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[cl_trail]

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[Anastasia1999]

Good luck to you and welcome

 

[barefootgirl69]

I have been right where you're at. Well, I still have my hair, but you know what I mean.

Welcome to Lit!

 

[theeonanist]

Best of luck to you fella. I can’t imagine your pain, but I can certainly relate to the loneliness. Being honest, as you’ve started out being here, will help you make plenty of friends here.

I hope Lit gives you some comfort from all the other shit you must be dealing with. It certainly has for me.

 

[Lonelywife1205]

Hi there,
My heart broke for you reading your post. I’m all too familiar with the emotional abuse. In ways it can be worse than physical abuse. I’m sorry you are going through this. There are many wonderful people here who would be happy to listen, make you laugh and smile or whatever you need, me included. Or I’d be happy to just kick your ass in words with friends.
~LW

 

[PlayfulLilDarlin]

I went through this, emotional, physical and psychological. It cracks the foundation of everything you've considered reality and 'normalcy' when you get out.

Take your time getting to know yourself again as you navigate the waters you're in now. It's easy to want (and desperately need) to fill a void but it's also crucial that you understand you are a whole and complete person on your own. Reconnecting with yourself makes finding others and allowing yourself to be with others freely so much better and well in some cases possible at all.

We get trained into accepting a certain way of living and like everything else the human body and mind does, it finds the way to live in that mode. It takes a lot to get out of it and be sure you won't fall back into it. Be sure to give yourself that time, and space and patience, it's worth it.

I wish you all the very best here and out there IRL. Be kind to yourself and try to keep in mind that no matter what the past has told you, you are enough.

 

[jenai88]

Welcome Aboard!

You are in really good company. You have landed well in a great community. Laugh at our antics. Find the niche that is comfortable for you. Feel free to IM and say hello.

Glad to see your post and let us know of your rival in lit land.

J.

 

[YourgirlfriendLaura]

I can vouch for every single one of these people. I'm sure I can speak for all that you can reach out to any of us if you need to vent, chat, or even just share a much needed laugh. I sincerely hope that you find what you're looking for!

Absolutely, welcome!

 

[Series 6]

Life can be strange, brutal, and completely unpredictable.

If you asked me when I was younger if I thought that at the age of 42, I'd be sitting here alone, in a near empty apartment, fresh off a separation from a marriage that was at least at times emotionally abusive, I'd have told you that you were nuts.

But alas, here I am.

I don't know what I'm doing here. I know I'm lonely, heartbroken, overwhelmed, probably still in a bit of shock. The thought of having somebody to talk to does hearten me though, so I guess that's what motivated me to type out this terribly awkward appeal for conversation.

I won't describe myself in anything but the most honest of terms. The first wrinkles are starting to form on my head. I started losing my hair a long time ago, so I buzz it (Jason Statham is my hair inspiration). I'm blind without my glasses.

But it's not all terrible. Thankfully I'm still skinny, can still run a sub 7 minute mile, can still play a mean game of scrabble.

So if you're looking for some friendly conversation, some companionship, and who knows what else...and you don't mind finding it from a guy who's still licking some pretty terrible wounds, then please drop me a line. And who knows, maybe we'll find an unexpected rapport.

I wish you the best of luck and much healing. I was separated at the age of 43 after almost 12 years of marriage. I understand what feels like unbearable pain of losing a relationship that you didn't want to end.

 

[Diosax]

I'm sorry you're going through this. I also started posting after a breakup and it's been helpful.

Hope you find what you're looking for.

 

[MsKiddo]

Hi CL,
You’ve already received many lovely responses, and I agree this is a community filled with warm-hearted, genuine people. I especially like the advice PLD gave about being kind to yourself and remembering you are enough. And I second LW about meeting up on Words. You may want to turn on your private messaging so people can message you directly. Take care of yourself.
—Ms.K

 

[Dribble]

I heard it best described this way...close your eyes Dribble...throw the dart...where it lands is where you belong right now. It is your target. Yes, it hurts....else it wasn't real. But so too is this...this very moment...and the start of a new phase of life. Welcome to Lit

 

[cl_trail]

Thanks to every single one of you for the kind, supportive words, and the excellent advice.

I actually feel rather foolish. I wasn't aware that private messaging was something that I had to actively enable. I guess that proves I am, in fact, over 40 .

To anyone who wanted to reach out privately but was unable to do so, I would be delighted to hear from you. And that certainly includes anyone who feels like facing off in words with friends .

Again, thank you very much.

 

[Bubble3]

Life can be strange, brutal, and completely unpredictable.

If you asked me when I was younger if I thought that at the age of 42, I'd be sitting here alone, in a near empty apartment, fresh off a separation from a marriage that was at least at times emotionally abusive, I'd have told you that you were nuts.

But alas, here I am.

I don't know what I'm doing here. I know I'm lonely, heartbroken, overwhelmed, probably still in a bit of shock. The thought of having somebody to talk to does hearten me though, so I guess that's what motivated me to type out this terribly awkward appeal for conversation.

I won't describe myself in anything but the most honest of terms. The first wrinkles are starting to form on my head. I started losing my hair a long time ago, so I buzz it (Jason Statham is my hair inspiration). I'm blind without my glasses.

But it's not all terrible. Thankfully I'm still skinny, can still run a sub 7 minute mile, can still play a mean game of scrabble.

So if you're looking for some friendly conversation, some companionship, and who knows what else...and you don't mind finding it from a guy who's still licking some pretty terrible wounds, then please drop me a line. And who knows, maybe we'll find an unexpected rapport.

Well you sound amazing to me and I LOVE scrabble. Let’s at least have a game of scrabble. I have to warn you I am quite good

 

[HotBrand]

Good luck with anything and everything.

The rawness of your post, and your understated candour, is such a warm thing to read. I'm so sorry about the background to your post and, as has been said, Lit is a wonderful place if you take it with a bit of humour.

Here's hoping you find a Scrabble-mate or two!

 

[blulilacgrl]

It's been forever since I've played a good game of Scrabble.

I wish you luck on finding what you need but if you feel like passing some time trying to find the right word, give me a shout.

 

[HotBrand]

Just bumping this thread again.

I can't help it. I was really touched by the sincerity.

Bumpedy bump. Can we get some Scrabblings* in here for the wonderful OP?

*Scrabbling is totally my word for someone who plays Scrabble. That's my word. You can't have it.

 

[PlayfulLilDarlin]

I've had the pleasure to chat a little bit with him and he is very nice. It was a lovely conversation and I think he'll do very well here.

Hopefully we'll see him migrate into the playground and have some fun with our silly games there.

 

[theeonanist]

Just bumping this thread again.

I can't help it. I was really touched by the sincerity.

Bumpedy bump. Can we get some Scrabblings* in here for the wonderful OP?

*Scrabbling is totally my word for someone who plays Scrabble. That's my word. You can't have it.

Blulilacgirl and me are playing the very scrabble-like lexulous, but I know there are others such as wwf, pogo etc. does any one have any recommendations?’

 

[HotBrand]

I've had the pleasure to chat a little bit with him and he is very nice. It was a lovely conversation and I think he'll do very well here.

Hopefully we'll see him migrate into the playground and have some fun with our silly games there.

Everything you have said in this thread has been so beautiful and warm and inviting. I feel compelled to point this out so you are aware that your efforts - and who you are - are so appreciated and admired!

Blulilacgirl and me are playing the very scrabble-like lexulous, but I know there are others such as wwf, pogo etc. does any one have any recommendations?’

Words with Friends was my mainstay for those erratic breaks in between filming shoots. I don't think I've tried others but keen to hear!

 

[PlayfulLilDarlin]

Everything you have said in this thread has been so beautiful and warm and inviting. I feel compelled to point this out so you are aware that your efforts - and who you are - are so appreciated and admired!

This was so incredibly kind, thank you. Certain parts of our Lit Community are so welcoming and wonderful.

I just stopped by to see how OP was doing, hope you're enjoying your time here and reaching out or being reached out too. If not, and you want to say hi, drop me a line.

 

[cutcrystal]

Hello CL Trail.

I had a tendency to relationships which were emotionally abusive and as others have also mentioned this hit hard and was damaging. I got into 12 step fellowships and therapy. Thanks to childhood and adult relationship damage I rebuilt myself fom the ground up, brick by brick.

At a certain point I "knew" I was ready to rejoin the world - on my terms. I "knew" what I wanted and needed and I invited it in... The soul to soul karmic relationships I experienced were different and healing (especially sexually). And if anything abusive turned up I very soon exited stage left.

In my early "recovery" community and people to chat, share and laugh with was important.

Been a few years 9 or so since played Scrabble. Used to play with a guy I did support work with who had sustained a brain injury.

It is great that you are reaching out. And when you do people do turn up...

Cut Crystal

In England

 

[cl_trail]

Many thanks to all the kind people who reached out to me. I guess I'm resurrecting this post simply to say that if there are other people still lurking out there who could use a little support and some warm conversation, please do reach out. I'd love to hear from you...thanks.

 

[Eowyn10]

Life can be strange, brutal, and completely unpredictable.

If you asked me when I was younger if I thought that at the age of 42, I'd be sitting here alone, in a near empty apartment, fresh off a separation from a marriage that was at least at times emotionally abusive, I'd have told you that you were nuts.

But alas, here I am.

I don't know what I'm doing here. I know I'm lonely, heartbroken, overwhelmed, probably still in a bit of shock. The thought of having somebody to talk to does hearten me though, so I guess that's what motivated me to type out this terribly awkward appeal for conversation.

I won't describe myself in anything but the most honest of terms. The first wrinkles are starting to form on my head. I started losing my hair a long time ago, so I buzz it (Jason Statham is my hair inspiration). I'm blind without my glasses.

But it's not all terrible. Thankfully I'm still skinny, can still run a sub 7 minute mile, can still play a mean game of scrabble.

So if you're looking for some friendly conversation, some companionship, and who knows what else...and you don't mind finding it from a guy who's still licking some pretty terrible wounds, then please drop me a line. And who knows, maybe we'll find an unexpected rapport.

I really know exactly what it feels like to go through this, because I had to do it, also. The key thing to remember is that the pain goes away, you are more than your looks, because the valuable part is between your ears, and life is constant change. At some point in your near future, you will notice a change in how you feel, as you begin to heal. Hold on, and keep talking. I read your Feb post, and now we are in May. How has it changed?