Dating Sites: How Should Men Message Women?

[Comshaw]

I dont want someone who beats around my bush. I'd like a fella who says oi woman. Hear me roar. Get in behind and you'll do. And ride off into the sunset on his mighty metallic steed.

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Let's go!!!






Comshaw

 

[LJ_Reloaded]

It doesn't mean that the woman "had to search for men" because she had none... It might mean that the woman got tired of the bullshit and simply started to look for someone that she actually liked.

Which is what I was trying to explain.

 

[LJ_Reloaded]

Wading through the swamp water that is an inbox on a dating site never appealed to me. I rather liked making my own selections in men, not waiting around, hoping a decent one would pop up. But I suppose it comes down to available time and confidence.

Confidence is never a problem for women. A woman with low confidence is not penalized for it. Only men are penalized for low confidence.

 

[Pashenry]

For people with low standards, online dating is a cornucopia, I would think.

Keep thinking. I prefer doing. For me it's more fun

One of the gals that I dated had a profile containing no pictures. I responded interjecting about the things she wrote in her profile. She replied almost embarrassed because she knew me from another social circle and I had a profile picture. She told me who she was and by any standard ...... We dated a few times. So that being said I tried a few more times . Dating sites one can create parameters. That coupled with reading profiles a system of checks and balance can be set. Parameters create standards and if one has intuition then guess what? A second date.

 

[Pashenry]

Tick Tock Tick Tock

When I have shopped online, I usually specify that I won't be writing...you have to write me.

I've felt good about the results, so maybe one answer for the OP is : don't bother writing them at all.

Why would anyone wait when women like to be courted? Nothing assures results more than chivalry. I still open the door for my better half after 5 years. Buy flowers for valentines day and ect. In return we fuck 20 something porn stars and I'm the director.

For men proactive yeilds results. Recative yeilds results just much less of them.

 

[Pashenry]

Using the internet to meet people.

[Some thoughts about how men should message women on dating sites. What do you think? [EDITED: The original intent of this post was/is to hear from women, since my perspective is that of a heterosexual male. And because my female friends have expressed to me what they've put up with. Thus, I've written the below paragraph as an off-the-cuff "advice" paragraph. Hopefully you'll see I added a kind of persona to it for fun.] Agree, disagree, think this is kinda "duh," have an addendum? Women, what are your pet peeves? Even better, write your own advice paragraph!]

When you find someone you think you dig, pause and consider the message. Don't click a "like" and move on. Never say a simple line or just a hi--you're not at a party walking by. Reference the profile, the words themselves. If you can't find the words to say what you want, struggle with that a bit; that's where the good stuff is. Refrain from commenting on physical attributes too early; there will be time for that in person, and surely if you become intimate. Be slower and more thoughtful. Together we can save a lot of time and energy, and make the battle/play/dance between the genders a little less game-y. This is called Separating Oneself from the Chaff of General Dating Site Douchebaggery Even When One Isn't a So-Called Douche.

- Tao of Sev

This is bang on. And it works from my personal experience. Another suggestion for men who want to relate to the opposite sex. I had even more sucess another way. A site called Meetup.com. Its a social networking site for different interests. I had more desired results this way than on dating sites. Go to the meeting and have a face to face conversation it starts there, and does not always end there.

 

[LJ_Reloaded]

Why would anyone wait when women like to be courted? Nothing assures results more than chivalry.

And that, folks, is the insurmountable benefit of being a woman.

 

[JohnnySavage]

The top six tards trying to figure out how to get a woman to pay attention to them

LJ_Reloaded 10
RoryN 7
Pashenry 7
Lancecastor 5
NOIRTRASH 5
DudeA 5


Now THAT's funny!

 

[richard_daily]

Confidence is never a problem for women. A woman with low confidence is not penalized for it. Only men are penalized for low confidence.

Sucks to be you...

short, angry, poor, AND lacking in confidence.

 

[Pashenry]

Bump in Road / Mt Everest?

And that, folks, is the insurmountable benefit of being a woman.

Open a door a cup of coffee and conversation? Insurmountable? Really?

 

[Pashenry]

Women? Woman!

The top six tards trying to figure out how to get a woman to pay attention to them

LJ_Reloaded 10
RoryN 7
Pashenry 7
Lancecastor 5
NOIRTRASH 5
DudeA 5


Now THAT's funny!

Only one woman. The one I want to be with. The others I have no need to figure out. I can figure that out after one date.

 

[LJ_Reloaded]

Open a door a cup of coffee and conversation? Insurmountable? Really?

Being courted is the privilege of being a woman. It is the man who puts out all the effort and takes all the risks, not her.

The role of a woman is to sit and judge all the supplicants.

This is what must change.

 

[Pashenry]

The power and the glory.

Being courted is the privilege of being a woman. It is the man who puts out all the effort and takes all the risks, not her.

The role of a woman is to sit and judge all the supplicants.

This is what must change.

It must NEVER change.

The power of a man and its responsibility supercides the privilage. The man is the true judge. I chose to be with the woman in question. For risk I am rewarded with power of choice. It is an effortless characteristic no more difficult than breathing. Not only in theory but in action.

 

[LJ_Reloaded]

It must NEVER change.

The power of a man and its responsibility supercides the privilage. The man is the true judge. I chose to be with the woman in question. For risk I am rewarded with power of choice. It is an effortless characteristic no more difficult than breathing. Not only in theory but in action.

Speak for yourself. Change is already happening. That's why so many of you wannabe he-men, and so many women, are complaining about the number of men who won't initiate.

That horse is on its way out of the barn. It may not be out yet but it's gonna take an act of GOD to stop that horse.

 

[Graf_Severin]

Always know that a lot is two words. Two. Words.

Hahaha. This reminds me of Allie Brosh's "alot" creature: http://hyperboleandahalf.blogspot.com/2010/04/alot-is-better-than-you-at-everything.html

 

[Pashenry]

Speak for yourself. Change is already happening. That's why so many of you wannabe he-men, and so many women, are complaining about the number of men who won't initiate.

That horse is on its way out of the barn. It may not be out yet but it's gonna take an act of GOD to stop that horse.

Buying a cup of coffee and openng a door for a woman makes one a he man? This thread offered suggestions on how to broach the opposite sex when attempting to connect with them. The information was BANG ON. Expressing an interest in another human being by noticing their characteristics versus self promotion always leads to positive results. Otherwise the man is a victim of self promotion. The woman is subjected to a pleased to meet me! Let's talk a bout me type of man.

2 examples. Past and present . I'm 54 and still open the car door for my better half after 5 years. I didn't stop when I got my dick wet. My Daughter is 14 her first boy friend bought her roses.

I have nothing to complain about and my daughter does not settle.

Controlling livestock is never a problem. My better half takes them back and forth from the barn every day.

Women like to be briddled. All you need soft hands and a light bit.