Deal Breaker...

[that_girl82]

Outside of the typical lying/cheating/bad-in-bed stuff that no one wants to deal with, what are things that you refuse to accept in a relationship/intimate friendship?

 

[RampantLecher]

Lack of attention.

 

[charmed1]

Lack of attention.

Yep *nods* That's a biggie, right there.

 

[Missingmeds]

Lack of attention.

I have to agree with Rampant on this one. To me that lack of attention shows a complete lack of respect for me as a person, as does the lying and cheating thing.

 

[that_girl82]

Lack of attention.

That's a good point, but the opposite of this is a deal breaker for me. Being a priority to someone is important. However, the best relationships I have had were the ones where we both had things going on outside of the relationship.

 

[naded]

Outside of the typical lying/cheating/bad-in-bed stuff that no one wants to deal with, what are things that you refuse to accept in a relationship/intimate friendship?

The inability to listen as well as be heard. Alot of folks think sadly, that if they are talking and talking they are having great communication. but you have to listen as well.

If that makes sense.

 

[IndulgeYourself]

Remove the monogamy restriction, and honor the limits and enforce the standards you agree to for outside of the relationship. It's not cheating if it's out in the open between you. Also, the limitations to a somewhat difference in bed behaviors are no longer a forced acceptance. Now, don't let anyone else come between your friendship and it's fairly manageable -- so I'd have to say never take sides without knowing all the facts in any situation, assumptions are the #1 killer at this point.

 

[slim shaddy]

Deal Breaker? I'll name a few of them for me: I can't be with someone that smokes. Compromise: Must be able to compromise, see both sides of the fense and meet in the middle when a difference occurs. Ambition: can't be with someone who just wants to lay around and be lazy all day. And sexually, gotta be willing to give as much as take. Two people to be pleasured and both need to participate openly, willingly and enthusiastically. I must have some time to be alone or do my own things without my partner feeling slighted or show jealousy. Just a few, but important for me....

 

[that_girl82]

Deal Breaker? I'll name a few of them for me: I can't be with someone that smokes. Compromise: Must be able to compromise, see both sides of the fense and meet in the middle when a difference occurs. Ambition: can't be with someone who just wants to lay around and be lazy all day. And sexually, gotta be willing to give as much as take. Two people to be pleasured and both need to participate openly, willingly and enthusiastically. I must have some time to be alone or do my own things without my partner feeling slighted or show jealousy. Just a few, but important for me....

Someone that smokes and has no ambition would be on my list as well.

 

[Abner Devereaux]

Don't like smokers .

Don't like heavy drinkers.

Don't like tattoos on the breasts.

Don't like women that are not High Maintenance.