to find your own style.

If you are so flummoxed that you cannot speak absent intervention of some extraordinary event, do you anticipate that an unlikely event will endow you with social grace? If you are incapable of saying "Hello" to a pretty girl on a clear day, do you expect to function when faced with the woman of your dreams in the midst of some extraordinary event?

Instead awaiting ex deus intervention, acknowledge your social deficits. Then, resolve to practice social skills. To wit: practice smiling at people you meet, throughout the day. When the recipient of your smile may reciprocate, nod your acknowledgment. When you feel comfortable nodding, perhaps you can move toward saying "Hello".

After constant, dedicated practice with strangers, maybe you will build capacity to speak with the woman of your dreams: if she can sustain your attention through the screen of your new friends.

I commonly ask strangers whether they are having a nice day. If the answer is "Yes", I express happiness and ask what has been most fun; or what has been nicest.

If the answer is "no", I may say "Oh, no! Has someone been mean to you."; or, "Oh, no! What's wrong?"

In any event, I listen to the reply, try to establish empathy, then ask another question following upon the reply. Some people seem surprised to realize that I have listened to their reply. Sometimes a conversation ensues.

In large cities, many people ignore me, or deem me troublesome. Yet, every day I encounter memorable conversations.

When I was young, I deemed myself socially deficient. So, I practiced social skills every day. You can do the same. Practice each skill in turn. Master each in sequence. Or, await divine intervention while bemoaning your fate to faceless strangers.

Good luck.

 

[dpeach86]

...or you know... just say hi.

socially awkward men aren't a turn off. a lot of us actually find you cute and somewhat charming.

besides, she can't be the girl of your dreams if you don't know anything about her.

<3 Peach

 

[Noira]

Women are no different than men. It saddens me that guys who I'd LOVE to get to know won't talk to me because either

1) They're nervous and treating me as date material, or
2) They have date material and can't possibly talk to another woman.

So, uh, just say something. If you're both at the bus stop at the same time every day, surely she's noticed that as well. Maybe she's shy. Who knows? You won't get anywhere without saying something, so say something.

 

[HowMayIPleaseU]

Women are no different than men. It saddens me that guys who I'd LOVE to get to know won't talk to me because either

1) They're nervous and treating me as date material, or
2) They have date material and can't possibly talk to another woman.

So, uh, just say something. If you're both at the bus stop at the same time every day, surely she's noticed that as well. Maybe she's shy. Who knows? You won't get anywhere without saying something, so say something.

Well um Noira.... hopefully if you'd LOVE to get to know a guy who isn't talking to you (for whatever reason), you would actually try that novel approach of talking to him first???

 

[SolidSoldier83]

Honestly, I used to be just like that. Then I joined the Marine Corps and I was told the following by my SSgt.

1) If there are 100 girls in a club, one of them will dance with you. Odds are in your favor.

2) You never know what a woman will say until you ask her.

Just go up to her, say "Hey, I've seen you here before. Whats your name?" and go from there. Keep the convo light, but funny. Get it going for a couple days and on a Wensday or Thursday ask her what her plans for the weekend are. **Do not wait for Friday to ask! She will have plans by then** Then just see if she wants to grab some lunch or dinner or even a few drinks and talk some.

My major story that changed my life is this.

In high school I was shy and took alot for me to talk to women. I was head over heels in love with one of the more popular girls. Turns out, while going to college, she noticed me and started talking to me. Told me she always thought I was cute and wanted me to talk to her. Well, 5 years down the road it was way too late and she is married. Long story short, if you see a girl you like, go for it, you never know who likes you

 

[CynicSan]

Ahh...talking to girls. I feel like I'm high school again.

As sad as it sounds the best thing to do is be yourself. But that advice alone isn't good enough because you need to know how to introduce yourself first. As odd as it sounds a simple "Hi, I'm -Blank-. We seem to run into each other a lot here, so I figured a chat would be nice." Pay attention to what she says. Get her to say her name but DON'T ASK FOR NUMBER/E-MAIL yet. Ask her something about herself. As scary as it sounds one of the best ways to pick up a woman is know what they're wearing--both clothes and perfume. That way you can say "Oh, isn't that -blahblahblah-". But unless you know this don't bother--ask her about work or if anything interesting has happened as of late. Pick up on what may interest her and talk about her interests. Then at the end say something like. "This was pretty fun, I know it's a bother but could I ask for your E-mail or something?"

ASK FOR E-MAIL. Phone is a little too personal and she may be put off thinking you're just hitting on her. She may give you a number too if you're lucky. If not, chat her up via IM or E-mail for a while. Get to know her better. Then you can maybe get a number.

 

[soxel]

Talking to women isn't really that much different than talking to guys.

what he said.

 

[Mistress_Joli]

Ahh...talking to girls. I feel like I'm high school again.

As sad as it sounds the best thing to do is be yourself. But that advice alone isn't good enough because you need to know how to introduce yourself first. As odd as it sounds a simple "Hi, I'm -Blank-. We seem to run into each other a lot here, so I figured a chat would be nice." Pay attention to what she says. Get her to say her name but DON'T ASK FOR NUMBER/E-MAIL yet. Ask her something about herself. As scary as it sounds one of the best ways to pick up a woman is know what they're wearing--both clothes and perfume. That way you can say "Oh, isn't that -blahblahblah-". But unless you know this don't bother--ask her about work or if anything interesting has happened as of late. Pick up on what may interest her and talk about her interests. Then at the end say something like. "This was pretty fun, I know it's a bother but could I ask for your E-mail or something?"

ASK FOR E-MAIL. Phone is a little too personal and she may be put off thinking you're just hitting on her. She may give you a number too if you're lucky. If not, chat her up via IM or E-mail for a while. Get to know her better. Then you can maybe get a number.

I would like to add that it doesn't just have to be something like clothes, perfume, or such. Does anything stand out on her? For instance, I wear a silver hair clip, or these butterfly barrettes. My boyfriend voiced, before we were a couple, that he liked them. It was something completely out of the ordinary, but it was sweet and it was nice to know he had noticed something so simple as my hair clip. < word of caution, don't lie if it doesn't interest you, we will catch you in a lie>

Other things are, say she is carrying a book, mp3 player. Ask her what she is reading, listening too? Show a genuine interest in something unique. Really, it is that simple. We women want to know we are found fascinating. That something has caught your eye. And don't ask her for her number or email right off. Wait a few days. And honestly, isn't a number better than an email?

 

[arbar]

That was the day I figured out the only thing you should be afraid of is letting fear stop you from doing or saying what you want.

Amin to that!
Just be yourself because if you pretend to be someone else sure at first she will like you...but you can't pretend to be what you are not for the rest of your life and one day she will find out what you really are like and chances are she won't like you.This happened to me...