Day Pass Once A Year

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If you were in a committed relationship. I am talking about as a couple where you are not swingers and you don’t do 3-sums and etc.

Would you accept a day pass where you could do whatever you want with whoever you want? Would you take them up on it?

And it could be anything. A person you meet. Spending your entire paycheck at a strip club. Go to a brothel. Hell fuck her best-friend. Would you accept it?

I would love to say yes myself but I also be wondering if this is a test to see if I would say no.
 
The concept is interesting but I am not sure I could hold myself to once a year. Maybe once a month would work better.
 
Lol... always say yes to opportunities! Didn't they share that with you at school? 😉
 
I would love to say yes myself but I also be wondering if this is a test to see if I would say no.
You could test the waters and ask who they would use it on.

Hypotheticals like that usually don't come to anything anyway, but if they're going to start an issue out of the answer to a question they asked, I don't think they'd be someone you'd want to be in a relationship with anyway. Offering something just to start a fight upon acceptance is a good way to write trust and create tension.
 
This would be even more interesting if we (my wife & I) each got one hall pass every year to be used whenever we wanted. That way it's equal opportunity. Damn, that idea is arousing.
 
Finding that once a month partner would be the challenge.
I don't think that would be as hard to find as you'd think. The trick would be getting the permission to do it in the first place.
 
So, I don't think I'd spend the once-a-month day pass on another person. I'd spend it on just having some guilt-free alone time, like spend all day in an amusement park, eat foods I know she hates, etc.
 
In a committed relationship, I wouldn't take that much risk of passing an STD. Avoiding STDs is a big part of having a relationship. There would be specific rules and boundaries. Maybe I would let my partner choose the day partner.
 
So, I don't think I'd spend the once-a-month day pass on another person. I'd spend it on just having some guilt-free alone time, like spend all day in an amusement park, eat foods I know she hates, etc.
Wow, you can't already just do that once in a while? Can't even talk about it?
 
In a committed relationship, I wouldn't take that much risk of passing an STD.
It's a different story in a committed-but-sexless relationship. No way to pass it.

In my case, the pass is the only reason the commitment survives.
 
I think it very much depends on the stage of the relationship. ..When we were married just 10-15 years the idea of me being with another woman or my wife being with another man would have made me very anxious. ...I would fear that one of us would come away from our experiences with others feeling something like, "Wow!. that was more exciting than sex ever is with my spouse. I wonder if I made a mistake, if maybe I should be w/ someone else who makes me feel like that all the time?" Even though I doubt we'd split up over the fling, I would have worried it would have brought unhealthy doubts into our relationship that would linger for years..

But now, after we've been married >25 years, have raised awesome, kind, brilliant kids, and have been through unbelievable turmoil with our extended families, built a home together, traveled, planned a retirement together, looking forward to grandkids, etc. etc... The idea that one of us would come away from a hookup having doubts about who we married seems absolutely fucking ridiculous. At this point in our marriage I TOTALLY support the idea of our having sex with others. To be clear, I'm talking only about casual sex - not about dating other people, going away overnight, romantic dinners, etc.. ..No, that would bother me. ..But going to a hotel for a few hours to fuck another man (or me fuck another woman).. Totally okay with it. ..And it could be once/month and I'd still be fine with it. These days, I'm no more threatened by the idea than her getting a massage once a month. I love her and want her to wring every bit of pleasure she can from her life. Ditto for me.
 
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But now, after we've been married >25 years, have raised awesome, kind, brilliant kids, and have been through unbelievable turmoil with our extended families, built a home together, traveled, planned a retirement together, looking forward to grandkids, etc. etc... The idea that one of us would come away from a hookup having doubts about who we married seems absolutely fucking ridiculous. At this point in our marriage I TOTALLY support the idea of our having sex with others. To be clear, I'm talking only about casual sex - not about dating other people, going away overnight, romantic dinners, etc.. ..No, that would bother me. ..But going to a hotel for a few hours to fuck another man (or me fuck another woman).. Totally okay with it. ..And it could be once/month and I'd still be fine with it. These days, I'm no more threatened by the idea than her getting a massage once a month. I love her and want her to wring every bit of pleasure she can from her life. Ditto for me.
If either the husband or wife even thinks about or says they want to go on romantic dates or away for a weekend with someone else, IMO, the very suggestion would send a up red flag and spell the beginning of a problem.

My wife likes to flirt with other men and at parties gets VERY sexually suggestive to the point of embarrassing some men. She'll even point out other men to me, like a handsome waiter, saying "Oh, yeah. I'd do him." And she even points out sexy young women to me, making sure I notice them. Then she'll follow that with "Dream on. You know who you're going home with."

So, it's that 'we're always going home together,' which won't stop ... until there's a problem already brewing.

As for a day pass (I call it a "hall pass" in some of my stories), I think my wife wouldn't mind giving me one, and I certainly wouldn't mind giving her one ... as long as it's assured it's a one-time thing. Otherwise, there's that beginning of the problem.
 
To the OP.... How long have you been in your relationship? ..I think that's relevant b/c peoples' attitudes toward permitting sex outside the relationship may change w/ time. ..I know it did in my case. During our first 15 years - "no way." ..But now, "why not!?"
 
If my wife offered, I would have to decline. I know she’d only be offering out of some form of guilt as we’re in a hotwife relationship. I know she would be crushed if I got sexual with another woman.
 
If my wife offered, I would have to decline. I know she’d only be offering out of some form of guilt as we’re in a hotwife relationship. I know she would be crushed if I got sexual with another woman.

Just take it and and do what I said I would do. Go on a guilt-free day trip to wherever and do whatever. The one-day rule said you can do it with whoever... doesn't say you have to do it with anyone. Spend 16 hours just learning guitar or something.
 
I’d love a day pass , we could both have one and to me the rules would be we would never ask what the other did or with who.
 
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