Damned frustrating Straight Boys.

[Cigan]

Ok, to warn everyone this is a rant thread. I'm going to bitch, and I'm sorry, but you've been warned, so you don't have to read if you don't want to.

Why do the straight boys have to be so damned sexy. I was hanging out with my friends tonight and my friend Kevin who is very straight, but very platonically physical with everyone was very cold and decided since I have an excess of body heat (which I do) it would be a good idea to warm himself up by having me hold his hands and then he ended up in something slightly more stiff and less comfortable than cuddling, but still close so he could warm up. As soon as he wasn't cold anymore this stopped, but damn it all it felt really good, and I haven't had a cuddle boi in a long time, and I'm all frustrated now. I have this really nasty habit of falling for straight guys, all the time. I haven't had a crush on a guy who actually turned out to be gay in years. I have excellent dar. I always figure out their straight very easily, and I can spot a gay guy from like 1000 paces, but they never get my blood pumping. Why this unending hell WHY???


Ok there, I ranted. I needed that. If you don't want to deal with my bitching and you got this far, I am both sorry and you should have heeded the warning at the start of the message. Thank you for tolerating my venting. And good night.

 

[PoliteSuccubus]

I feel your pain, there are several gay/bi guys I'd love to love..and do as a friend, but nothing more. It breaks your heart sometimes, doesn't it, when you find someone your so totally compatable with...BUT!

*sigh*

 

[Etoile]

My gaydar is terrible, and I end up flirting with everybody. Sigh! Most of the straight girls are nice about it, but some of them are kind of squeamish.

 

[TulaneCowboy]

I've always attracted the straight guys because I'm "easy to talk to". If I had a penny for every time I've heard that! I fell hard for a straight friend in high school. He was a cuddler too. We're still friends and 20 years later we can both laugh about my crush. Sure as hell wasn't funny then though. I feel for you, man. I do.

 

[sdedalus]

My gaydar is terrible, and I end up flirting with everybody. Sigh! Most of the straight girls are nice about it, but some of them are kind of squeamish.

You can flirt with my girlfriend (simonedb27), she'd enjoy it. Don't know if she's comfortable enough to flirt back yet.

 

[sdedalus]

So Anyway, as I was saying I told one of my gay friends I was bisexual and he was telling me that there are so many gay guys (at least that he knows) that would love to get with a straight guy (or straight acting, b/c I consider myself Bi). Is this true, do a lot of gay guys have this fascination with turning or just being with a straight guy that is curious?

 

[sachiaiko]

Why do the straight boys have to be so damned sexy. I was hanging out with my friends tonight and my friend Kevin who is very straight, but very platonically physical with everyone was very cold and decided since I have an excess of body heat (which I do) it would be a good idea to warm himself up by having me hold his hands and then he ended up in something slightly more stiff and less comfortable than cuddling, but still close so he could warm up. As soon as he wasn't cold anymore this stopped, but damn it all it felt really good, and I haven't had a cuddle boi in a long time, and I'm all frustrated now. I have this really nasty habit of falling for straight guys, all the time. I haven't had a crush on a guy who actually turned out to be gay in years. I have excellent dar. I always figure out their straight very easily, and I can spot a gay guy from like 1000 paces, but they never get my blood pumping. Why this unending hell WHY???

:SNUGGS!: Yea... its sad, but love, it happens to us all. Straight, bi, gay/lesbian. We all get crushes that can never be fulfilled. As sad and depressing as it is. Heh. But dont feel bad, you'll pick a good one soon! :hugs and chuckles:

Nikki

 

[Cigan]

So Anyway, as I was saying I told one of my gay friends I was bisexual and he was telling me that there are so many gay guys (at least that he knows) that would love to get with a straight guy (or straight acting, b/c I consider myself Bi). Is this true, do a lot of gay guys have this fascination with turning or just being with a straight guy that is curious?

I don't know. I don't actually have a straight guy obsession. I dated a guy who was "bi" because of some sexual abuse stuff when he was younger and he basically was in the relationship to see if he was indeed bi or if it was just reaction to earlier stuff. He ended up being straight, and I was really really into him. Hurt like hell. I have absolutely no interest in repeating that experience. I just have this nasty habit of the guys I end up being attracted to end up being straight. I think it's mostly because I am into some pretty damned straight activities. Pro Wrestling (I know it's terrible, but it's also funny and dorky) role playing games, and for some ungodly reason I can't find any gay guys at my art college. I am an art student at a major liberal arts college and I can't meet any other gay guys in my school. They're all in the theater department and music department. Everyone else I know who goes to other art schools is neck deep in gay guys but not here. It's just weird.

 

[sdedalus]

I don't know. I don't actually have a straight guy obsession. I dated a guy who was "bi" because of some sexual abuse stuff when he was younger and he basically was in the relationship to see if he was indeed bi or if it was just reaction to earlier stuff. He ended up being straight, and I was really really into him. Hurt like hell. I have absolutely no interest in repeating that experience. I just have this nasty habit of the guys I end up being attracted to end up being straight. I think it's mostly because I am into some pretty damned straight activities. Pro Wrestling (I know it's terrible, but it's also funny and dorky) role playing games, and for some ungodly reason I can't find any gay guys at my art college. I am an art student at a major liberal arts college and I can't meet any other gay guys in my school. They're all in the theater department and music department. Everyone else I know who goes to other art schools is neck deep in gay guys but not here. It's just weird.

Hey Pro-Wrestling kicks ass, when the story is good, hasn't been for a while so I am on a hiatus myself, will probably still order Wrestlemania though. Can't find gay guys? What state are you in?

 

[Cigan]

Hiatus my friend. Come out of hiatus this Sunday. Burried alive with Taker and Vince. Probably the last buried alive match ever. But you are right the story has been a bit. . . . lacking recently. (I'm sorry for posting this here, but it had to be done).

I live in south central Indiana.

 

[Madame Manga]

Pro wrestling is straight? Since when? I enjoy it BECAUSE it has such massive gay subtext--and sometimes it's not even sub. I am of the firm conviction that Triple H knows exactly what he's doing when he speaks so eloquently about other men's asses.

MM

 

[glamorilla]

i've pretty much spent the past year *only* sleeping with "straight" guys.

what's the difficulty?

 

[Cigan]

i've pretty much spent the past year *only* sleeping with "straight" guys.

what's the difficulty?

Because I have no interest in sleeping with "straight boys" so they can indulge whatever random temporary sexual impulse they have at that moment. I want a relationship. Sex is great stress relief and that's wonderful and all, but what I really miss is cuddling up on the couch to watch a movie. I want to make an elaborate dinner to be eated by candlelight, and all that excessively drippingly romantic stuff. Most of all though I want to get past the point where I need to be romantic. What I'd really like is to be in a relationship that's stable enough to possibly reach the point where it's comfortable insted of passionate and romantic. One night stands just don't get my attention. It's a personality thing.

 

[Rhys]

I dunno. I am bi. I tend to like relationships. That is the way that I am. I can't just fuck somebody. Sex is very much mental and physical for me. But, I have discovered that a lot of so called bi guys are really straight boys posing as bi so they can be equal oppourtunity users. So, I understand what you are saying Cigan. Its not easy.

 

[glamorilla]

Because I have no interest in sleeping with "straight boys" so they can indulge whatever random temporary sexual impulse they have at that moment. I want a relationship. Sex is great stress relief and that's wonderful and all, but what I really miss is cuddling up on the couch to watch a movie. I want to make an elaborate dinner to be eated by candlelight, and all that excessively drippingly romantic stuff. Most of all though I want to get past the point where I need to be romantic. What I'd really like is to be in a relationship that's stable enough to possibly reach the point where it's comfortable insted of passionate and romantic. One night stands just don't get my attention. It's a personality thing.

well then you're going to have to pursue a relationship with a gay man. and tone it down a little too~you dont want to tell your date you want something that goes past romance on the first or second date.

men get skittish.

all men.

 

[Cigan]

I understand the skittish issue. I do not so much want my next relationship to be something that is going to go that far, but I would like to be in the type of relationship that is stable enough to go that far if after all the dust settles whoever I end up with and I are indeed compatible. I'm more just looking for comfort and stability in general. For now I would be content to meet a gay guy in the spheres of activity I already participate in. Namely metalsmithing, and uh. Oh right art students don't have lives. I guess art would pretty much cover the whole gamit then. Oh well maybe I'll have more luck next semester in the printmaking department.

 

[Mary Hall]

I am of the firm conviction that Triple H knows exactly what he's doing when he speaks so eloquently about other men's asses.

Because he`s got his head firmly planted up Vince`s ass i guess

 

[TulaneCowboy]

I'm more just looking for comfort and stability in general.

If you keep saying things like this, you're going to shatter the entire gay "fuck anyone" stereotype!

Relationships are hard to find. I've had 3 "comfortable and stable" gay relationships in 20 years. Yet, fuck buddies abound and you need a Vulcan mind meld to figure out which is which. Keep looking though. The hunt can be damned amusing if you let it.

 

[Rhys]

The hunt can be damned amusing if you let it.

Or a royal pain in the ass (no pun intended)

 

[PoliteSuccubus]

Metal working? Have you tried your local SCA ?

 

[Cigan]

Metal working? Have you tried your local SCA ?

HeHe SCA. I have been to a few SCA events and have a few friends who are avid SCA members. They are the same friends I watch wrestling with usually. Actually they are all at Crystal Ball this weekend. I have not had the time to keep up with the local SCA schedule. The larger issue is money. SCA ends up being pretty expensive if you actually invest yourself into it, and I have been blowing close to $100 dollars per project in metal this semester for class. Even if I worked every spare hour I had every weekend and had no free time (which would preclude SCA in and of itself) I could not afford metal for my projects, money for food and even entrance and feast fees for SCA on a regular basis. Though I have been looking into starting to attend their armoring workshops, which are free.

 

[Rhys]

chain mail is kinky

 

[TulaneCowboy]

Originally posted by TulaneCowboy
The hunt can be damned amusing if you let it.

Originally posted by Rhys
Or a royal pain in the ass (no pun intended)

*snort* No pun intended? My ass!

And you're right. I spent my early 30s frustrated as hell. 2 of my 3 steady relationships were in my early and mid-20s, then nothing until this past spring.

It comes in spurts. .....no pun intended. Really!

 

[TulaneCowboy]

...and I have been blowing close to $100 dollars per project in metal this semester for class.

Blow torches, face masks, hot sweaty guys..... mmmm yeah.

Where's this class again?

 

[Rhys]

*snort* No pun intended? My ass!

And you're right. I spent my early 30s frustrated as hell. 2 of my 3 steady relationships were in my early and mid-20s, then nothing until this past spring.

It comes in spurts. .....no pun intended. Really!

*snort*

*wiggles ass for TC*