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[Queenzray808]

It seems this post was taken out of context, let’s just consider it deleted to avoid misunderstanding and conflict.

 

[ScriptsNScraps]

Just because someone may enjoy some aspect of being assaulted doesn't make it okay, or not a crime. Fantasize all you want, but please don't fetishize real victims.

 

[Queenzray808]

Just because someone may enjoy some aspect of being assaulted doesn't make it okay, or not a crime. Fantasize all you want, but please don't fetishize real victims.

I’m not fetishizing real victims. My ex often described dressing provocatively to tease and essentially invite them to enjoy her. At what point does it become considered consensual when you ignore what society deems acceptable ?

 

[MindYaBitness]

I’m not fetishizing real victims. My ex often described dressing provocatively to tease and essentially invite them to enjoy her. At what point does it become considered consensual when you ignore what society deems acceptable ?

It's called grooming, my friend. I'm with the other commenter, fantasize all you want, but don't make generalization like "a lot of females enjoy being molested". I haven't met a single one, and I've known many.

What was done to her was wrong, and will color how she sees herself and her future relationships for the rest of her life. It's nothing to be celebrated.

 

[Queenzray808]

It's called grooming, my friend. I'm with the other commenter, fantasize all you want, but don't make generalization like "a lot of females enjoy being molested". I haven't net a single one, and I've known many.

What was done to her was wrong, and will color how she sees herself and her future relationships for the rest of her life. It's nothing to be celebrated.

You’re right. And I’m not necessarily fantasizing but reflecting on something that aroused me long before I had an understanding of any of the fetishes I have today. I did mention feeling conflicted and guilty for feeling aroused and angry at the same time. Maybe I should have worded it better, I’m not an author or writer like many on a lit.

 

[MindYaBitness]

You’re right. And I’m not necessarily fantasizing but reflecting on something that aroused me long before I had an understanding of any of the fetishes I have today. I did mention feeling conflicted and guilty for feeling aroused and angry at the same time. Maybe I should have worded it better, I’m not an author or writer like many on a lit.

Anything that suggests a child enjoys being raped does not have empathy for that child, or the grooming, the power dynamic, or how very physically, mentally and emotionally damaging it is. She was groomed. I know that porn has normalized this, but your talking about a child. No child asks for this.

 

[Queenzray808]

Anything that suggests a child enjoys being raped does not have empathy for that child, or the grooming, the power dynamic, or how very physically, mentally and emotionally damaging it is. She was groomed. I know that porn has normalized this, but your talking about a child. No child asks for this.

She was not a child at the time this happened to her.. do you direct the same criticism at the many women on here that describe the orgasms they get when breastfeeding their babies ?? I think you’ve missed the point.

 

[MindYaBitness]

I have a very hard time believing an adult would describe forced sex as molestation. That would be rape. We use the term molestation almost as euphemism because we find it so difficult to call child rape what it is.

No, I do not judge that, nor people who orgasm during a rape. As a survivor myself, I get it. And, as a survivor, who also understands latinoamericano culture, I know how women are used and controlled. You see it as erotic, I see it as another child groomed by family and culture.

 

[Queenzray808]

Fair enough but she saw it as erotic herself. I get it, her father and uncles betrayed her. But she described enjoying it and that got me aroused.. I feel guilt over that but aroused also.. some people are just more perverted than others..b and I use the term molestation rather than rape as intercourse never took place. Molesting, fondling, groping = molestation

 

[MindYaBitness]

There's perverted, then there's morally & ethically wrong, not to mention ILLEGAL. You enjoyed the confidences of a powerless person being hurt & used. If that's a fantasy, keep it there. Perpetuating the myth that children and women just love being groomed, mind fucked, raped and used, is dangerous as it leads others to believe that their actions are not the horrible, harmful betrayals they actually are. It's one thing to fantasize, what your describing is an entirely different kettle of fish.