Damn, it felt good.

[SweetCherry]

I live in this eternal small town. There's less than 600 people in my town so I'm rather conservative as far as who I let into my life as far as letting them have knowledge of my sexual preferences.

Well, today I was talking to a friend of mine, someone I've known for about 10 years, off and on. She was complaining about her husband and I was relating stories about how it was when my husband amnd I were together and how I could never go back to him. I commented on how my ex couldn't give me what I needed out of life.

Later on, we were still discussing the subject of men. and how they were jerks. I came back with my comment of "We just need to run away to the island of girlie lovin' where there's no men" and laughed. The normal joke I make when men are being slammed. She said "Sure. Run away and become lesbians." I looked at her and smiled and said "That wouldn't be too hard."

She stopped, looked at me and then asked me, "Are you?"

By this time, I was already committed, so I said, "I'm at least bi. The rest of it, I'm not so sure about yet."

I then proceded to spend the next 3 hours talking to her about women, sexuality, my girl, and life in general. I told her things that I've not admitted to anyone else in my life who I know from real life meetings. She was amazingly supportive and even offered to watch my children if I want to go out.

Oh, and she even knows about my girl. Wants to meet her too. It's very freeing to be able to have someone in my town that I can talk to these things about.

 

[april-wine]

Should I be worried.........

 

[SweetCherry]

Heh. No need to be worried, baby. She did like the tattoo idea tho.

 

[MzChrista]

Thats very cool Cherry.

 

[WhisperHaven]

Glad to hear that, Cherry. It's so nice to be able to have at least one person to talk to who you are pretty sure won't judge you harshly for being who you are.

 

[SweetCherry]

Thanks, guys. It IS nice. It's even nicer to have it be revealed to me she won't be judging me cuz she's feeling much the same way about me. I also have blackmail protection. I know she'll never get pissed and spread it all over, because I know she'd rather it wasn't common knowledge about her either.



In the end, I'm just glad to have someone who lives in the same small town as I do to talk to and who feels much like I do. I don't feel quite as much of alone in my community as I did before.

 

[Bandit58]

I came out to my friend a few months ago, and all she said was "So?" It has made absolutely no difference to the way we act around each other, and it's wonderful to have someone in R/L to talk to after hiding for so many years.....all up there are 4 people who know around here, and I'm sleeping with one of them He is also bi and I am the only one who knows......

 

[Etoile]

Awesome, both SweetCherry and Bandit58! I've never lived in a small town, but I've sure heard the tales.

 

[MzChrista]

Awesome, both SweetCherry and Bandit58! I've never lived in a small town, but I've sure heard the tales.

Im with you. I cant even imagine living in a small town like that.

 

[SweetCherry]

Im with you. I cant even imagine living in a small town like that.

It kinda sucks. Everyone knows who you're doing before you do them. A friend of my ex's came over one nite, pretty late, and there was a rumor going around that I was fucking him. It so bites.

 

[Bandit58]

It kinda sucks. Everyone knows who you're doing before you do them. A friend of my ex's came over one nite, pretty late, and there was a rumor going around that I was fucking him. It so bites.

Been there had that.....all the prissy married women seem like I am a threat now I am no longer married, and the men seem to flirt more esp the married ones.....I went out last weekend and was in a group of them and felt like I didn't belong anymore, I went and talked to some of my FRIENDS instead, the non judgmental ones I am like a square peg in a round hole sometimes.....I stand out like a sore thumb really......

Bi
Separated (not divorced until next year unfortunately)
Tattoos (got the first one a year ago)
Like heavy metal music (I'm almost 45)

But I wouldn't change ME for anything now, because I am who I should have been YEARS ago

And if they're talking about you, it means you're having MORE FUN than they are

 

[lizthewizz2000]

Congrats!

Way to go - I'm still working on being more open with others - my close friends know but I'm still straight as far as a lot of my family, co-workers and acquaintances know.

Liz