Dating Etiquette... Need quick advice

[Jade]

I was just curious... when you are dating... not on an exclusive basis.. but just casually dating... is it improper to talk about the other dates you have had?

I am going on a date with this one guy and he asked about who else I was dating. I only have one other potential person to date at the moment and so I mentioned him... but it felt decidedly akward ... wrong somehow. AT the same time though, I certainly didn't want to lie. Anyway, when I was done (this was a phone conversation last night) he said something along the lines of "well, he won't hold a candle to me; all women figure out that I am the best catch eventually."

So was he being a cocky/conceited asshole, or was that insecurity?
I don't even know what to wear tonight... *sigh*... dating can really suck sometimes...

 

[Endlessly]

Jade, every time you post something I think about how much you and I should talk. *chuckling* My NMBSO and I are dealing with the same thing right now, since technicality of all technicalities, we're 'just friends' at the moment.

The things we're discussing:
We're the closest of friends, and close friends should be able to discuss things.
We're also insanely jealous people who are just friends right now for the sole reason of bettering our romantic relationship.

Does honesty excuse cruelty? What is cruelty? Is there such a thing as an open and honest relationship when there are things you can't discuss?

 

[Expertise]

I was just curious... when you are dating... not on an exclusive basis.. but just casually dating... is it improper to talk about the other dates you have had?

I am going on a date with this one guy and he asked about who else I was dating. I only have one other potential person to date at the moment and so I mentioned him... but it felt decidedly akward ... wrong somehow. AT the same time though, I certainly didn't want to lie. Anyway, when I was done (this was a phone conversation last night) he said something along the lines of "well, he won't hold a candle to me; all women figure out that I am the best catch eventually."

So was he being a cocky/conceited asshole, or was that insecurity?
I don't even know what to wear tonight... *sigh*... dating can really suck sometimes...

Usually a BAD idea but in this guys case.... let him have it.

Why do I picture someone who would say that living in their parents basement, driving a Tempo (very slowly) and showing up at your door in a leisure suit or sansa belt slacks with white loafers a Mr T starter kit arond their neck and a two for one coupon for the local Denny's in their hand.

Geeze Jade if this is this tools attitude don't worry about nuking him.

 

[Ophelia]

HEY! I drive a Tempo!

 

[Expertise]

Sorry Ophelia.

I just needed a loser cruiser of some sort..... I mean ... Its ok for women to drive Tempos.... I mean ... I think i'll stop digging before this hole gets any deeper.

*slinks off*

 

[TN_Vixen]

I was just curious... when you are dating... not on an exclusive basis.. but just casually dating... is it improper to talk about the other dates you have had?

Not inappropriate but not really necessary either. I think something along the lines of ... "I'm seeing other people" should be adequate.

So was he being a cocky/conceited asshole, or was that insecurity?
I don't even know what to wear tonight... *sigh*... dating can really suck sometimes...

In my opinion he was being insecure b/c if you are confident in yourself you know that the person will realize that you are an incredibly wonderful catch without having to say so.

I hate dating, Jade so I understand. I can't even remember the last time I went on an actual date. Has to be at least 2 yrs ago. Relax and just have fun!

 

[Ophelia]

You are in bigger trouble than you think Expertise dear! You have mail!