Dear Sir, Your Help, Please?

[Cassidy43]

Is there a kind Dom out there who could help me with a goal? I am an interesting, honest, friendly BBW who wishes to get into better shape. It has been difficult to find the time for exercise amid the hustle and bustle of daily life as a single Mom, so I am asking for help in keeping motivated.
After contemplating my situation, I realized that I respond better when I am accountable to someone for my progress. Couple that with a submissive's desire to please and I thought that if a friendly Dom would take an interest in my situation, it could be mutually beneficial. I would offer a report on my current body/shape, level of activity and proposed exercise schedule. You would send messages checking on my progress that I would respond to honestly with whatever detail you required. There could be rewards for goals met and, um, unhappiness, in the event of disobedience. If you like, we could discuss some (on-line) way for me to show my appreciation for your time and attention.
Or something like that.
I would request an encouraging and patient Dom who could help me not only with this task, but in exploring my recently recognized submissive tendencies.
If you would like more information, or this intrigues you, please PM me.
Thank you.

 

[Cassidy43]

Thank you for the PMs, Gentlemen.
Cassidy

 

[cuff_U_now]

Be glad to help

E-mail me and I will be happy to get you started. Once started you have to follow my instructions to the letter.

cuff_u_now@yahoo.com

Is there a kind Dom out there who could help me with a goal? I am an interesting, honest, friendly BBW who wishes to get into better shape. It has been difficult to find the time for exercise amid the hustle and bustle of daily life as a single Mom, so I am asking for help in keeping motivated.
After contemplating my situation, I realized that I respond better when I am accountable to someone for my progress. Couple that with a submissive's desire to please and I thought that if a friendly Dom would take an interest in my situation, it could be mutually beneficial. I would offer a report on my current body/shape, level of activity and proposed exercise schedule. You would send messages checking on my progress that I would respond to honestly with whatever detail you required. There could be rewards for goals met and, um, unhappiness, in the event of disobedience. If you like, we could discuss some (on-line) way for me to show my appreciation for your time and attention.
Or something like that.
I would request an encouraging and patient Dom who could help me not only with this task, but in exploring my recently recognized submissive tendencies.
If you would like more information, or this intrigues you, please PM me.
Thank you.

 

[pventola]

this is a intrigueing to me i would be glad to help you out hon

 

[SweetieBBW]

what an interesting idea!!!!
Being accountable for my progress..hmmmm

Is there a kind Dom out there who could help me with a goal? I am an interesting, honest, friendly BBW who wishes to get into better shape. It has been difficult to find the time for exercise amid the hustle and bustle of daily life as a single Mom, so I am asking for help in keeping motivated.
After contemplating my situation, I realized that I respond better when I am accountable to someone for my progress. Couple that with a submissive's desire to please and I thought that if a friendly Dom would take an interest in my situation, it could be mutually beneficial. I would offer a report on my current body/shape, level of activity and proposed exercise schedule. You would send messages checking on my progress that I would respond to honestly with whatever detail you required. There could be rewards for goals met and, um, unhappiness, in the event of disobedience. If you like, we could discuss some (on-line) way for me to show my appreciation for your time and attention.
Or something like that.
I would request an encouraging and patient Dom who could help me not only with this task, but in exploring my recently recognized submissive tendencies.
If you would like more information, or this intrigues you, please PM me.
Thank you.

 

[Cassidy43]

I appreciate your replies, Guys

And I am in the process of deciding the best fit for this fitness experiment.
Cassidy

 

[Aleycat69]

And I am in the process of deciding the best fit for this fitness experiment.
Cassidy

Nothing like a few great bdsm sessions a week to get in shape, you didn't mention where you are, online don't cut it for me... keep us posted on your progress...

 

[DixieDom]

Hope it Works

Interesting idea. I wish I had read this earlier, but my computer was in the hospital. Seems like you already have lots of volunteers.

I hope this works- I wish you success, and I hope you will let us know how you get along.

 

[Cassidy43]

Still looking for help...

Dear Kind Gents,
I am still looking for help in my fitness regime, so I thought I'd add a bit more info...
1. I am looking for an unmarried Dom. That, I have found, is a hard limit for me. While that doesn't mean I'm looking for a LTR or have a hidden agenda, it's just that I have a high respect for the institution of marriage and would be uncomfortable stepping onto some other woman's turf. The D/s aspect of this experiment/experience will, I believe, include some emotional & mental intimacy and I will not be 'The Other Woman'. Even in the magical, no-accountability land of cyber.
2. A Bit About Me. I am an over-filled hourglass from the Mid-Atlantic region. Confident, friendly and honest, I can be a bit shy about my desires, although I answer questions thoughtfully and completely. While I have been posting (and replying) here, I have been active (hiking, canoeing, gardening and even that damn eliptical trainer) and hopeful. For me, it's much less about the food... in general I eat sparingly and rather well... but more about exercise becoming a healthy routine.
3. My Goal is two-fold.
A. To begin to lose weight and tone/firm my body, with a beginning target of 4 weeks or 20 pounds. (Read somewhere that it takes 4 weeks to establish a good habit or kick a bad one...)
B. To safely and slowly explore my submissive yearnings. I am 'single again' for just over a year, and my Ex & I had begun to experiment in the scene before 'things' went bad. I would hope that a Kind Dom can help me re-connect and explore that aspect of myself. Those that wrote demanding nude photos and immediate obedience are missing my particular boat. We must start as people and establish a certain level of communication and trust. This needn't be a long, drawn-out process but it is a necessary component for me.

Thank you to those who have replied, but the unmarried requirement has eliminated the most interesting canidates.

All PMs considered and answered, but Bonus Points go to those who:
1. Have previous posts so I can surf and see your interests,writing style, etc.,
2. Are within a decade or so of my age (43) and therefore might have a bit more insight to my mind & body.

Thank you all, for your help and replies.
Cassidy

 

[Cassidy43]

Bump!

 

[seaturtle50]

I think this ...

That is an interesting use of your "submissive" powers. I have sometimes had similar (fantasy in my case) thoughts.

In my fantasy it is borne from something very deep inside of me that longs to surrender myself utterly to a woman. Surrender to my cellular level. I am not actively looking for that ... or seeking it (its a fantasy ) but do think that it would be interesting to have my eating, exercise regimen, weight loss/gain under the tight scrutiny of a domme lover.

In my case ... I could never give myself over to this. But I could most certainly be compelled to do it ... by her inner power and grace. Unfortunately I have only met a woman who has so compelled me once or twice (maybe twice) in my life.

Once so compelled however, I cannot ever (in my fantasy, remember?) imagine myself putting any kind of restriction on her as to her status, thoughts, my needs, or anything else. That sort-of "un-does" the whole fantasy for me.

Good luck to you ... let us know the outcome once you "settle in" with someone.

An excellent good use of desire though. Who knows - you may have just uncovered a new weight loss empire and just don’t know it yet.

ST50

 

[Cassidy43]

'Conversation' with Sea Turtle

That is an interesting use of your "submissive" powers. "Powers" hadn't thought of it that way. More as 'available quid pro quo' in a win-win scenario.

I cannot ever imagine myself putting any kind of restriction on her as to her status, thoughts, my needs, or anything else. That sort-of "un-does" the whole fantasy for me. Understood, however if I could meet, in real-life, a person who creates the weak in the knees, what can I do for you reaction I have been lucky enough to experience at times, I would still insist on the non-married status. Being on-line means that I must rely on the written word to help compel, and therefore is only honest to ask for what I seek. As far as specifics, they're only guidelines, as previously mentioned, that may be discussed and adapted should better alternatives be offered.


Good luck to you ... let us know the outcome once you "settle in" with someone. Thank you

An excellent good use of desire though. Who knows - you may have just uncovered a new weight loss empire and just don’t know it yet. Creativity and gumption has never been my problem!

Thank you to all for the encouragement.
Cassidy

 

[Sins666]

This is by far one of the more interesting idea I have ever seen posted on lit. Have fun and good luck!

 

[Cassidy43]

I could use a good

BUMP!

 

[Cassidy43]

Thank you to all who posted or PM'd

I believe the position of Dom/Personal Trainer is now filled. My thanks to those who wrote such nice and encouraging messages.

I'll keep you up-dated on my progress.



Cassidy

 

[Cassidy43]

The Position is Once Again Open

Dear Kind Sirs,
I am again searching for help in my quest. The person I chose stopped responding after 2 days and has not contacted me in over a week.
Again, I enter my plea for an unattached, male Dom to help motivate and encourage me in this makeover.
Ideal outline:
1. I send you my daily exercise work-out and make daily posts to report compliance, at an agreed upon time.
2. You review my activity and offer encouragement, rewards or punishments based on my reports.
3. Weekly, you/we can modify the routine (reps, times, etc) to increase stamina, effectiveness, etc.
4. If you like, we could discuss some (on-line) way for me to show my appreciation for your time and attention.

All PMs answered, questions welcomed, (clothed) body-shot available upon request.

Thank you,
Cassidy

 

[ozme52]

...silly girl. Lost opportunity. Lost time.

 

[Cassidy43]

...silly girl. Lost opportunity. Lost time.

But dear Oz, you're married!



Cassidy

 

[autogate]

Well hun the first offer is still open

I'm not good at spelling or english but might be able to help

 

[Cassidy43]

4 lbs down & still looking...

Hello Friends,
I have received some nice replies to this second round of posts. Thank you to all - I am slowly answering everyone. If I haven't responded to your PM yet, please have patience - I am going away for a 10 day vacation (much needed & anticipated!) and will continue answering upon my return.
Meanwhile, I am exercising several times a week (alas, without knowing there is someone to report to, I allow the continual crisis that is Life As A Single Mom with 2 Teen-age Boys to take precedence over my routine). Still, I am down 4 lbs, with a goal of 10 by the end of Sept. and 30 by the end of the year. Already my masseuse has mentioned that my tone is getting better (and she knows nothing about my new regimen).
Thank you to All,
See you in 10 days.
Cassidy

 

[darksidegds]

Kind i may be but disobey and you will see...

Lets start by saying this, m'dear i am old enough been around a while i might be younger then you but you will learn to not ask nor question me. I was raised in a strict asian home, with presbytarian parents. I worked at a teen center once they called me Death, why? i scared them not with violent words or threats. just a look. i have a past with the navy and the california state prisons. I was in both of them.. as inlisted and as a convict. i am nice as long as you understand that if you screw up you will meet the end of my 20 hole steel toed docs. or a few sharp objects that i like to carry around for just the interesting situations. contact me.. i shall be waiting Cassidy43. hmmm two boys i feel for your pain...NOT they should of either ran you to the ground or you should be a thin parent who get picked up on by highschoolers. you are one sorry mom....
eh what a waste of my time and energy

 

[Cassidy43]

I'm back from the sand & the shore

Hello Gents,
Thank you to those who have messaged me - I have returned from my vacation and will be answering all responses soon.

Darksidegds-I don't think we would have been a good fit anyway... I am not looking for hardcore threats and pain. And if you feel that the statement I allow the continual crisis that is Life As A Single Mom with 2 Teen-age Boys to take precedence over my routine translates into I am a woman who is run into the ground and picked on by her children then you don't have children, don't remember your early teenage attitude and don't get my humor. I am sure there is someone out there who would better appreciate your style.

Cassidy

 

[jerryjwj]

Jerry Here from Sunny Key Largo

I dont very often post. The last posts I made were an attempt to fulfill a fantasy of mine. I dont know if you can still view them. If not you are welcome to ask me about them.

Your post, ... your quest, is fascinating to me.

I want to tell you some of my ideas but first about myself.

I am 39, attractive and have had a very satisfying sexual career, which I intend to continue. This is based largely on my attractiveness. I am intelligent.

As I read your posts, you often use terminology and phrases in a manner suggesting that you give careful consideration to things. That is usually indicative of intelligence. Nobody likes a smart ass. So I have learned the value of people a long time ago. I have many friends who didnt get as good a grades as I did and I enjoy them as friends just as much as anyone else. I am very personable. I am just as comfortable and at ease drinking a beer and watching the game as I am enjoying a fine Coniac smoking a Hugo Cassar. These attributes have contributed to my social and sexual successes. And I intend to continue that trend as well.

I have spent a short time working as a gigolo. I have a great deal of respect for the female form and the female sexual experience. I have learned many things about how woman feel about themselves and why. I have learned these things mostly from women. I am familiar with many kinds of domination and submissive behavior. I am also very familiar with the emotional satisfaction of a woman. I have had long term relationships with both younger and older woman. However most of my time has been single. Which I enjoy.

The most interesting of my relationships was 17 months with two woman as a 'Ménage à trois', one of whom I had been with for two years prior to that. The second date for the three of us was a long weekend in Paris. I learned much more from my time with those two than any other time in my life. Their emotional and sexual satisfaction was the key to the relationship.

I live on my yacht, near Key Largo, FL. I am not rich but comfortable.

I have as yet not found a woman who is emotionally satisfying to me. Eventually, I do want to find someone who will sail the Caribbean with me in retirement. Perhaps not too soon.

I would be glad to discuss more about me and give you a chance to evaluate me for the purposes of your quest and to check on my credibility. After all, I just made some very big statements. PM or by phone is fine. I would be glad to exchange photos.

Now for my ideas.

Your forthright attitude says your are strong and it appears you have every chance for success in this.

I belive that you are right. The method and particulars are not as important as the accountability. The accountability is was gives the strength to accomplish this.

Your sexual curiosity is strong and a part of your motivation. Sexuality is a very strong motivator. One we could use well.

I dont know very much else about you. I am looking forward to getting to know you better.

I am looking forward to seeing your picture, that is if you would like to talk to me more. I am interested in talking with you frankly about your appearance. To first evaluate what your goals are. i.e. what do you want a man to see when he looks at you?

This experience will be as helpful to me as it might be to you. It is not often that I have the opportunity to speak very frankly and honestly with a strong person. Most of the people I meet have their own fears to deal with and can not look at themselves honestly. You have at the onset made your intentions to do so clear.

I hope that I have the opportunity to share this experience with you for your benefit and mine. Knowing that I receive some value from this, you can be secure that when we discuss your appeance and goals frankly that I will do so with the respect someone with your boldness deserves.

Jerry

 

[Gonein60seconds]

1 Lost 20 lbs in 20 days

My wife and I just lost 20 lbs last month and are still losing. I am down 2 pant sizes and feel great! I know what it's like needing accountability. You need to relax, clear your mind and adopt a program that has no questions as to what you need to know. You have to follow the exact instructions of your program if you want success...that is if it's a good program. You want to lose the weight? Ask me how. I can help .


GoneIn60Seconds

 

[Cassidy43]

Congratulations to You Both!

Dear Gone...
Well done to you and your wife! I hope that you are feeling proud of your success and good about your bodies.
I have PM'd you for more insights and ideas.

Cassidy