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Pout a lot and moan about it to a Dom on another continentBetticus said:How do you deal with being alone? Do you just give up after a while and stop looking once you can't find someone that you want or that circumstances keep them far away even if they would be right for you? Get a hobby? Pout a lot?
Betticus said:I'm just depressed. It's been two years.
ima6uldv8 said:Edit.
catalina_francisco said:LOL, for me what worked was making sure I had a life complete with interests and relaxation which did not require another person so I would then be at least slightly interesting to that special someone and not appear like I needed them to give me a life....oh and part of those things to do alone was looking for a suitable person to be with. Guess it wasn't difficult though because I have always entertained myself and been happy in my own company. You'll find something or someone to amuse you.![]()
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Glad I could make you laughBetticus said:Hahahahaah.... I just got your username!hehehee... good one!
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Betticus said:I'm just depressed. It's been two years.
ima6uldv8 said:Glad I could make you laughSome have had to pm me for me to define it.
Ha ha! Ok. Maybe I should put it in my sig.myinnerslut said:do i have to pm you to know or if i ask very nicely now will you explain it?
pleeeeaaase?![]()
ima6uldv8 said:Ha ha! Ok. Maybe I should put it in my sig.
Ima (I'm a) 6ul (sexual) dv8 (deviant)
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ima6uldv8 said:Ha ha! Ok. Maybe I should put it in my sig.
Ima (I'm a) 6ul (sexual) dv8 (deviant)
Now ya know![]()
amadaun said:Honestly, I've always found this attitude kind of condescending. (Not saying you're being condescending in particular; this is pretty much the boilerplate advice given to single people, I've given it myself). The whole "find yourself a hobby and maybe you'll meet someone nice at your quilting class" thing. Because, y'know, I'd like to think I've always been an interesting person and I did have quite a functioning, self-sufficient life when I was single. I'm probably less interesting now that I'm not single. "Working on becoming more interesting so that you meet someone they might like you" doesn't seem like the healthiest way to think about life.
And then, you know, you're a perfectly happy, whole single person for the most part... except that it really sucks to know that there's no one waiting for you to get off work and come home, and while you might very well get laid, you're probably not going to wake up in the morning and have morning sex with sleep in your eyes and spoon with that familiar body and be called ridiculous pet names and generally be in on the permanent joke that is being a couple.
Oh dear, I do go on.
Sorry to hear it, Betticus. It really is pretty fucking shitty sometimes. Keep kicking through.
ammre said:There's multiple ways of looking at it... Finding a hobby to become more intresting is a bad way to look at it, but really, i've met some damn boring people out there. Watching tv is NOT a hobby. Finding a hobby so that you enjoy what you are doing instead of sitting around and drooling on yourself or crying yourself to sleep... that's awesome. Finding a group to join that's related to your hobbies and intrests is not to make you more intresting but rather to put you in a social position to meet others with like intrests.
As of april 1st i'll have been single for 3 years. I mean i've had flings or i've seen people but no real relationships. Of the 22 years and 3 months i've been alive, only 1 year and 10 months of those were spent in a relationship and 7 of those months were long distance while i was away at college.
Needless to say, I'm ok with being alone. If i wasn't i'd be long dead or i'd be settled with some scuzzball. I went to an all girls highschool. I've seem tons of girls who settle for these jerkoff's jsut becasue they are scared of being alone. They've never developed an independent personality.
As for hobbies. I love hobbies. I have so many. I do a LOT. I've actually shied away from some dating and relationship senerios becasue i thought it would get in the way of what i want to do. Sure reguler sex would be nice, but i'm anorgasmic, in the end regurlar sex will be messy, a nusance, and boring. I'd rather be learning about orgami and tesselations, or how to sew a 14th century tudor hem, or the nuances of ATS bellydance, or how to decorate a goatskin head dumbek without ruining it.
Betticus said:How do you deal with being alone? Do you just give up after a while and stop looking once you can't find someone that you want or that circumstances keep them far away even if they would be right for you? Get a hobby? Pout a lot?
amadaun said:Honestly, I've always found this attitude kind of condescending. (Not saying you're being condescending in particular; this is pretty much the boilerplate advice given to single people, I've given it myself). The whole "find yourself a hobby and maybe you'll meet someone nice at your quilting class" thing. Because, y'know, I'd like to think I've always been an interesting person and I did have quite a functioning, self-sufficient life when I was single. I'm probably less interesting now that I'm not single. "Working on becoming more interesting so that you meet someone they might like you" doesn't seem like the healthiest way to think about life.
And then, you know, you're a perfectly happy, whole single person for the most part... except that it really sucks to know that there's no one waiting for you to get off work and come home, and while you might very well get laid, you're probably not going to wake up in the morning and have morning sex with sleep in your eyes and spoon with that familiar body and be called ridiculous pet names and generally be in on the permanent joke that is being a couple.
Oh dear, I do go on.
Sorry to hear it, Betticus. It really is pretty fucking shitty sometimes. Keep kicking through.