Dating for Widows and Widowers

[Phcret]

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[Bert Notorius]

Wondering when it's acceptable for Widows and Widowers to start dating and building relationships again. The loneliness is starting to really depress me.

1. 3 months

2. 6 months

3. 9 months

4. 12 months

5. Never

Dad was getting hit on at Mom's funeral. I hear funerals bring out the horns of available women...

what was the question?

 

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[koalabear]

I did not experience the horns of available women at my wife's funeral.

Just trying to figure out when I can respectfully get back out there in the dating world. Mostly concerned with insulting the sister-in-laws. I know it's probably none of their business, but they are as important to me as my own sister.

If you want to keep them happy stick with the palm sisters.

 

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[islandman]

The 'Never' option seems rather extreme to me.

But perhaps you're into self-denial.

 

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[blunt_trauma]

i'd say a year. not because of what others think though.
people make fucked up choices when they're raw.
it's unfair on yourself and on potential dates.

 

[islandman]

Can't say I can offer any advice on the matter, but I do find it honourable that you'd put your in-laws ahead of your own desires.

That being said, I would expect your 'sisters' to want you to be happy....whenever that time comes.

 

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[renard_ruse]

Wondering when it's acceptable for Widows and Widowers to start dating and building relationships again. The loneliness is starting to really depress me.

1. 3 months

2. 6 months

3. 9 months

4. 12 months

5. Never

You could always practice Suttee and not have to worry about it.

 

[CaudaLinea]

Agreed on waiting for six months to a year - not because of any sort of deadline for when it's "appropriate," but because you need time to grieve your loss. Nothing wrong with dating right away, but you stated a few good reasons why you should wait a bit and you also seem sad and lonely, which is perfectly normal after losing a partner. You might consider surrounding yourself with her sisters if it would make you feel better and maybe that will ease your transition.

Condolences on the loss of your wife.

 

[blunt_trauma]

Thanks for the input.

A year was my original thought too. But I'm at the nine month mark and getting tired of the empty house and quiet.

desperation is a terrible motivation. the quiet? she's left a space that you're craving to fill. you'll end up making a bad choice because you're scared of being alone. you'd be better off buying a dog.

better yet, fill your life and live your life. you're a more attractive prospect if the life you're offering to share is a rich and fulfilling one.

 

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[Colonel Hogan]

Thanks for the input.

A year was my original thought too. But I'm at the nine month mark and getting tired of the empty house and quiet.

I can't believe the in-laws are keeping score like you're keeping score. The point is to get out in the real world and do that which you enjoy doing -- hobbies, church work, volunteering, whatever.

If in the course of doing that you happen to meet someone you would like to take out to dinner (or more), ask them out.

The time is now.

 

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[tactful]

When ever you feel like it, it's your life, screw the rest of 'em.

 

[KRCummings]

I don't know because I haven't killed him yet. Check back in a couple months.

 

[CaudaLinea]

I don't know because I haven't killed him yet. Check back in a couple months.

Have you decided how you're going to do it?

 

[semen4her]

Get a hooker.

Bust a nut.

Re-think strategy.

 

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[semen4her]

Thanks, but no. Like I mentioned before, this has nothing to do with sex.

Sure it does.

As long as you didn't kill your wife and you treated her well, your sister- in laws will eventually accept your new choice of pussy...I mean, companionship.

If I were you I would talk to them.

If they think you are a douche for wanting to date so soon, then try to get them into a threesome. Couldn't hurt to try.

 

[bronzeage]

Well, that issue is of little concern to me. I'm talking more about having companionship, love, someone to share my life with again.

The secret is in the casserole. Each woman has to bring you a casserole. You'll know who to choose.

 

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