Deal with being outed

[bisexualsmoker]

I met this guy who apeared to be rather straight, It turned out he was
recently seperated from his wife and one night after a few drinks, well,
he ended up fucking me.
We had a "discreet" relationship so to speak.
For about eight months we'd meet once or twice a week "discreetly".
This was his choice.
Then all of a sudden at work, during afternoon break, a coworker
mentioned he'd heard rumours about me and this guy, that I'm his little
sub slut and such. It's a small world.
The only one who could of started these rumours was my "discreet"
friend. It surely wasn't me.
It just slightly irks me.

 

[bronzeage]

Tell your coworker that:

a. Don't know what he is talking about.
b. you are flattered, but are in a relationship.
c. prefer taller men, but have a friend who might want to meet him.

 

[BrazenFellow]

There is a rather supportive GLBT community here mate. They may be better equipped to help you out than the primarily heterosexual How To forum crowd. The LitErotica forums can be pretty subsection-insular.

 

[fuckmeat]

A coworker? Ouch. That was always going to be quite a risk on your part. Have you not spoken to this guy yourself yet? Is there any possibility that this man might somehow think that you're ok with him talking about your relationship?

You need to consider how this story will spread. Which coworkers know and how likely is it that people in your personal life will find out?

I'd suggest squaring up to the guy and making it clear that you're not happy about the gossip. If you have a position of responsibility or authority at work, how can you work effectively with people who have heard you're bi and submissive?

He's done you a real disservice here, which makes me wonder whether you've pissed him off somehow and made him vengeful? Is that possible?

It sounds like you never intended for this to be more than a discreet, casual thing so the best course is to break it off completely and as soon as possible.

I'd love to be able to say that the gossip will die down but honestly, a story like that is just too outrageous. I don't know how to advise you on bluffing it out with you colleagues but I'm sure someone else will post with some good ideas.

 

[Karen Kraft]

I met this guy who apeared to be rather straight, It turned out he was
recently seperated from his wife and one night after a few drinks, well,
he ended up fucking me.
We had a "discreet" relationship so to speak.
For about eight months we'd meet once or twice a week "discreetly".
This was his choice.
Then all of a sudden at work, during afternoon break, a coworker
mentioned he'd heard rumours about me and this guy, that I'm his little
sub slut and such. It's a small world.
The only one who could of started these rumours was my "discreet"
friend. It surely wasn't me.
It just slightly irks me.

Truth be told, if you live in a real city on either coast (USA), nobody cares what or how you fuck, so long as it's of legal age.

 

[bisexualsmoker]

Truth be told, if you live in a real city on either coast (USA), nobody cares what or how you fuck, so long as it's of legal age.

True, but politics will continue to exsist anyway.

Sometimes I don't know why I worry.