Dating a couple...

[Soulfiregirl]

Have you, or would you consider it if you haven't? I'm considering it more and more. I know dating a couple or two couples dating each other is more common in the swinging community and the BDSM community but I don't hear of it much in the gay/lesbian community. (I hear about "open marriages" but that's something a little different)

I'm thinking of considering it more and more myself. I'm considering it because I'm bisexual. (because while straight guys think that trait is cool at first, it becomes threatening to them eventually, and lesbian women want nothing to do with bi girls because we can't "get off the fence")

I was just wondering what couple dating experiences anyone has had. Did it work? Did jealously eventually develope? (this thread is also for our lovely gay and lesbian folks, not just the nutty bisexuals like me.....hee)

 

[chrixxx]

I have had sex with two different couples. I am male. It is a great experiance. I like it best when I can treat both sexes equally, when the male has no hangups and I can kiss and cuddle equally with the guy and girl.

 

[MsLynda]

Have you, or would you consider it if you haven't? I'm considering it more and more. I know dating a couple or two couples dating each other is more common in the swinging community and the BDSM community but I don't hear of it much in the gay/lesbian community. (I hear about "open marriages" but that's something a little different)

I'm thinking of considering it more and more myself. I'm considering it because I'm bisexual. (because while straight guys think that trait is cool at first, it becomes threatening to them eventually, and lesbian women want nothing to do with bi girls because we can't "get off the fence")

I was just wondering what couple dating experiences anyone has had. Did it work? Did jealously eventually develope? (this thread is also for our lovely gay and lesbian folks, not just the nutty bisexuals like me.....hee)

ok.. two answers to this question....

I was living with my first (serious relationship) girlfriend, and one night while we were out to dinner, the waitress asked us if we were a couple.. when I said yes, she started asking us questions about our relationship, and admitted that she was quite curious about loving another woman. My girlfriend suggested that we get together at another time to talk further, and that we could answer any other questions she had then.

Plans were made to meet the next weekend at our place for talk and margaritas... needles to say.. we ended up teaching her alot.. and she came over many more times.. and came many times too. we "dated" her for about a year, till she met and fell in love with one of our numerous female friends. I am not with my girlfrined any more.. but that waitress is still living with her first real lover. Its been 25 years that they have been together.

Also...

I have a Friend who was dating an older woman, he was 19 and she was 39 when they met. They had been together about a year, when they invited one of her friends to join them in the bed. They "dated" her for about a year. They took her to dinner, to movies, all kinds of places.. they treated their time with her as a date... and then they would take her home and both of them would make love to her. It only ended when he and his lover parted ways.. as she decided that she wanted to move out of CA and he didnt at the time. She never moved, but he ran into the "date" about five years later.. they dated for a bit and got married.. They now live here in AZ and are "dating" a younger woman that they met recently.

So I guess it does happen, and it might work for some.

MsLynda

 

[mansome]

When I get back from my vacation, I have a "date" with a married couple I met on Swinglifestyle.com .... We plan on meeting for drinks and some entertainment.. with a potential for sexual fun if we click.... It's a no strings attached type of thing....

I'd love a committed relationship with a single woman in the long run.. but for right now, I'll just take having some fun when I have the time from my busy work schedule.....

 

[anne27]

Have you, or would you consider it if you haven't? I'm considering it more and more. I know dating a couple or two couples dating each other is more common in the swinging community and the BDSM community but I don't hear of it much in the gay/lesbian community. (I hear about "open marriages" but that's something a little different)

I'm thinking of considering it more and more myself. I'm considering it because I'm bisexual. (because while straight guys think that trait is cool at first, it becomes threatening to them eventually, and lesbian women want nothing to do with bi girls because we can't "get off the fence")

I was just wondering what couple dating experiences anyone has had. Did it work? Did jealously eventually develope? (this thread is also for our lovely gay and lesbian folks, not just the nutty bisexuals like me.....hee)

My partner and I are both bi and we 'play' (I hate the term 'swing'). I've never really considered it dating, though. We've never really had anything long term, however.

Interesting question.
Sorry I can't contribute something more meaningful.

 

[Never]

No, I wouldn't. I think anyone who'd start a romantic relationship with a couple is nuts; it takes too much energy to date one person.

On the other hand, hanging out and occasionally fucking doesn't sound too bad. Just boring.

 

[kbate]

I see no possibility of this ever happening with me. I was never interested in couples even when I was still playing "bisexual."

 

[socalsurfer]

Not sure if this counts but I am currently dating a gay couple. Both guys are great! I have had one on one fun along with having a threesome with them. No problems yet.

 

[capricious_chic]

My first thought is that if you are to embark into this type of relationship it is very important to find a couple that has a solid and loving foundation in their relationship.

Many times couples will try adding a third as a way to "save" their marriage - kind of like the idea that having a child will do the same.

 

[DrtyBoyGtsClean]

friends

I know a couple, who are both good friends. I am more friends with the husband, and one time he was telling me about how him and his wife, had had threesomes with women. He off handedly mentioned something about looking for someone else. I have hung out with them a couple of times, and I have had the feeling that they are interested. The only thing is is that I care for them alot, and I dont know if I could handle that kind of act with two other peopel. Even if I didnt know them that well. It has got me thinking though and I think it would be hot. I am always off and on about the whole thing.

 

[Netzach]

I periodically beat tease and titillate a married pair of lesbians.

 

[greek goddess]

It's worked for us

We've tried it a few times and it's great, but my primary fetish is sharing my guy with another babe. Playing with her is secondary to that - though I do love getting warm and slippery with her while we share my guy's cock. After my guy has come, I've made love with her while he recovers, and that's worked really well.

I don't know how it would work if my thing was having another woman there just for me.

Good luck - and let me know if you'd like to join us for a try!

Jane

 

[queen_of_cups]

I'd date a couple with intent to form a polyfidelitous quad with my husband, or a polyfi triad that included me, but wouldn't consider dating a couple casually only. Poly is a lot of work, but I want more than just an open marriage and so does my husband, otherwise it's just not worth it in the long run for us.

 

[Lake4321]

Curious....

When dating a couple, is it important that those that share gender have generally the same level of physical attractiveness to avoid someone being played as the "favorite"? Or is that a non-issue? Just curious...

 

[gr8mvr]

dating a couple gets complicated.with so few single females and so many couples looking for them the fem usually spends more time looking for the right couple and less time dating.single guys usually want to play 1 time and head out for the next couple.in 6 years my wife and i have had 3somes with guys several times and when she finds one she wants to play with again he seems to disappear however usually if she wanted to play alone he could be available.

 

[LadyFunkenstein]

My first thought is that if you are to embark into this type of relationship it is very important to find a couple that has a solid and loving foundation in their relationship.

Many times couples will try adding a third as a way to "save" their marriage - kind of like the idea that having a child will do the same.

Good point - I have been the third in this situation, and it wasn't pretty.

I was young, about 22, and was too naive to see what was happening. I met the husband in a bar, who then took me out a date the next day. At the end of the date, he took me home to meet his wife. I was shocked yet intrigued.

About a month later, I learned the wife wanted a divorce and thought she might be a lesbian. So the husband brought me home as a "gift" - he wanted no part of this unconventional relationship, but played along as he was trying to save his marriage.

Long story short: the wife naturally left him anyway, and the husband decided that I had somehow "turned her" gay and despised me.

For some reason, I've never learned how to come up smelling like roses at the end of these sticky situations. I'd never do something like this again.

 

[SophiaY]

When I was in my mid-twenties I had a short affair with a couple. They were looking more for a way to end their LBD (lesbian bed death) than having a polyamorous relationship.

Intense sex
Tense emotions.

Never again.

 

[NorthToWisc]

No Time Limit

A woman friend told me the funniest story about couples getting together.
Her husband had hounded her for years to try swapping with another couple. Finally, reluctantly, she gave in and they agreed to meet a couple at a bar. Her husband was cheap and had rented one motel room. The deal was, her husband would go upstairs first with the other guy's wife and when they were finished the woman who told me this story would take the other guy up and do it with him.
Well, her husband and the other wife came back down from the room in about 30 minutes and so she took this stranger up to the room for her turn.
She told me she got so into it that she lost track of time, had the time of her life and when they came back down to the bar they were informed by their very huffy partners that they had been gone for over 3 hours!
That was the end of her husband's talk of swapping and, after a short while, the end of their marriage.

 

[cpicass0]

A woman friend told me the funniest story about couples getting together.
Her husband had hounded her for years to try swapping with another couple. Finally, reluctantly, she gave in and they agreed to meet a couple at a bar. Her husband was cheap and had rented one motel room. The deal was, her husband would go upstairs first with the other guy's wife and when they were finished the woman who told me this story would take the other guy up and do it with him.
Well, her husband and the other wife came back down from the room in about 30 minutes and so she took this stranger up to the room for her turn.
She told me she got so into it that she lost track of time, had the time of her life and when they came back down to the bar they were informed by their very huffy partners that they had been gone for over 3 hours!
That was the end of her husband's talk of swapping and, after a short while, the end of their marriage.

That is really funny. I needed a good chuckle!

 

[Marquis]

Have you, or would you consider it if you haven't? I'm considering it more and more. I know dating a couple or two couples dating each other is more common in the swinging community and the BDSM community but I don't hear of it much in the gay/lesbian community. (I hear about "open marriages" but that's something a little different)

I'm thinking of considering it more and more myself. I'm considering it because I'm bisexual. (because while straight guys think that trait is cool at first, it becomes threatening to them eventually, and lesbian women want nothing to do with bi girls because we can't "get off the fence")

I was just wondering what couple dating experiences anyone has had. Did it work? Did jealously eventually develope? (this thread is also for our lovely gay and lesbian folks, not just the nutty bisexuals like me.....hee)

I was in a poly relationship for a while, me and two females.

There were problems, but nothing insurmountable, although I broke up with one of the girls before some of the inevitable bigger problems could occur.

All in all, I thought it was great and hope to do it again some day.

 

[dragon_gurl]

Couples

I have never had good expierences in this dept, either. But I am also very pertcular about males who i let "be with me"

the couple i dated cme off as very cool to begin with but were actaully very manipulative, with both me, and eachother. So that created ALOT of awkardness. Plus the way we had met was strange as well. I often felt like i didn't have a dog in that race, since i have to feel like i can progress emotionally with someone in order to countinue enjoying sex. they are together, and had 2 children. There was no room to grow. So after a couple times i didn't go " visit" anymore. the whole situation was just really weird.

however i am sure that it could bea great expierence with the right people.

 

[mansome]

I have never had good expierences in this dept, either. But I am also very pertcular about males who i let "be with me"

the couple i dated cme off as very cool to begin with but were actaully very manipulative, with both me, and eachother. So that created ALOT of awkardness. Plus the way we had met was strange as well. I often felt like i didn't have a dog in that race, since i have to feel like i can progress emotionally with someone in order to countinue enjoying sex. they are together, and had 2 children. There was no room to grow. So after a couple times i didn't go " visit" anymore. the whole situation was just really weird.

however i am sure that it could bea great expierence with the right people.

well no matter what you have to be comfortable with who you are with... just because the thought of having fun and playing sexually with a couple seems to be so exciting and desirable.. you have to be attracted to them and feel compatible with who they are as people....

I have a date with a couple within the next couple weeks.. we have discussed having sex together but it's definitely not a certainty if we don't click....

 

[Burokrat]

Being single, I dated a bi-curious couple (M & F, both bi-curious) for a year. Woman wanted me to be sexually intimate with her AND also to watch me with her husband, but it never happened; although we had threesomes.

It ended when that lady wanted to leave her hubby for me. He didn’t like the idea. Me neither.